When do you stop giving Christmas presents to nieces and nephews?
They are 25, 28 and 30. One is newly married. I never get a thank you-not even for the wedding gift. I had to call to see if she received it! My brother-in-law is very wealthy (we aren't). The gifts we have received (purchased I'm sure by his wife) are nothing short of pathetic and useless. The other issue is that my brother-in-law is paying half of my daughter's college bills. She doesn't know because he doesn't want other family members asking for money too (we didn't ask, he offered). Does this change things?
At what age did your family stop giving you Christmas presents?
The year I turned eighteen, my parents gave me a box of celestial seasonings tea, I was allergic to, and had been for ten years. The next year my nephew was born, and Christmas was all about their first grandchild. My brother and sister got gifts because they were still living at home. But was told they had spent too much on the baby, they said would take my husband and I out to dinner in a month or so. But my father diagnosed with cancer in February, and they never took us out. My father died before the next Christmas and I didn’t get a Christmas or birthday gift for the next six years until my daughter was born and my mother remarried. The next three or four years, my daughter got birthday and Christmas gifts and my husband and I got a gift card at Christmas. They moved out of state to be closer to his kids and grandkids, and we haven’t gotten gifts much since. My daughter has gotten maybe five gifts total, (Christmas and birthday’s combined), from her grandparents in a dozen years. My husband and I haven’t even gotten that. It wouldn’t bother me so much if I didn’t know my sister, my nephew, and my step-siblings and their kids, have gotten gifts from them every birthday and every Christmas
How to stop buying christmas presents for nieces and nephews?
My husband and I do not have children however we have 16 nieces and nephews. Needless to say holidays and birthdays get very expensive for us. At Christmas, we buy presents for the children, and our parents, however our brothers and sisters do not exchange presents. Eventhough, we do not have our own children, because our combined families are so large, we are the only ones in our families that have so many children to buy for. We have decided that we are not buying for the nieces and nephews this Christmas. I am having a hard time coming to terms with this decision, but it has been made. Any suggestions on how to approach this with their parents?
At what age do I stop being Christmas presents for my kids?
You should all be focusing on the 5 yr. old having a great Christmas. The 14 yr. old should get the next largest amount of gifts. The other kids should understand that Christmas is for the younger ones. You should get them each something they 'need.' They are old enough to find a way to buy their 'wants.' You should start a giving tradition with your 5 yr. old. Maybe the 14 y.o. too. The other ones seem stuck in their ways. Take your youngest kids to the store to buy a gift for a child in need. My mum started this with me and my 5 sisters when we were real young. We felt like little Santa helpers & honestly still do. We are 19 - 28 now and still carry on the tradition. Your older kids should be happy to spend time with you & start giving back to your generosity. Have a nice holiday!
At what age do/did you stop getting Christmas presents?
Does your family have a certain age when they will stop getting gifts for people? During this time of year everyone is always asking what I want for Christmas and what Im getting for my family members. Its seems weird to me that people would ask me what I want for xmas since im 22 yrs old. That's too old to be getting presents, isn't it? In my family, we have a weaning system where at 15 yrs old you get five presents, at 16 you get four, and so on. So by the time you are twenty, you don't receive gifts. Does anyone else do this with their family? It seems to be a good system because by the time my siblings and I became/become teens Christmas shouldn't just be about gifts anymore. Does anyone else use a similar system for gift giving? Thanks and Happy Holidays!
At what point do you stop giving your 21 y o godchild christmas presents?
My husband's god child is at a distance. There is no communication with him. My husband communicates with the boys dad maybe 6 times per year but we live in a different state so there is no closeness anymore. My husband was close to him 21 years ago when he had his son and he asked my husband to be the god father. My husband moved away when the child was 5 years old. So over the recent years, my husband has been sending him $50 and a Xmas card out of obligation. My husband and I had a talk about this recently and he wanted to know when is it an appropriate time to stop gifting a god child that does not even tell my husband thank you. Thats right, not once did the boy pick up the phone and thank my husband. I told my husband that the time is now to stop gifting him because the boy is now becoming a man. Am I right or wrong?