WHy would any successful young man get married when men get Raped in divorce court?
That's what PRENUPS are for! Use them! If you marry for love you should have no problem signing one.
Can a married man ever resist a younger woman's advances?
most younger girls turn me off
What type of woman is more successful at finding the reasonably best match in relationships?
Selecting a spouse is an economic decision insofar as economics is the science of resource allocation and exchange. The most difficult part of selecting a spouse is in balancing your unlimited desires for a perfect match from a scarce pool of candidates with your available resources in the form of relationship capital, all the while competing with others of equal or higher capital. Dating is a marketplace just like any other. A marketplace is a conversation and a negotiation wherein one person exchanges valuable consideration for goods and services that they desire. If you are buying a boat, you are exchanging some of your life energy in the form of financial resources for the perceived benefits that are conferred by virtue of owning a hole in the water. Women have an intrinsic set of assets that are desired by men, half of them physical, and half of them are spread across emotional, social and intellectual. It starts with having a female body. The better the female body you have, the more men will find you desirable. Young, slim 0.70 waist/hip ratio female bodies are in highest demand. That's about 50% of a woman's value in the sexual marketplace, like it or not. (Chances are you don't. Don't worry, there are equally egregious limitations on male desirability). Both men and women have unlimited wants and desires in their deepest fantasy lives. But of course we are brought up in a world with scarce resources and inherent trade-offs. To bring it to the basest level, if you are not a millionaire, you can't have a new Ferrari. If you are a mousey chubby brunette with a well developed sense of entitlement and a waist hip ratio approaching unity, you're not going to marry Chris Pratt, no matter how many times you paste him on your vision board. The good news is that as a mousey chubby brunette, you still have lady parts, and while appearance is much more important to men than it is to women, men also have much lower standards than women. People want to play in their own leagues. It is exhausting for an ordinary 5'6" balding non-athletic IT guy to date the caliber of women that he truly desires on a superficial level. They are really happy with a woman who compensates for her quirky physical flaws with affection, sexiness and loyalty.
The rare shy guy who is successful with women-why is he?
My husband is a shy guy in many ways, and what I liked about him was that he exuded trustworthiness, honesty, and kindness. However, when we met, our children were already grown up and we were at a stage in our lives where we were probably looking for something different than we looked for when we were young. There are women out there who are looking for the quiet guys. However, you may have to look in different places to find them. And the type of social life they are looking for may not be the usual bar scene or partying.
Why do most women prefer successful men?
It is very clear to me now, why most girls prefer successful men. It was not clear to me when I was 30 years younger. It was most frustrating. I was reasonably clever and reasonably good looking, but lonely.Achievements came to me at a slow pace. Gradually I rose through the ranks, and gradually I started feeling more and more attention from my female coworkers. At certain point I started to get some quite frank invitations. I was really puzzled by this phenomenon. I was getting older, less energetic, less good looking, but somehow more attractive to the women around me. I started to ask myself, what newly acquired qualities make me that attractive? The only possible answer was that it is my professional success. This success was associated with power and money, but I don't think that these were the main reasons for my sudden attractiveness. It was my professional confidence and my ability to induce confidence in those around me that brought the adoration of the opposite sex.We all want to associate ourselves with success. Being loved by a successful man is important for a woman even in our egalitarian world. From the point of view of evolution it makes a lot of sense for a woman to have a relationship with a successful man, it is increasing the chance for survival of the offspring.But who cares about the evolution when you have all the attention that you were missing while growing up?
What motivates a young woman to feel attracted to a 20 year older man?
I'm 21 falling for a 44 year old man. You have no idea how many times I've asked myself whether I've gone crazy or not. I knew I've always liked older guys, but 'not-that-old', I told myself. After getting to know him as a person, the number one thing about him attracts me is his maturity. The ability to be able to manage his emotions and express at the right time and place. I'm attracted to his stability, he knows where he stands and knows what he wants. Confidence is another, confidence in anyone in general is a great turn on regardless. He is able to be serious, carry a deep conversation and also guide me, and at the same time able to make me laugh and have his fun, goofy side. I enjoy being intellectually challenged when I talk to him. I feel like I am constantly learning something from him. ( You may say I'm looking for a fatherly figure, might be true, I'm still trying to figure out whats up with me.) Its the sense of security I get from him, feeling relaxed around him, and elder man seem to be more understanding and willing to listen because of their years of experiences. This isn't leaning towards physical attraction, its more leaning towards intellectual and mental attraction. I see people mentioning about finance, partially agree, also links with his career. He and I are in different fields, but similar. So in a way we have a connection. But not too much about how much he makes, cause I didn't go to school and get a degree all for nothing. I wont fully depend on a guy to support myself if I were to marry someone. It's a combination of multiple things. It's also him appreciating my strengths and understanding my flaws knowing I'm still young. Not being a immature prideful brat but understanding and appreciative affectionate person. The age gap might be fairly big, but I dont have to worry about having necessary fights and dumb arguments. its compatibility. Just what and how I feel.
Why do older men date younger women?
As a man that is in a relationship with a younger woman (as distinct from girl), l can probably say the following with some confidence and in no particular order:older women tend to be set in their waysolder women tend to be less interested in sexolder women are usually more autonomous and self reliant, which is a good thing as well as being more experienced when it come to accepting differencesyounger women have less life experiences and are generally more idealistic which plays to being less accommodating or acceptingolder men can see through certain behaviours to the resulting consequences with greater ease due to their own experiences and can thus, if they’re grown up enough, chose how to respond. This could piss some younger women off of course.it takes a particular type of younger woman, in terms of her emotional and intellectual maturity, to have a relationship of any consequence with an older chap. Some younger woman just prefer to be with someone that is more stablethe rule of thumb is, in terms of optimal age (x) difference, the chaps age (a) divided by two plus seven: x = (a/2) + 7. Anything beyond this and it starts to become creepy and frivolous. This formula can, in fact, be universally applied to any mans age (within the usual conventions of course). This is simply because women tend to mature more quickly than men.younger women tend to gird older chaps to being a little more conscious of their health on both mental and physical levels. This is not meant to say they’re in denial it just reduces the rate at which older men get too old in their heads and general disposition.some older men tend to be more experienced sexually and less inhibited when it comes to sharing and exploring in bed, which younger woman tend to like.I could add some more thoughts but the main reasons and associated issues from my humble perspective are summarised above. Additionally, I’ve just ‘sense checked’ with my significant other as to why she likes being with an older man and her response kicks some of what I've just written into touch. For her it's more about the chemistry as she doesn't necessarily prefer older men. It's just that, in this case, it happily works for her. She says it helps that I don't look my age and can engage with most people irrespective of their age, race, background. Nice touch on her part.So, at the risk of being a little trite in closing, it is sometimes said that a chap is only as old as the woman he feels!
As a 42-year old woman who looks 10+years younger and wants to date men near her age, rather than younger, how do I do this successfully?
Wouldn’t that be relatively easy? Whether it is right or wrong, society seems to be more accepting of older men dating younger women. If you look younger than your age, it seems like you’d have the best of both worlds. You’d be attractive to men your age because of this older men, younger women thing, but you’d also have the maturity and generational perspective of the men you date.