What do you do when you catch someone in a lie?
Depends on the lie and who's telling it. Sometimes I just let it go, and sometimes I listen to all the fantastic details and then spring proof of the lie on the person. Then I watch their funny spluttering reaction. But I've noticed that the person still gets mad at me because I had the audacity to figure it out or not believe them in the first place. My husband has chewed me out for not believing his lies, because (as he says), I should believe him no matter what. No, I don't take that any more.
Why do narcissists accuse you of lying when you're telling them the truth about themselves?
Look at that! A question I can actually answer well. Truly incredible, I actually had this happen with a friend of mine recently.Anyway, it was about how I was always hopeful, and rejected reality although it was something I needed to acknowledge. He wanted me to understand that some things I wanted, may not actually happen. I immediately felt as if he was attacking me. He wanted me to feel bad about myself. My perception of myself is that I’m this super awesome dude who people seem to want to bring down. This was him trying to bring me down. He wanted me to accept that I’m not capable of everything. This was what infuriated me. I firmly believed that I was in fact capable of it, and he envied me. That was why he was being rude. It made perfect sense in my mind, so I called him out on lying and being a jerk for no reason. I hadn’t done anything to deserve that. He came up to me and initiated the conversation and he told me that I wasn’t capable of everything and to acknowledge that I can’t do everything. Therefore, the initial move was his. I was just defending myself.See how that works? It’s because he initiated the attack first. Its kind of like this, “You told me that I wasn’t capable of everything. That’s basically the same as telling me that I can’t do anything properly.” This kickstarts the subconscious and brings back memories of my parents telling me the same things. It’s that sequence of actions that leads to me calling you out on lying.
What is the best revenge to get back at someone that played with your feelings?
After being hurt and ignored by this guy I thought I couldn't live without I realized I had to do something about my damned self since I could do nothing about him. The last time he failed to show up for our date I didn't call and whine, I didn't get drunk and tell everyone what he did. I did nothing. At all. He called me later that night but I didn't pick up. He texted me and I didn't reply. The next day he started early calling and leaving messages and it was very hard but I didn't respond so he comes over and knocks on my door and I opened the door with a smile. I said "hey what's up?" He went into his shpeel about him being worried about me. I said "why are you worried about me?" he started to explain but I stopped him. "Look" I said "no big deal, I'm actually kinda busy right now and don't have time but you can call me later" He wanted to know what I was doing that was more important than listening to him lie to me again so I told him I'm watching tv and I really have to go. Goodbye. He was all cocked and primed to come over and forcefeed me an excuse for screwing me over but I wasn't listening to any more of his crap I was sick and tired of him and instead of punching him in his mouth ( I call his mouth a lie hole) I smiled and said goodbye. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do but it was rewarding to know he had told me his last lie. Being toyed with is infuriating but being indifferent to someone who's toying with your emotions feels so good. I must stress, no arguing about it, no whining, no animosity just indifference. Its not easy but it kills them inside to take their toy away from them while you appear unphased. Good luck you're in a situation that emotions can get out of control.
My husband denied he was cheating when I saw text messages with my own eyes?
I'd tell him exactly what he said & ask him why he's not a big enuf person to at least admit the truth to you. You saw it with your own eyes, he can't lie about it & IF he does, I'd ask him WHY is he lying to you. Ask him if he's honestly that low of a person to have to lie about what you saw let alone deny it. You could also ask if he has to disrespect you that much to be such a complete liar about EVERYTHING! Put it all back on him but good...best to you, honey...:)
Why do some black women say that natural hair is hard to manage when?
I think that it is up to that certain person, dealing with their own head of hair. If you say your natural hair is easier, sure. If other women say getting a relaxer/perm/etc is easier, sure! There is no proven fact that natural hair is easier to maintain. There is no proven fact that relaxed/permed/etc hair is easier to maintain. It's based on what you've dealt with, your OPINIONS, and your preference. IMO, I think both ways of hair is beautiful. However, I think saying people "spread lies" is an overgeneralization. Not all black women have the same type of matural hair; some might be thicker, some might be coarser. All I'm saying is that it's based on your opinions on which is easier.
Why won't narcissists admit to a lie even after they are caught?
Why won't narcissists admit to a lie even after they are caught?In my ex-husband’s case, because he has zero conscience and to him you are less than a mote of dust, he lies like a rug. Sociopaths are simple creatures in some ways. Not hard to understand at all.In my current husband’s case, because he’s deeply covert and literally delusional, it’s not easy to figure out what’s going on. I’ve watched him very closely during and following rages, when he’s said viciously cruel things to me, and while he’s saying it, he totally believes it. His contemptuous fury at me spews out of him like hot lava.After, he is, I swear, in a bizarre delusional state, similar to the aftermath of a complex-partial seizure. It takes time to fully awaken to reality and in that time he’s been known to claim he was “only joking.”Another minute and he denies ever having said what he just said. That fits the definition of a lie 100% for us, but he seems to believe his denial completely.After that, the mental paroxysm of the rage ebbs away and the lie becomes part of his vast Revised History. His narcissistic arrogance takes over and he struts out of the room with a satisfied smirk on his face.He can’t admit to a lie, because it never happened. And you are obviously deranged for daring to accuse him of lying—how dare you?! Lather, rinse, repeat. And the nightmare goes on.
My mother tried to choke me, and was arrested. I need advice, please?
last night, my mother and I got into a typical verbal argument. I can't lie, I was being a bit disrespectful and rude, as was she. She was calling me every name in the book, telling me I'm worthless, I'm a POS, yada yada yada. She's always been quite verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive. I've grown to believe what she's told me. I don't want to be one of those people who blames their mother for their problems, but she was abusive to my sisters and I as long as I can remember. Anyhow, one thing led to another, and she lunged at me, grabbing my throat, trying to choke me. I pushed her away, and she grabbed me by the hair and dragged me into the kitchen, ordered me to get on my knees, infuriated, I pushed her hard. She began to kick me, and called the police saying it was ME being crazy and abusive, and no one would be able to prove she did it. The police took my statement, took pictures of my neck which is scratched beyond belief, and they arrested her. I love her more than anything, she's my momma. I miss her, I dont want her in trouble. I begged them not to arrest her, and she shouted that I was a liar. I didn't mean for this to happen, but damn it, I didn't lie! I told the truth. Now I'm alone at home, wondering what the hell I do after this. I have so many mixed emotions. I love her, I'd die for her, but she's wrong here. What do I do? Any advice? I'm so lost..