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When Someone Seems To Focus On You During Their Speech/lecture/etc

Why do we feel sleepy during lectures?

John Medina, in his book Brain Rules, introduces data that forms the following graph:The data shows that student attention level takes a dive, approximately 10 minutes into a lesson.  This is a natural occurrence (and I believe the reason YouTube videos were initially limited to <9 minutes), but can be dealt with by a good instructor.  The problem is most instructors (particularly at the university level) know next to nothing about the learning process and instructional theory.  A good instructor will introduce variation into a lesson every 10 minutes to regain the students' attention (as depicted in the below graph).This variation can be accomplished in many ways - from inserting a student activity to asking questions or otherwise soliciting involvement from the students to changing the delivery style or mechanism.The problem is that so many instructors see instructing as a one-way communication.  If a student is not contributing to the communication, they lose focus and many literally go to sleep.There are other triggers for sleeping during lessons, such as eating a large meal immediately before the lesson, poor ventilation in the classroom, and tired students.

How can i stay focused while reading?

Active learning is always important, in reading and listening to lectures. This is a questioning frame of mind. Look for inferences. Try to predict where the train of thought is going, Take notes, in your notebook or better yet in the book margins. You can make the job easier by dividing it into separate tasks. Begin by previewing the chapter or article by looking at everything that tells you quickly what it's about: headings, sub-headings, first sentences of paragraphs, captions of illustrations, etc. Read through it at a fairly quick rate and underline or highlight so that you get the gist of what the text means. Underline so that these words alone make sense when you read a second time. Don't underline too little or too much. Pencil has two advantages: quickly writing margin notes and underlining that can be erased.

People will tell you to get rid of distractions like music, but the research indicates that music is OK for some people. But some distractions are definitely bad. For example, don't position your desk to face a sidewalk. Some people don't mind clutter, others do.

My brain seems to not be functioning properly?

This is weird and it's gotten me a little frightened.

My brain feels like it's not working like it used to, I'm feeling more and more dumb every day. My thoughts aren't being processed as quickly and it just feels like I'm alot slower. I also make very dumb mistakes constantly. I have plenty of examples but it would turn this into a wall of text so I'll spare you.

My memory seems like it's getting worse, my social skills have fallen off the map. I can't pronounce some words or misread a ton of words when I'm reading a book and it upsets me that I'm not as smart as I once was

Also I've developed a small speech impediment where I think to much and just stumble over my words or combine words without realizing it and sound like a jackass.



And idk, I just feel completely stupid. I'm only 21 so it's not like I'm some aging old man




I've been pretty depressed lately, Idk if that could be a factor but I figured I'd throw that in there

How can we completely concentrate while studying?

It's not only about getting distracted during our study-time. Mind wandering is constant. People mind wander 47% of the time. And that means we live the present moment for only half our lives.Intrusive thoughts are almost always created by anxiety and/or negative emotional experiences. They hinder your concentration, encourage you to procrastinate , distract you from the task in hand and inevitably increase your anxiety which leads to an increase in intrusive thoughts.Trying to block out unwanted thoughts is actually counterproductive. Close your eyes right now and set a timer. Your aim is to spend a minute without thinking of a white bear.How did you get on? How many seconds did you last before the white bear appeared in your thoughts. And why do we think of a white bear when we have expressly told ourselves not to?Trying to suppress thoughts lead to obsession. So, don't block out unwanted thoughts or ear worms. Instead, congratulate yourself for recognising that you are experiencing them and realising that your concentration is wandering.YOU’re a HOMO SAPIEN.As human beings, we have this unique ability to have our minds stray. This ability of having our minds focussed on something other than the present is amazing - it helps us to learn, plan and reason.While most people think of mind-wandering as a lifting escape from daily drudgery, research shows that this may not be the case. In fact, mind-wandering appears to be correlated with unhappiness. Mind-wandering might make us feel less content, but it could also have a functional purpose. A study suggests that mind-wandering might be a sign of a high capacity working memory — in other words, the ability to think about multiple things at once.Here are a few solutions to it :1)Try to postpone the thought.Write a list of the things that are bothering you and then set it aside to be dealt with at an assigned point later in the day. This means that you don't have to hold that thought in your memory and you know you will deal wiht them later.2) Wherever possible , avoid multitasking, which can reduce productivity by approximately 40% by some researchers,as well as increasing stress and anxiety.3) Exposure:Allow yourself to think about the unwanted thought, so that it is less likely to pop up unwantedly at other times. This is painful, but it might work.4)Meditation and mindfulness strengthen mental control and help to control unwanted thoughts.Everyone in this world gets distracted. It's natural. So , stay cool.

Why cant I stop laughing whenever I do public speaking?

I haven't seen it to the level you are describing but it seems like it's your way of dealing with nerves or stress. Do you often laugh or snicker in stressful situations (arguments, thinking about a test you don't know if you can pass, getting pulled over for speeding).

At any rate the best way to beat nervousness and therefore your laughter is to structure your talk very simply and to know the material cold.

Firs let's talk easy structure of your speech:

I would not try to memorize a speech word for word because it's too easy to forget a spot and then you will be lost. I would also not write it down and read it because it will sound like someone "reading" a speech and there is nothing more boring than that and you might laugh even more to make up for this perceived audience boredom.

I would write out an outline such as this:
Introduction

Point 1
A
B

Point 2
A
B
etc.

Summary & conclusion
A
B

By doing this your speech will stay on track - you won't loose your place and you can speak more naturally. Public speaking is just a one way conversation so the more you make it sound like you are talking to a person rather than lecturing a group the better it will work.

Practice the entire speech at least 10 times total over a period of 3 or 4 days so you will know the material cold.

Now about your voice. The idea is to overpower your compulsion to laugh. Practice will help a lot but control of your pitch and timbre should really knock most of it out.

You will need to experiment with vocal variety (different volumes and tones). Most people who sound nervous usually are speaking too softly. If you want to sound confident then you must talk as someone who is already confident. When you think of something that really excites you do you talk quietly about it to your friends or excitedly and with a bit of animation?

Add that volume and pretend (yes I said pretend) to be excited and confident - combined with practice and you will be able to get through it and sound better than most of your classmates.

No joke! (groan)

Can't focus unless I'm multitasking. Does this count as ADD?

Whenever I'm studying, I can't focus unless I'm also doing something else. Whether it be eating, watching TV, writing, etc. Whenever I'm in a lecture, I don't have a problem paying attention because I'm also taking notes at the same time, or reading something. I pretty much can't focus or pay attention unless I'm multitasking (also paying attention or focusing on something else at the same time). I usually feel like when I'm reading or working on something, I could also be doing something else at the same time. This applies to almost everything. I used to go rollerblading a lot and when I did, I would also be playing around with my phone. When I watch TV, I usually bring out my laptop and start writing or reading.

Would this count as ADD, or is it something else?