Is New Year's Eve a time for couples or family?
My husband and I are arguing about what New Year's eve should be. He feels that New Years Eve is a time for couples (leave the kids with a baby sitter) while I feel that it represents a time for the entire family (including kids) to be together. Please tell me what you think and help me resolve this...
What do I do if I don't fit in with my family?
It's completely normal to feel that you don't fit in. I'm assuming you are going through a self discovery process, where you're trying to fit in and discovering that you don't or can't. Or maybe this process has just ended and this is your conclusion. Either way I think it's ok and normal to feel that way.I suspect the core of this feeling has to do with a different value system, or different outlook to life than your family. I'm not sure if it's more or different than this because you haven't said and I don't know either you or your family.What do you do? Talk to them. BUT FIRST...Figure out what you're going to say to them. I live in a family where my mom, dad, brother and I all have different value systems. we are all different. A few years ago I made a huge fuss that we were not functional as a family. and that there's no reason to be together. My father simply said, "Why son, we're individuals, and will continue to grow and evolve in our own seperate ways. Unless we get inclusive and start sharing about our growth, we can't learn to understand and respect eachother's growth and point of view. In the end we don't have to agree or have the same opnions. We love each other, and support each other. That is what Family is about, It's not a cult. I love you son." It took me a year to finally understand what he had wanted to say. I now agree. I'm now even more different than both my parents and my grandparents. but they now all get me and love me for who I am. It's really cool, I have friends who have similar interests. As for values, i'm still looking to find people with similar value systems as mine.
I can't fit in with my boyfriends family and I don't know what to do.?
I come from a big, happy family with a great dynamic. My parents and siblings are very accepting, intelligent, interesting and witty. My family and I constantly joke around with each other and have a lot of fun. It is usually a very relaxed family dynamic.My boyfriend is a wonderful person. He is the best guy I have ever dated, and I care about him a lot. However, Im afraid of his parents not accepting me , and it's becoming a problem for a few reasons:My boyfriend's parents are extremely religious. I come from a secular home -- my parents are not atheists, but I am, and my siblings and I were not brought up in the church. We don't have a problem with religion, it just has no place in our lives. However, my boyfriend can't tell his parents this because they wouldn't "let" him date me. I'm not comfortable with having to pretend around them. They always invite me to church with them but something always seems to "come up". I plan to eventually give it a try. For my boyfriends sake.
Don't fit in with my boyfriend's family and they don't like me?
Well, the evil gf was technically correct in complaining you didn't help out with the dishes. Yes you may have been shy, but that's unusual. Honestly? I would keep my distance and don't plan on them for anything. If you're over 18, have dinner at your house or his apartment. I think there's probably more to the story and your boyfriend is probably not going to tell you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
My boyfriend doesn't seem to fit in with my family. Advice?
My husband and I do not fit well with my family. We both fit in with his though. We just sit on the side-lines together and interject with a comment once in a while. Also we ask questions to others to see if we can spark up a conversation. Last night we went to my family's dinner and they played a game after dinner. We had fun, but my husband didn't play that game. He was included in other small ways. The second game that we pulled out, he did participate. It will take time and you might never be truly blended. You have to accept it and try to adjust. Beforehand, I will give my husband tips on how to deal with my family and we talk about the visit in the car afterwards for future visits.
Do girls prefer to live in a joint family after marriage or alone with their husband?
Before marriage I always thought I would be okay with a joint family structure. Now that I have been in it for two years, I am not sure about that anymore. Not that my in laws are bad people. They do most of the heavy lifting and I barely have a lot of work to look into once I am home. This has helped my career and will help me in the future when I plan to start a family. I however feel lonely even in a joint family because I don’t think I can connect with my in laws at all. My mother in law is borderline naive and my father in law is a patriarch who genuinely believed that women have lesser brains till I got married into the family. (He also still thinks that children get no genes from their mother) My brother in law is foul mouthed but there is no one correcting him because its okay for men use bad words (even at home). I am worried that I am losing my identity amidst all these people.For an independent thinking woman, this can be the biggest problem of living in a joint family. You are surrounded with people but still lonely. You cannot wholly express your individuality because you are concerned about what others will think of you. Whether its the last mithai or the TV remote control, you let go because you want to be a ‘good girl’. And little by little, the girl in you dies.
What is the correct grammar of the following phrase: "me and my family" or "my family and I"?
What is the correct grammar of the following phrase: "me and my family" or "my family and I"?Correct answer:“Me and my family” is incorrect. “My family and I” is correct.“My family and I” is used as the subject of a sentence (i.e., the entity doing the action). The correct way to use “me and my family” as the object of a sentence (i.e., as the entity receiving the action) is to reverse the “me” and “my family” so that “me” is put last.Correct examples:(Subject) “My family and I are planning a vacation.”(Object) “I am planning a vacation for my family and me.”——————This was my incorrect answer, which I posted months ago:Both are correct, each under a different condition.The phrase “me and my family” is used as an object of a sentence, while “my family and I” are used as a subject of a sentence.Examples:(Object) “I am planning a vacation for me and my family.”(Subject) “My family and I are planning a vacation.”____________Note: My thanks to Claudia Champagne and Aubrey Lunn. They have pointed out in the comments below that I was wrong in my answer above. Because of them I have changed my answer. It is now correct.
How do i "fit in" to my husbands "all ready made family" when his ex wife keeps pushing me out
my new husband jo is a very devoted/supporting dad/exhusband.jo promised hi ex they would raise thier only child tom together after the divorce.because of this jo maintains daily contact(phone,email ect)with his ex regarding everthing from sports/school activities to what tom ate for lunch.its not unlike her to call jo for 20 mins to tell him what she and tom did for the day.i understand jo does not what to miss out on anything with his son but tom is 7yrs old and old enougth to tell his dad what he did.i feel like hes still married to her just not living with her.this would not bother me much if his ex was not so bitter to me and except me.she had made it very clear i will never be part of her "family unit"and wants me to have nothing to do with toms life as i'm not really family.since jo's life revolves around his son it is hard for me not to be involved.jo will not back me on any of this as he says its her right as a mom to decide what i can an can't do regarding tom and if he stands up for me it will only make it worse for tom.