What do you think about parents giving their kids mental health days (letting them stay home from school)?
I give my daughter mental health days (once a quarter).Let's be honest with ourselves for a minute. Quietly reflect on your own life as an adult. I know there are days when I am just not up to par and definitely not a perfect human. I need ME time, I ask my child to let me nap or watch a show. I take my PTO when I want to do so and whenever I need a day for myself. Self care is actually incredibly important to an individuals mental health. I try my best to take care of myself when I know I need to so I can be the best person both at work, in school, and at home. Not a single person looks down on me for doing so.Kids though, are expected to perform at a higher rate than adults (based on their own growth both biologically and mentally), and they honestly outperform adults for the most part. They also need to be on the best behavior at all times, can't have down days, and they always have to be up to par. I personally do not think it is healthy for a child to be raised that way. I think it’s ok for a kid whose brain hasn't fully developed to have bad days or days when they just cant do it. I choose to give my daughter a mental health day once a quarter as long as she either does her school work that day at home (if the teacher provides it) or if she makes it up the next school day. I will always allow her this option as long as it doesn't negatively impact her grades (so far it hasn't).I ask her to let me know if she is burned out in advance, to plan ahead and let me know what day works best (no test days, no big assignment days) and we will talk to her teacher to pick up the work. She gets to focus on herself for a bit—then go back to school refreshed. So far (she is almost 11), it has worked well for us. She doesn't lie about being sick, she makes straight A’s and she usually hits her books 2x as hard as she does before that day. She likes the privilege of her MH days.I think it is smart for parents to give this option to their kids, but it is based off the kids too. My little one is mindful and lets me work productively when she is home. She is self sufficient (makes her own lunch-cleans her messes) so I can focus on my work (I work from home), and she entertains herself.
Do you think it's better for parents to stay together for the child or divorce? (When they're so unhappy together that the child notices)
Hello,I am sorry this has developed into a possibility for you. As a divorced – former single parent, I believe that divorce is not the answer under any circumstances. My previous wife had an affair with a lover from her young adulthood, and looked at me as the one who ruined her life. After all, she could have been married to this other gentleman. When she realized that he was not interested in her for a relationship, it was too late. She had already been intimate with him on several occasions. She was crushed, and returned to me for forgiveness. I was bitter, and I wanted nothing to do with her. If I had been a grownup, I would have sought counseling and worked through our issues. I should have exhausted every avenue to secure a life reflective of family stability for our family, not just for our children. Matthew 19 3-8 tells a story of divorce. The priests of that era were trying to have a philosophical debate with Jesus. The story goes like this: The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, “Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female?” And said, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, “Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.” If it happened today, I would swallow my pride, cry out to the Lord, and try to keep my family intact. I will pray on this tonight for you. Blessings!Paul
Should parents stay out of their child sex life?
I think they should I don’t see their child getting all uptight and getting on their parents about sex and saying they shouldn’t be having it idk that’s just me long as they’re using protection
As a single parent do you think, 950 dollars is too much too pay for rent?
I currently pay 775 a mo. I have 3 kids ages 8,7,2. I work as an independent contractor earning 15-17 an hr,& recieve child supp.I have a boyfriend who is the father of my youngest child, he contributes to the bills, but minimally, due to underemployment issues and criminal hx.I gave up section 8 to move into better neighborhood, schools, and way of life.Kids are doing better! My question is many criticize my decsion to keep moving up, I just want my kids to have acsess to opportunites. I hv ok credit, but not enough to buy a house in a good neighborhood.I will graduate next may with bachlors and plan to get a masters.Problem I feel guilty at times because I still recieve public aid due to rise and fall of income, not married (after 6 yrs). I am tired of people who expect me to stay in my "class". I just want my kids to have "opportunities and safe enviornment". By the way i am a soc major so I know what contributes to people downfall, I am also living proof. Just trying to climb out.
"Parents should stay together for the sake of children"?
i am a christian and my parents are divorced. i think it depends, if they argue alot that isn't good for the kids, so it is best to be seperated so you don't set bad examples. you should try to work things out for the sake of your kids, yes. i am 12 yrs old and even though my p's are divorced i still have a good relationship with both of them
Should you stay with your other half for the sake of your children?
Children usually view their parents as a single unit. They deserve the love and care of both the father and mother. Conflicts between the two most important people in a child's life can cause turmoil in the lives of the child. Having said that, two people cannot exist just in the role of parents. They are two individuals first, a couple next and then parents. When you realize that you cannot live with your partner anymore (after trying your best to sort out differences) it is definitely best to separate amicably. Here, I am talking about differences in ideologies, expectations and ambitions. In case of infidelity or ego, things are going to be a little more complicated. It is better to be good parents as divorcees than being bickering parents under the same roof. Even if you try to hide the animosity, children would sense it as they grow up and it can be even more damaging to them in the long run. Also, the bitterness inside you will turn you into a negative person after a while. Make a sincere effort to save your marriage, both for your sake and that of your children. If it's fruitless, make a mutual decision to get a divorce. If the children are mature enough to understand, discuss this with them before making the decision. Expect shock, anger or resentment from their side. Assure them that both of you are going to love them and care for them just as before. Convince them that they are still a priority for you no matter what happens. Once the separation happens ensure that you put in extra time and effort for your children because they deserve it. And most importantly, never bad mouth your ex-spouse in front of your children. Remember that though you have broken ties with your ex, your children are still connected with both the parents. One can be a good parent even if one is not a good husband/wife. Hopefully, your children will eventually come to terms with the whole thing once they realize that though the parents are apart, they are still important to the people who brought them into this world. And you can move on in life without regrets.
Why do parents blame their kids for their divorces? ?
Well..I myself is going through a divorce. And yes, it is for the sake concerning my children. But In many cases, I do know that one thing a lot of married couples fight about concerns financial reasons. I remember hearing that women didn't have to work back in the 1950's or even 60's. But due to the economic situations we face now, it is mandatory for women to return back into the field of work. My issue was I had to work full-time and raise my children as if I was a stay at home mom. Where as my husband worked and made excuses that resulted to him hanging with his friends,and being unfaithful. My children didn't see my husband at all, because when he'd came home it was 4,5,or even 6 o'clock in the morning so when they got up in the morning he would be sleep. And when they came home in the evening he would be gone, and then again he'd stay out for the whole weekend. Besides it was becoming to much pressure for me to continue that way. And it was not fair to my children. I couldn't enjoy that quality time with them because I was sooo tired. So I decided that if I felt like a single parent, I might as well be one. What I am saying, is that many couples divorce for many reasons. But you're right....sometimes it doesn't have anything to do with the children. And if it doesn't then both parents are selfish. If My husband would put forth the change to spend time with his family, Instead of divorcing for the sake of my children... I'll love to stay married to the partner I fell in love with...FOR MY CHILDREN! I want my children to have both parents in their lives, but unfortunately, This is not the "Leave It to Beaver" Era!