Do we need help from others?
In some ways yes, in others no.You may not realize it, but everyday someone else is helping you.I notice myself taking note of certain things people do. For example, on one particular instance I was in an exceptionally bad mood. Typical teenage angst aside, everything was going wrong and today nothing could make me smile.But then a man held the door for me at the super market. I didn't think much of it at first. I just thanked him and continued on my way. It wasn't an out of the ordinary gesture. Many people have held the door for me, and I’ve held it for many others, but as I rounded the bread isle I kept thinking about what he did for me. I noticed that this man was kind enough to do something for a complete stranger and because of his actions, this man reminded me that there is good all around, even if I don't see it all the time. After I thought about that for a second, I decided to turn my day around. I realized there was no point to waste a perfectly good day being upset. Especially not after life showed me that random act of kindness. And I had a pretty great day!This is a subtle example of how another person has helped me.I think it would be naive to depend on other people to always come to your aide. Although there are many people who give great verbal advice, paying attention to another persons actions can be much more helpful.Many people think of “help” as a “do it for me.” It’s just like asking your mom for help on a paper and expecting her to write it all. That kind of help isn't helpful.In order for another person to help you, their help must resonate with you on a deeper level. In other words, take what they say or do and use it as a way to help yourself.Other people can help you in many ways, but they can only guide you. The only person who can really help is you.Listen, observe, ask questions, think, analyze and other people's “help” will turn into your own. Even if it’s as simple as a stranger holding the door for you to make you realize there is always something to smile about.
People always say, “ If you need help, just ask” but when you ask, no one helps. Why do people say that?
Helping is an investment of time and energy, and people need to know that they will see a return on that investment before they take action. Granted, some people simply lack compassion, but are very polite, so they might say they are there to help, but will never help when push comes to shove. ignore those people. Don’t form intimate relationships with them.Some people might only help if they see that you are someone who can help them in some way in the future. Unless it is an extreme circumstance (life or death, heroic events, etc) some people don’t want to help unless they see that you’ll be able to return the favor.But sometimes, people don’t want to help because they don’t see you helping yourself first. People will help out of the goodness of their heart, gaining nothing in return. But time and energy are our most valuable assets, and if you’re unwilling to help yourself in some way, others know that it’s unlikely you’ll actually accept their help. And if you do, it might feel like you’re taking advantage of them.One of my favorite quotes on the subject is from Chris Rock, who said“I’d always end up broken down on the highway. When I stood there trying to flag someone down, nobody stopped. But when I pushed my own car, other drivers would get out and push with me. If you want help, help yourself – people like to see that.”
How do people who can't ask for help get help when they need it?
There are two outcomes - people either persevere (and do it all on their own, as unlikely as it might have seen at the beginning) or they perish (considering the circumstances, the troubles could quite literally overtake a person’s life, and depending on those troubles, it can be that end of life as we know it).In case of the perseverance, the person can either do it all on their own or get help, it means they are pushed to the limit strong enough, so any qualms that they have had about the whole “seeking help” issue are less relevant than the harm coming from not getting help.
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Why are some people afraid to ask for help?
The teacher pointed at me and called my name,“Hector!”I slowly raised my eyes to look at her.“Ohh no,” I thought.“Who? Me?”“Yes, you!” she repeated. “Solve this problem on the chalkboard.”I walked slowly to the front of the room, all eyes were on me. “Solve it!” she demanded handing over the piece of chalk.I stared at the problem and started feeling nervous.“This will be humiliating,” I thought to myself.I struggled with the problem and couldn’t solve it. “Can I ask you a question?” I said to the teacher.“No, solve the problem!”“How can I solve the problem if I can’t even ask a question,” I said.“If you can’t solve it, go back to your seat,” she said in a sarcastic tone.She immediately changed her mood and said, “Mike, come on over! Show Hector how to do it!”All my classmates kept staring at me while Mike our classroom superstar jumped to the chalkboard to solve the problem.Experiences like these impressed wrong lessons on me: ‘I’m expected to know everything or suffer failure and humiliation.’So I learned a few tricks — I became a master at the game of pretending to “have it all together.”I would constantly do my best covering-up and “looking smart,” all to protect my already damaged emotions.It took me years to understand that it’s okay if I don’t know all the answers. Trying to “look smart” became painful.It took me years to fight my insecurities and realize it was okay to ask for help.So, to answer your question, why are some people afraid to ask questions?I think it comes from the bully educational system… I remember how scary it would be to ask questions, feeling insecure or that I would be bullied.I became afraid to ask questions mostly because of fear, pride or self-defense.
Why am I always the one helping others and when I need someone nobody comes for me?
I have the exact same problem. I give money, driving, time, labour, friendship, work, DIY, chores, everything. Yet no one will lift a finger in return.I think its a mental illness, we do not have doctors that can diagnose if people have this problem. I do not like people doing anything for me anyway. I do not like feeling like i have to owe someone. I help others, but if i need help back its never done. I think society is set up like this. The problem is highlighted when person after person do not do anything.I tried to describe how it feels. Its like pushing a grand piano up a mountain, the moment you let go its straight back to the bottom.Empathy is very rare now. Look at world leaders and the wars, this would not be possible if there was empathy. I think the system is designed on greed. We get lured into wanting more and more things. People work hard. People are desperate to pay their rent, we are not allowed to live freely “off the grid”, so we all must work to pay the bills. There is no room left for empathy. Even in the bible its was said over and over that greed and money lenders are the root of the problem.When no one else helps anymore, then you have to take care of yourself. I think a ”recession” is where in society everyone has asked the next person for their help ideas and no one wants to do it anymore.If you feel hurt by others being pathetic, then just look after yourself. Never put others in charge of things that need to be done, If you handle it best then leave it your own reliable hands. The problem is where you expect others to come in their own accord.You have to assume the least of others and when certain people come wanting to do more then keep them in your life. Its that initial want from others that you are looking for.It does hurt when you make 99% of the puzzle,and that person cant be bothered to put the last piece in.So just step back, keep your money to yourself, enjoy taking care of your self, respecting yourself.
Should you ask others for help or wait till they offer it (when it's obvious that you need it)?
Like many other things in life, it depends.Some variables are:the nature of the help you need (and how clearly you are able to articulate it)the nature of your relationship to the person you would ask (person X)the ability of person X to actually help youthe personality of person Xperson X might you a favor or you might have recently done something kind or generous for person X (or vice versa)how long it will take to help youI find that requests for help work best when I can be specific about the help I need, when I am asking someone I have a good relationship with already to do something s/he is comfortable doing, especially when person X is known by me to like helping others, when the help will be of reasonably brief duration, and when I haven't been pestering person X for favors or help in recent weeks or months.Even so, people will often help you just because people are naturally kind. Even strangers. I have had a series of shoulder injuries and I can't tell you how many times kind strangers have helped me get my rollaboard bag into the overhead bins on an airplane. Of course that only takes a few seconds. I'll stop on the sidewalk sometimes when I'm walking past some strangers puzzling over an unfolded street map of the area, and ask them if I can help them find what they are looking for. Happy to do it. If they asked me to escort them there, I probably would beg off, unless it was on my way or there was some other reason (visually impaired person etc.) I felt I needed to do it.When I ask a friend for a favor that might be slightly difficult or awkward for them to accomplish, I usually say something jocular that gives them an out if they need one, like "Don't worry, if you can't do it, I'll still be your friend." They usually still do it anyway.Bottom line: if you (a) ask politely, (b) give people an out, and (c) offer help freely to others whenever possible, you'll be surprised how often people will be happy to help you.
Is asking for help a sign of weakness?
The survival of human race depends on the help that we renders towards each other.We wouldn’t been living beyond a few days if our parents would not have helped us when we were born. It is only when parents bring up their children for almost two decades that they learn to survive in this world of their own. Even during this period we need help from our teachers to learn the knowledge of the world and need help from our friends to play and enjoy our life.Even after we become adult, we are in constant need of each other as the world is so interconnected with each other than it is difficult to even imagine someone living a happy life all alone.Therefore, there is nothing wrong in seeking help from other people.It is, however a sin not to help those who have helped you in the time of your need.It is also selfish to seek help without helping others.We must try to help others more than the help which we seek from others. It reminds me a beautiful story.A news was published in a morning newspaper with the title, ‘An elder brother gifted a car to his younger brother on his birthday.’First person who read the news said, “I wish that I would have been the younger brother of this great man.”Second person said, “I wish that my elder brother gift me a car on my next birthday.”Third person said, “I wish that I gift my younger brother a car on his next birthday.”If you are like the third person, you would get help from large number of people without even asking for it.There is a great joy in giving and helping each other.If you had been doing it regularly, you would not hesitate asking for help from others just like a depositor would have no hesitation of withdrawing a part of his money from his account which he had been depositing in the bank for years.Seeking help is shameful only for those who never helps anyone and yet believe that they have a divine right to seek help from anyone.