Is it child abuse to spank my child with a real whip?
Yeah its abuse to hit your child at all. But do you think adults give two sh*ts? With a real whip thats doing way to much....
Why do people think hitting children is abuse?
If you were hit a lot, it was abuse. When children are hit a lot, they learn to take it, and learn that dishing it out to others is natural. When parents hit their children a lot, it becomes a crutch that they use instead of taking the time and energy and presence required to help the child learn and grow. Parents who hit a lot, hit not out of love, but out of frustration.Is it possible to hit a child out of love? Maybe, but I don’t think it’s a good idea in any situation. Even if the child is reaching for a hot stove, it’s more effective to grab the child and move them away, and then explain to them. If they persist in activities that are immediately dangerous, a striking action may be necessary and effective, or it might just be an instinctive reaction. Sometimes children are simply very, very difficult to deal with. But after a hit, the parent must take time to apologize and talk to the child.When most parents hit a child, it is not out of love, it is out of frustration, anger, and loss of control. The parent is hitting because they don’t know what else to do. The more they hit, the more they rely on it as a solution. But it doesn’t teach the child any valuable behaviors.As the child grows older hitting becomes more abusive, and the child learns to anticipate, to run, hide, lie, and do whatever else is required to avoid the hitting.Children who are hit also suffer from a variation of the Stockholm syndrome, learning to excuse and accept the behavior of their abusers. Some might even learn that pain is good, and drift to self-damaging behaviors, or abuse of others.
What's your view on child abuse?
My view on child abuse is that there should be no such thing, anywhere, ever. Children do not ask to be born. They do not get to choose their parents or their living situation. They are defenceless children being abused by the people who are supposed to love and care for them. They do not deserve to be treated this way.Laws need to be changed so that people who are convicted of child abuse receive longer sentences. Of course, there are different types of child abuse and different levels of each. But to hear about some of the heinous things people have done to children and then they receive a few years. It's sickening! Anyone who beats a child half to death or touches a child inappropriately deserves to spend their eternity in prison.
Any Good Child Abuse Movies?
I have been really interested in sad movies lately. ones that are graphic and makes you want to cry. I'm wanting to know if anyone knows any really touching child abuse movies. preferably true stories but any is fine. My favorites so far are "aurora" and "an american crime" both very sad,graphic and touching. Anyone know any similar movies?
When is SPANKING considered child abuse?
It really depends on how hard you hit your child, where you hit your child, and for what reason you are hittig your child. If you are doing it in order to discipline your child so that he or she grows up to be a better person, and if you don't do it so that it leaves welts or bruises on the child, and if you don't hit on the face or somewhere fragile, then it should be ok. Children sometimes need guidance. You should first try to talk to them, and if that dosn't work then you can try "time outs", but if that dosn't work you will have to spank. But just spank responsibly. Usually when you spank it hurts the parents more then the child because no real parent wants to hit their own child or cause them any harm.
What makes other think that disciplining children is child abuse?
Because children are helpless.Children depend fully on their parents and caregivers. When you hit or spank a child in lieu of disciplining them, that’s abusive.I’m not saying that a slap on the wrist is abuse, but you have to consider the implications of being abusive.Now, full-on, old style “bend on the knee” spanking is abuse, make no mistake. Using a belt or fists to “discipline” your child is also abuse, just as it would be considered assault if you hit an adult.Consider this — if your boss spanks you because you made a mistake, wouldn’t that be considered abuse? So why do people think that spanking their kids isn’t?There are better tools than corporal punishment to teach children. While it’s true that very young children don’t understand reasoning, the truth is that they should not be in a situation where they need to have their behavior culled!For instance, lots of people (myself included) think that it’s OK to smack a child on the wrist so they don’t do something dangerous such as putting their fingers on a power socket[1] . But the truth is that they shouldn’t be able to put their fingers on a power socket!!! It’s the parents’ role to make sure their kids are in a safe environment and properly supervised at all times.And when toddlers are having attitude problems… hitting them is also not the solution! They can’t help themselves! They don’t know how to cope with their emotions! They don’t understand what they are doing! Would you hit a demented elderly if they gave you a “bad look”? So why do that with a child that don’t understand what they are doing?Much better than hitting, spanking and smacking children is to teach them, to let them face the consequences of their actions and to help them cope with their emotions!And those are the reasons why I say that “disciplining” is abuse. Because not only there are better tools, but if you acted on adults as some people do toward children, they would end up arrested for assault.Footnotes[1] Adriano Di Piero's answer to Is it ok to spank my 2-year-old when he tries to run into the street because he thinks it’s funny?
I need a good hook for a child abuse speech?
What exactly are you talking about? Preventing it? Talking about it? A good hook, if I am right....is the start of some story that draws people in. Open up with details. Age and background.
Is it child abuse if a parent hits you when angry?
Hitting a child is child abuse, whatever the motivation the parent has. Having a “reason” for a behavior does not make it okay, does not justify it.So, whether a parent it angry or not, or whether the child “did anything to deserve it” or not, there is no excuse for hitting a child.I include spanking here, as well as slapping or punching or shoving.I call this abuse, but what the law may judge as abuse in one jurisdiction or another may vary. The last time I checked spanking was legal in all states but Minnesota, and I think that one or two Scandinavian countries outlawed it. However, it would be up to local authorities to judge whether the line had been crossed, even in spanking, to a point that intervention by the State was required.I once had a teacher say that he defines “abuse” as anything short of adequate nurturing. Also it is important to understand that the parent does not need to intend to be abusive. A parent who makes a mistake about parenting that harms a child, may have been abusive, such as a parent who is too harsh, etc. And again, intent is not an excuse. Anger is not an excuse. Custom and tradition is not an excuse. A child being particularly “naughty” is not an excuse.There is just no excuse for hitting another person.While saying that, most likely every parent has been guilty of child abuse or child neglect, without meaning to now or then. All parents make mistakes, lose their tempers. Most parents yell, and many parents may spank or hit their children even though it was something they said they would never do.Whether this is an isolated incident that can be mended to created a better parent/child dynamic or whether this is part of a pattern of escalating battery can’t be figured out from the question. Any child who has been hit can confide in a teacher or school counselor for further help.
Do you think it's ok to send a child to bed without supper?
I am single and have no kids, but interested in your question. My answer is NO. It is not okay to punish a child by taking away his/her meal. You can replace his/her favorite meal with something s/he likes less as a punishment, but never let him/her go to bed with an empty stomach. It is parents' responsibility to take care of the health of their children who are too young to take care of their own health.