Why don't women fall in love with guys who really care for them?
Read this carefully. It might answer your question.A guy I knew from high school happened to be a “nice guy”. I never was interested in him but did believe he would land a girl just as sweet as him someday. He was so sweet. He and I would talk occasionally. He seemed like an approachable guy who wouldn’t behave like a butt hole like some others I knew. He would help out people a lot and was kind. Sometimes I would think how someone like him could be single. He wasn’t a go-getter type when it comes to girls.This guy never showed any interest in me and went on to date some girls in college. We did not get to meet face-to-face after high school. I once noticed him grinning when a bunch of his friends they made misogynistic jokes on my girl friends. Soon after college, he texted me once and showed interest in me. I was shocked. I never really saw him as anything more than a nice friend. That was all. But alas!I had to respond whether I accepted his advances or not. I rejected him. I was asked for a reason. I told him that I only saw him as a nice friend. He was heart-broken (I believe). He asked me again and again. I denied him each time. Then he asked me the reason as well. I told him with full honesty that I did not like him that way. He once texted me. “The girls; they all tell me that I am a very nice guy.” I was like, “Me too. But that doesn't make me attracted to you romantically.” He is still waiting for me to say yes, even after I specifically told him that I wasn’t interested in him.Did you guys notice it? Did you notice why I outright denied this nice guy?There was the misogynistic take. Any guy, not matter how sweet, if he is misogynistic on the inside, there’s no point.He kept using his sweetness to get me. I don’t like guys just because they are sweet. I have certain criteria which guys need to fit if they want me to perceive them as attractive guys. Some of which include a passion to travel, not being a chauvinist and admit mistakes when he’s wrong, not blindly following someone when he knows they are wrong, chivalry and similar interests as me. He didn’t fit all the categories.Just because you’re a nice guy, doesn’t mean that girls should feel lucky if you like them. Being sweet is a good thing. But if that’s all you’ve got, then your pool of selection will be limited. There is more to life than just sweetness.
Guys, do you really like loose women who gives it up so easily? Seriously?
sex and making love are two completely different things. Yes men are sex machines, but so are women. There are a few of us guys out there, like myself, who refuse to have sex. I prefer making love. I know how to do it, I know how to please a woman, and I don't just roll over after it's over.... but that's because before I make love, I have to be in love. So ask me if I want a fast woman? I don't think so. Look at it this way. If he can say the same things I have just said without hesitation, and still look into you eyes a week later, he's probably in love, not after a quickie. Now you have to make up your mind. Do you want a quickie (no insinuations) Just as there are different kinds of women out there, so are there men. Oh, and if he gets upset, leaves, or doesn't call you back, he just wanted sex.
If a guy says he loves you but does no effort is it worth it?
One of my favorite viewpoints: True Intentions is demonstrated by attainment. Therefore, if you want to see what you want, look at what you have. While not a perfect viewpoint, it does answer this question. If you are not feeling loved and appreciated then he is not doing what it takes for you to feel that way. It’s on you to communicate that you are not gratified and then its on him to decide if he wants to make the effort to change to have you feel special. If he doesn’t then that’s his right to choose someone different.We live in a world where words are indeed cheap (as another answer started off with) and its gotten cheaper with 140 character messages. It easy for a guy to say he loves you. Harder to actually show up and be that LOVE.
Where are all the good guys?
I doubt it when you say that he "clearly never meant anything he said." People change, even during relationships. They go into them with perfect trust and love and happiness. This is called the honeymoon stage. When all the newness fades, what are you left with? Seeing the person for who they really are. Everything that you love about them is still there, but now it's covered up by those annoying little habits, like how he clicks his jaw when he's eating, or how he taps on the steering wheel when waiting for the light to change. All these things get to you, and it's a choice to to either deal with them or not. If you are older, then you may have realized that you can't change someone, they have to do it themselves IF they want to. So you nag and nag, or they nag you. Or perhaps, they're not seeing any more potential from this relationship. They feel it has run its course and not worth further investment. What would have happened if he felt obligated to be with you? You would marry, and he would be miserable while you would be happy. Could you really do that to someone that you love? Keep them prisoner like that, knowing that they don't love you? I couldn't. So he left you. It happens. I got left, too. I got the whole "I wanna marry you one day" then all of a sudden "I can't see a future with you." We changed in our relationship, it happens. We said stupid things in the beginning that we shouldn't have. We learned. We're done. It's over. And FYI, shortly after this happened to me, I met a GREAT guy and we're getting married this year. Doesn't mean that it's going to happen to you, when you finally accept that love has to find you, you can't change someone, and that everything runs its course and happens for a reason, the better off you'll be. You don't need a man to make you happy, you just need you. Take some time out for you right now and don't search for love because you won't find it. Just let things happen.
Why do black guys like wearing their pants so low?
When my parents arrived to US 15 years ago we always went to one huge shopping mall with many stores. It was an all WHITE people mall. Today that all white turned into an ALL BLACK mall. 99.9% black and .01 white. Seriously, i went back today and i was the only white person i saw out of the hundreds of people there. I went into a clothing store and i found some funny clothing. There was a shirt there that was so wrinkly it looked like a mob ran over it. It's said on the shirt to not to iron it because that was purposely done. A wrinkled shirt. The type of shirt men use to go to work in. I was laughing like crazy. Yet i noticed 12 black people passed by interested in the shirt. Why a wrinkled shirt? Anyways, i also noticed black people LOVE to look flashy. I see they LOVE to show off. They love nice jewelry, earings, and baggy clothing. EVERY single man in there was wearing baggy pants that are down where you can see their undies. Yet they like to wear matching things and funny designer caps. At least here in NY they like to look rich. It's also very noisy, people are yelling and screaming. When i walk into an nearly all white mall, all whites are quiet and the men wear blue jeans that looks like their from the 80's, tucked in shirts and pants all the way up to their chests almost. Except ofcourse the teenagers, well they like to dress flashy as well, though very little of white teens wear baggy clothing with pants so low that you can see their undies. Why do black guys like wearing their pants so low that you can see their underwear? is that a thing with black girls? they like to see the men in their underwear from the first second they meet? I don't get it, what's with the baggy pants that's 2 sizes too big? What's with the jewelry all over? Most importantly why wear pants so low purposely??
Do girls like guys in tight leather pants?
Hi, I am a bisex guy and I love to wear skintight leather and lycra. I like the 80s rocker style, kind of gothic and dark. Love the way my platinum blond hair goes with it. So, I am a bit of a show-off. But do girls like guys like me? Should I change my style? I am not a conservative person, so I don't care for closed-minded opinions, please. Thanks
Where have all the good guys gone? If there are any out there, where are they and how do I meet one?
Here I am. I am fairly good person.I am kind, passionate, caring, good listener, good counsellor, humorous, great friend, smart, romantic, earn pretty OK, committed, responsible and understanding. I am almost everything a girl wants by character. I must also admit that I am more of husband material than a boyfriend material.I am everywhere. I am in at least 3 guys out of 5 guys you meet. This is my story and many good men out there.Problem is girls really do not want “good” guy. They want who can hurt them. Really.I am 30 now. I had 2 relationships, one in college at 21 and one in about 25–26 age. I cannot figure out what was wrong till now. I took a lot of care, loved them very much, helped them to overcome depressions, been a good friend and a good listener. I was always there. Now both of them are with guys who are always hurting them. They sometimes tell me I was very good and they regret leaving me because they are about to get married and marriage rules are totally different than ‘love in air’ rules. They think that their husband should have qualities which I have. -Commitment, responsibility, care and understanding.I think girls need something to scratch their heads all time. They need someone to “attend” them all time. They need someone to say she is most important person and how valued she is, how much one loves her. This is fine nothing wrong in that but, all times? It looses it’s value. Since one person cannot do this all time, girls find another ‘better’ person. Things repeat!These days, as I see most girls have only 2 states in girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. Either they are depressed or they are pampered (includes romance, flirting, sexting and sex) .Well, there are lot of “good girls” who have been committed for one or for long time. Kudos to them for accepting their men as is. But, others… hey! you seriously need to stop and think.Your requirements change a lot. Your requirements for a boyfriend is different and for a husband it’s different.For eg. Girlfriend wants her boyfriend to be a macho man -Talented, famous, flirty, romantic, throw up surprises, ride bike like Tom cruise, who loves taking risk and what not!. . Wife wants her husband to be a normal person who is understanding, takes care of family, who can take safer routes to solve problems.Eliminate this hypocrisy of requirements. You will find good in any boy (well, who is not a psycho of course ;) ).