I can't stop thinking negative thoughts?
Of course you can stop thinking negative thoughts! Or at least creating thoughts that are negative. After all, YOU are the one who is making up your thoughts. If you don't like them, change them. But of course you DO like them, otherwise you would not create them in the first place. You get something out of them, some result or pay-off. If you did not, you would not think them. If you want to control your thoughts, use the "4-S Method"... 1. STOP SIGN -- When you sense a thought you don't want in your head, in your imagination hold up a huge red stop sign, perhaps being held by a stern-faced crossing guard! 2. SHOUT IT OUT! -- Shout at the thought, scream at it, curse at it, yell at it (all in your mind, of course!) until you can sense that it is leaving your mind. (The nice thing about the mind is that it cannot contain more than a single conscious thought at a time.) Treat it like an intruder in your mind, someone you DO NOT want in there! Get angry at it! 3. SUBSTITUTE -- Have handy a sentence or thought to put in the place of the unwanted thought. Make it something strong, something positive, something you really want to believe! (Some people carry such positive or self-encouraging thoughts with them, on 3 x 5 cards.) 4. SUSTAIN -- Keep at it. You created the unwanted thought for a reason (that is, to get something out of it). So as you kick the unwanted thought out the front door, it will turn around and try to sneak in a window or down the chimney! DON'T LET IT! Figure out what you get out of the thought, why you want that, what good it does you, and then create a more positive way to get what you want, so you rob the negative, unwanted thought of its power. Keep repeating the four S's until you find yourself to be in charge of the thought you don't want. As you become more comfortable with this, you'll find you are more in control of your whole mind, and also of your feelings. By this time next week you will feel more in control of your unwelcome feelings and thoughts. If not...that's an indication that you get something out of having such thoughts and feelings, and that you do not want to give them up yet...
I cant stop thinking when i try to sleep???
Wow, you're getting a lot of feed-back on this one. I'll try and make mine short. I've had this problem since I can remember. Since yours just started recently, my advice may not be the most accurate, but try it. I used to just lay awake forever, but then I started to listen to music as I fall asleep. For me, it doesn't take like classical music or anything special, just music that I like. I just put on some music, and usually I wake up the next morning and can't even remember ever listening to the 7th or 8th song on whatever CD I was playing. But don't sing along to it, just listen. And don't have the volume low, like a background music. Have as loud as if you and your best friend got into a huge fight and you were in your room playin some music (best analogy I have). You're not gonna have it loud, are you? No, you're gonna have it loud enough to hear it, but quiet enough so you can just think about it. So much for the short part, huh? Oh well, I hope this helps.
Need advice about weird thoughts that i cant keep thinking about?
Hi- I found your question because I was actually trying to find an answer to the same thing. Since I was young- even younger than you are now- I often had strange thoughts that I couldn't understand. Sometimes they were gay thoughts too. (I am not gay either, but I do want to say that it is not wrong, in my opinion, if someone is gay.) So, I have seen a counselor off and on since I hit my 20's and I have been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I don't know if that might be the case with you- but there are a lot of different symptoms that come with it- and uncontrollable thoughts is one of them. Is it possible for you to start therapy? You don't have to tell anyone you are seeing a therapist if you feel embarrassed. If you can't start therapy- maybe look up information on OCD online- or try to go to a free site where professionals answer questions. Another thing that might help is start a journal. You can write anything and everything that comes to your mind and no one has to read it but you. It might help relieve some of the pressure you feel inside. And no, you do not have to tell your girlfriend everything. They are thoughts you are having, and that's it. You're not going out cheating or anything that is actually harmful to her. If she doesn't know you are thinking certain things, it is not going to hurt her. That's just my opinion, and I hope it helps in some way!
I'm 15 and i can't stop thinking about sex?
It's normal to be thinking of these things, but you should also try to elevate your thoughts to 'what will it take for me to have sex with someone?' You've thought about the sex part, which is fine--but before you ACT think about the other parts that go with the sex. Is it going to be a husband, a long time boyfriend, some guy on the street. Start to work on a standard for you to reach in your head. What is going to be your standard, and how are you going to wait to find someone who meets that standard. How much emotional attachment, financial support, mental reservations, love, committment, etc are you going to require before you have sex. Take it to the next level mentally before even thinking of doing something physically...
I can't get the thought of death out of my head!!?
For six years I've been having terrifying thoughts about death. Slowly, I'm beginning to make peace with the idea of leaving this earth, but I still can't stop thinking about it. To keep myself from regressing and going back to the days when I'd lose sleep because of panic attacks and start shaking violently at the mere thought of dying, I've been busying myself with religion. Now, I'm constantly thinking about death and eternity. Almost every second of the day. My own death, the death of my loved ones... The thought simply doesn't leave. I'm terrified of the thought of myself or any of my loved ones being punished forever. I'm petrified by the idea of angering the higher power. Whether it's spending my time fearing the unknown, trying to cope with the loss of a family member, or trying to understand what sets the ones who are taken to what we call heaven apart from the ones that are punished, the thought of the afterlife doesn't leave my mind. What can I do to permanently (or at least for a long period of time) take my mind of this horrible thought? What are your thoughts on eternity? Personally, I'm terrified of something that never ends. Whether it's our daily work, our hobbies, our holidays, we all have a deadline on everything. The fact that time doesn't, the fact that it goes on forever, is too much for me to bear. I can't ask for professional help and I can't talk to anyone either. So far, I've been completely dependent on the internet's advice.
My girlfriend cheated on me and I can't stop thinking about it.?
You have a decision to make. You can either forgive or not forgive her. Forgiving her doesn't mean she gets away with it. Forgiving her means you make a conscience effort to forgive her and it doesn't make you angry and bitter so that your heart is closed for someone who wouldn't cheat on you. I have relatives who have cheated with other siblings spouses. One stayed married and many years later, their marriage is so so strong. The other divorced, remarried someone else, divorced, lived with a guy, etc. Many years later, she is so bitter and angry and unforgiving and she is slowly alienating everyone from her life. That anger is taking her life away. I pray that you can forgive your girlfriend. You don't have to stay with her, but know that she made a mistake and she knew what she was doing. Her asking your forgiveness is one thing, you accepting it is another. It is a hard choice. She broke your trust you had in her, and that hurts. Even if she doesn't ask you to forgive her, you really need to so you can be free from her. Ask God to help you with letting it go and not letting it weigh you down. If you decide you want to work it out with her, I would recommend counseling and time.