What does it mean to dream about becoming friends with someone again?
Me this girl were best friends and were together all the time. In February we stopped being friends. :(. It was for a stupid reason. Last night I had a dream we became friends again.. It was the last day of school and we went in a library for some reason.
My best friend is becoming really close with someone else?
Ignore them for awhile. She obviously doesn't want to hang out with you. So find some new friends and see what happens. Don't be depressed. If you make new friends now, you won't be alone afterwards. Maybe when you start ignoring her, your friend will come and like ask what's wrong. Anyways if she doesn't care about your friendship anymore, just hang out with your new friends. This time pick ones who are loyal. ;) Your friend will regret her decision. This Nina girl doesn't sound so "really nice and sweet" : she stole your friend, and they way she's treating you.... like when you ask her and your friend, they give you dirty looks. Both aren't nice at all. In fact they are acting really bitchyy. Just dump them and find some new friends. Join a sport or a club. These friends usually stick together. Just remember; don't do what your friend did, to someone else. You know how much it hurts. Girls are cruel ;( GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! =D ps. don't listen to the girl who said make a group of 3 (you already tried it and your "friends" don't want a group of 3)
Do you reckon it's impossible to be best friends with someone of different beliefs as you?
I'm gonna go another way with this, as I think it will help you see it in a different light.... hopefully! We put too much weight on words such as "best friend" or "favorite" or "closest friend" and such. I have some really special people in my life, all of which add to my experience in wonderfully different ways. To think or pick a "best", well it would be impossible really. Of course we are closer to some than others, but if you think about it that changes depending on the day or the circumstances. Some friends are great for cheering you up, some are great fun and others are great for long talks and secret keeping. Each important in their own way. When we are younger, these titles give us a sense of security in our relationships. As you grow more, you realize that these titles mean nothing if the relationship doesn't measure up to them. Some of the people I once thought were "best friends" disappeared from my life with such speed that it left my head spinning... and others whom I thought I wasn't as close to grew on me and have become more like family then friends. Try not to put so much importance on this "best friend" title or on one calling someone else theirs. It doesn't really mean that you have lost a rank in their heart or that you are less important. They just found a new connection that makes them feel great... be happy for that. We are at our best when we are rooting for the success and happiness of those we love! Cherish those that enhance your life in any way. No matter where you are on their friend list/scale. Make those who are important to you, important no matter what their perspective is. We can never really know another's perspective completely anyways. All we can do is be and do what feels right. If considering this person a close/best friend feels right, then that is what matters.... and they ARE your close/best friend. You are not less of a person because they found someone who makes them feel a little better about being them! Always remember that.
I want to become friend to a person who ignores me. How?
It's counter intuitive to want to befriend someone that ignores you. So, do something counter intuitive.Ask a favour of them.It's called the Benjamin Franklyn Effect. He summed it up thusly; “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.”If this person is actively ignoring you it may be, again counter intuitively, because they actual like you.Whatever happens it's probably worth the trouble if you become friends because it won't be easy. When something happens because you've put effort into it, it has more value to you.Conversely if this person does you whatever favour you ask, they will be invested in you for their trouble and probably deem you worthy of notice thereafter.
What makes you decide you want to be someone's friend?
Friendship (and the desire to have friends) is natures way of enhancing who we are. Don't have a skill or ability? No problem! You've got friends. Friendship (and perhaps most relationship) could be described as our need to accommodate our own imperfections. If we were perfect, then we wouldn't need anything. Needing nothing would negate the need for friends.Since I'm really imperfect, I have some tremendous friends. So, stating the obvious regarding friends, I decide to pursue them if/when:I have an opening in my busy schedule. Really. I mean it. I work 45 hours a week, I have a boyfriend, I am involved in some sort of sport/activity about 12-15 hours per week and I go to school. Somewhere in there I cook, shit, shower, play with my kitties and sleep. Friends are the last rung on that ladder, so when/if I have time, then I pursue friendships.I have a need. I have some pretty damned great friends and they serve the purpose of friends (entertainment, assistance, advice, etc.), so I don't find myself in the position wondering "Hmmm, I wonder why I don't have more friends."We have something in common. It can be sports, politics or another thing that is less explicable. Sometimes you just "mesh" with a person for no apparent reason; like your personalities have a resonant frequency and -- despite your obvious differences -- those frequencies work well together. (I have this type of friendship with several guys: nothing in common but best buds).They are funny/fun/wise/good/creative. I list all of those, because--for me--they seem to be that "thing" that I find most attractive about friends. I really mean this. I keep no company with jerks, rude people, bad-decision-makers, boring, dumb people. I'm not afraid to say this out loud: I don't suffer dummies, I've even cut off family members who are constantly abusing drugs, constantly in debt (and needing money). I don't like carelessly rude people (like, let the person into your lane already or just hold the friggin' door). If I see a friend being careless with himself or nasty to his mother, I usually run for the hills (I had to end a great friendship with a buddy who was self-destructing and was hurting his parents in the process). I don't like racists or sexist people (though, frankly, I enjoy the ribald humor that involves those things). I really like wizened souls (I've got a few of those around). I don't like PC people. Animal lovers a plus!!!
I feel alone and left out by my friends in a group; what should I do?
When I was in middle school, I felt the same way about one of my friend groups. I noticed that they always seemed to have an easier time talking amongst themselves. They had inside jokes I wasn’t weighing in on, their humor seemed to become more and more foreign to me, and they seemed to not care at all when I wasn’t there with them. I felt like an outsider looking through the glass.About a year later, I looked back on this, and realized that I simply didn’t fit in with them. I had different interests, different perspectives, different humor, different philosophy, different lifestyle, different everything. I wanted to be in a group that I wasn’t meant to be in.Going further into this, I also understood the group dynamics that caused me to drift from them.I’m an introvert. When I hang out with friends, I started noticing that I start burning out after around an hour. I simply got tired of socializing and went back to my awkward self. I always preferred doing things by myself rather than with other people. Now the group I was in seemed to care more about how well you can socialize to make each other happy. I obviously lost when it came to that factor.I matured. I also realized that I matured at a much faster rate than the friend group I was in at the time. I was going through a rough time, and I had a lot of time to contemplate morals, values, ethics, as well as my beliefs, desires, and insecurities. I gained multiple new perspectives, while my friend group stayed in their middle school teenager mindset.I had different friendship values. The friend group that I was in during middle school, had different friendship values than me. I valued acceptance, tolerance, listening to each other, and cherishing each other, while they valued having a good time together, enjoying the now, and relating to each others’ interests. So from those principles, we naturally drifted. To be honest, I don’t really think they truly cared about me as a human being.That was my experience with being pushed out of a friend group.I can’t speak for you, but my suggestion to you would be to simply see how things go. You’ll want to be more communicative with them, and maybe it’s due to other factors for why you felt more distant. Eventually, you’ll know whether or not to stick with them. At the same time, go out of your comfort zone. Be open-minded and make some friends with other people.
How do you handle your best friend getting closer to someone else?
No matter how bad you feel about it, don’t reveal it because, despite your best intentions, you will come across as jealous, possessive and a control freak. It might make matters worse.The thing about life is that friends come and go and we, as people, keep changing. Indeed, change is the only permanent thing in this world. Your best friend too is ever changing. And the worst part is that you can’t do anything about it. So, if your “best friend” chooses to replace you, then so be it. It’ll hurt you a lot. But sooner or later you will have to pick up the broken pieces of your heart and move on. That’s just how life is.Also, if you truly love your best friend, then you will have the courage to look past your own hurt feelings and be glad that they’ve found someone they’re happy with. You will have the courage to prioritize their happiness over yours. And, I think that’s what matters in the end.