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My mother doesn't let me play outside or go out with friends, what should I do?

No, all parents are not like this, though it’s more common than it used to be. Also, if you are part of an immigrant or highly religious community, your parents may be uncomfortable with the culture outside the home and are therefore more strict than other parents.I grew up so long ago that we were, essentially, “free range children.” It was common growing up that you would go outside and play with your friends, or visit your friends in their homes, or have friends over to your home. “Be home by dinner” and “Let us know who you’re visiting” were the only real rules.In more recent years, many parents have come to feel the world is far more dangerous than it truly is (at least in the U.S.) because 24 hour news cycles report on children who go missing anywhere in the country, which increased the perception of danger even when, percentage-wise, things are no more dangerous than they’ve ever been.At 14, you need to be able to develop friendships and you should allowed to go outside unless you live in an unusually dangerous neighborhood. Also, you should be able to go to the homes of friends if there is supervision there.Try one of these approaches:If you have a friend with a stay-at-home mom who you would like to visit after school, ask your parents if this would be permissible once they have talked to the other parent. If they say no, calmly ask them what concerns they have and see if you can address their fears.Find a school-sanctioned after-school activity - like a sports team or a club - where you’ll be in a supervised environment. Ask your parents if you can participate. If they say no, calmly tell them that extra-curricular activities are good for your future college applications, and you’re thinking ahead about finding something at which you can excel.The main thing is to understand why your parents are so afraid and find good, logical approaches that will help them more thoroughly think through their objections.If none of this works - and you have a teacher at school with whom you are comfortable talking who sponsors the activity in which you’re interested - you might ask that teacher to contact your parents to ask if you could participate. Most parents will find it difficult to say no to a teacher who tells them their child would benefit from an activity.And of course, exhibit responsibility and maturity around your parents at all times. Do your chores, keep your room in order, and be calm and reasonable when you talk with them.Best of luck.

My mother laughed at me when I said I wanted to buy and play the piano, how should I respond?

So just get a MIDI keyboard (full size, semi-weighted keys, not necessarily 88 keys), hook it to your computer, and see how far you get. If you develop skills your mom might reconsider the actual piano.Buying a piano is a big deal, she doesn’t want to do it until she knows you are serious.Here’s one for $150. You can get the same keyboard in 25, 37, 49, 61 or 88 keys, with the price being less or more depending.Amazon.com: Icon iKeyboard 5 - 49-key MIDI controllerThere’s always the possibility that you’ll discover all the cool things you can do with your keyboard connected to a computer (or tablet), that you’ll decide an actual acoustic piano isn’t as interesting. I get the appeal of an acoustic piano, but in so many ways it just doesn’t make as much sense as something that functions as an input device to your computer. As an analogy, which of the two below is the better choice if you want to be a writer?Even if playing an actual acoustic piano is still your goal, it still makes sense to start on a cheaper setup until you’ve shown you are going to follow through. It’s not unreasonable of your mom to balk at buying an acoustic piano until this has happened.Finally, lessons. Lessons are also expensive, but at least lessons aren’t a risky purchase like a piano: you can stop paying for them the moment you decide you aren’t interested anymore. If your mom won’t spring for lessons, see how far you get with the lessons you can find on YouTube and other places on the web. The traditionalists may balk, but there are a lot of amazing things available for free or cheap due to the strange economics of the digital age.

What should I tell my mom is she's forcing me to play a sport I no longer enjoy because of her? I can't say I'm not trying out or else she'll get mad and say I'm " disappointing her" but never cares about how I feel.

There comes a time in a young person's life where they know what they want to do and what they don't want to do. You tried the sport and you don't like it. You shouldn't be forced to play it. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to your team mates.Unfortunately, your mother is probably getting some type of status by your playing this sport, bragging rights, in other words. But that doesn't mean that you have to suffer in silence. Parents aren't supposed to be living through their children's success.I were you, I'd think about things you are interested in (theater, band, choir, orchestra, a different sport, a club, a volunteer activity, etc) and investigate how you're going to join. Then, when you're ready to tell her you are no longer interested in playing the sport (she's going to ask why, so make sure you have solid answers) and that you will not be playing it anymore. Tell her instead that you are interested in (insert activity) and that you already looked into it and the first meeting is on (date/time) and that you're planning to check it out. If she puts up a fuss, be respectful and listen, but tell her this is important to you and that you are growing up and need to start making more decisions for yourself. If she still won't listen, talk to your coach about it and have him/her speak to your mother. Coaches don't want players to be miserable either. Most likely, she just wants to know you'll be doing something, not just sitting in your room playing video games or out partying all the time.

My mother said I am unnecessary and cost a lot of money. What should I do?

It sounds like your mother is narcissistic, even if she hasn’t been formally diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. A diagnosis is totally unnecessary and may be incorrect in this case, but the point is — she is narcissistic.Narcissistic mothers often feel and say things like this, which is a terrible thing to say to a child. They are incapable of loving another human being just for being. They love their kids only if they accomplish amazing things recognized by others, and then they proceed to steal all the credit away from the kids, as if to say, “See, I am an amazing mother, or else my child never would have accomplished this!”These moms are awful and must be ignored. They will never change, no matter how much you accomplish. If you are a girl, she will be jealous of your accomplishments and will belittle them. If you are a boy, she may not be jealous, but she will still be controlling and may never approve of your girlfriends and wife-to-be.Find something you love to do, study, work hard, make a living, become financially independent as soon as possible (in your chosen field). Have as little contact with her as possible, and do not care about anything she says or does. This act of ignoring and not caring will preserve your self-esteem, rather than destroy it. Even if she occasionally praises you, don’t be fooled. She will go back to her old ways, so maintain your distance. It’s a tragedy to have a mom like this — no one deserves this, but this is the hand you’re dealt, so play it wisely and try to move on.Let me leave you with these parting words: “The day you were born is the day God decidedthat the world could not exist without you.” — Rabbi Nachman of Breslov