How do you reciprocate attraction?
I'm a woman. Say I "think" or "suspect" a guy is attracted to me. Guess what? I freak out and talk myself out of it. My question is, what am I supposed to do with that? Be nice and make friends? Do you guys get offended by girls trying to befriend you because you think they might only be interested in trying to date you? Argh. I guess I don't even know what I'm asking I'm just so awkward around men I don't know what to do.
Is attraction mutual or do we imagine reciprocity?
It’s possible to be attracted to anyone for any reason and attraction isn’t always mutual. Attraction can be influenced if we think the other person likes us, but that’s only if something is already there.If someone is just flat out not attracted to someone then they never will be (barring being the only two humans left alive, maybe)….This is probably one of the best answers.If you’re new to the idea of the LoA (or just unsure of how to really apply it to your own life) I’d check this out: The Complete Law of Attraction Guide: How Anyone Can Manifest Their Dream Life (From a Sceptics…
Do people attracted to someone pretend that they aren't attracted to them?
Yes they do, Or they just drop hints waiting for the other person to reciprocate. Or they will resist starting a relationship if they think the other person isn't really accepted by their social/peer group. Sometimes both parties pretend this and the relationship never gets started. I thought of this- He could speak a dozen languages but he really couldn't speak his mind! Many a person who has hidden their attraction then carries the flame of what they believe to be "Unrequited Love" even though they never took the steps to find out if it may've been mutual.
Why is the energy I’m giving out not being reciprocated back to me, I thought that’s how it works?
Thank you for the A2A.First of all, I want to know your intention in life. is it to make a lot of money and be wealthy and famous or is it to help people through your passion or the job that you do?If your answer is the first intention, you will never be reciprocated the way you want it to be.If your answer is the latter and that your purpose in life is to help people through your passion or the work that you do, the energy that you give out will come back to you 100th fold.It’s the Law of Attraction. If your intention is for the good of everyone and not just for yourself, positive energy will come back to you and you will feel good and happy about it.You won’t get what you want if you will step on someone else’s shoe but if you have been patient enough and have work hard to help someone to achieve as well, then you will be rewarded for it.What matters in life is the positive energy that you are giving out to make a difference in someone else’s life.With this in mind, I want you to reflect on the things that you are doing in your life. Are you contented and happy?Ask yourself these questions? What is my purpose in life? What can I do to make this world a better place?Remember, whatever good you give out will come back to you in the end. Just wait and be patient.Hope this helps you in any way.
Heart-pounding attraction vs. Same direction in life?
I have a predicament: I am a 26 year old man, have a nice life, family, and job. I have been content alone, but am ready to get serious in a relationship. There are currently two women in my life that I care about a lot and they reciprocate these feelings. Girl #1: A few years older, has a couple of kids who I adore. I find her insanely attractive, when I am around her my heart pounds, I can't think straight, and we can talk about anything. She is very open sexually, and though we have never had sex, I know it would be fiery and amazing. She is on my mind all the time, but she's not my ideal as far as morals/personality/etc. It is a magnetic energy that I have never felt before. Girl #2: A few years younger, pretty but plain. I like everything about her and where she is going in life, and recently told her as much. She expressed similar feelings and we are starting to talk about becoming exclusive. She has her life together, is very sweet and secure in herself, and is the type of woman I can see myself growing old with. Comes from a great family, and though I don't feel quite as free to say certain things around her, we can talk for hours with ease and have a real connection. But while there are feelings, it is nowhere near on the level of what I feel for girl #1. So here's the question: Do I go for the passionate, heart-pounding, dynamite attraction or the girl who I genuinely like as a person and believe is headed in the same direction as me? My heart tells me girl #2, but when I am alone all I can think about is girl #1. HELP!! I am so confused! Signed, Indecisive in Alaska
If you feel sexual tension is it most likely being reciprocated? I don't think you'd feel it one-sidely, right?
It is possible to have strong feelings for someone without them feeling the same it all, but if you feel some "tension" in the air between the 2 of you then it is likely mutual. PS Here kitty, kitty.
I'm attracted to emotional pain and being hurt?
I sort of agree with Janso's answer however, I don't think you learned the association between the negative feelings and love/affection is due to feeling bad and being comforted by your parents. I would explore the idea of whether the type of love and affection/attion you recieved as a child from your parents was in the form of negativity/rejection. This would make more sense if you are seeking rejection as well as attention. For example, did your parents ever make you feel ashamed or reject for your behaviors/feelings you had, or when you got in trouble? In some families, this type of attention is the only attention the child recieves and therefore associates yelling/abuse/rejection etc as affection because that is all they have ever known. Just something to explore.
Why do people fall for people who don't reciprocate those feelings back? Also, why does it hurt so much when your feelings aren't reciprocated?
In my opinion, the answer to the first part is karma and to the second part is ego.Buddha's second noble truth is, "When you want anything, you suffer." Notice the anything. And he also said, "When you don't want anything, you don't suffer."Learning this sometimes takes a lifetime, but the quicker you learn, the better it will be.Unfortunately, your problem happens to most people. But it is just meant to be. We learn and grow when we are given problems to solve.At 19, I fell in love. Unfortunately, she had a 27 y/o boyfriend, with a new car. I was a second year college student with nothing. But if she had picked me, I would never have become a doctor, or had the children I have, or the life I have lived.I think the world is an illusion anyway, and we create our own world. So it is perfect. And while it does not seem perfect when you can't be with the one you love, it will help you grow and be a better person.There is a story I have always liked about the Tibetan Yogi Milarepa, who lived in the 11th century. He said the world was an illusion. When his son died, one of his critics said to him, "Is the death of your son also an illusion?" Milarepa replied, "Yes, it is an illusion. But it is a very BIG illusion."Just think of your problem as growing pains, shared by many, and in time, this too shall pass.
Hey gentlemen, do you guys reciprocate a girl's smiles if you do NOT find her attractive?
Do you smile and make eye contact with girls who you are NOT attracted to? Is smiling and eye contact on a guy's part a good indication to a girl that he finds her attractive?