Why Am I Not Attractive

Why am I not attractive to women? I am 20, have a good job, average looking and going to school. What's wrong with me?

Firstly, attraction is a perception and different people have different perception, so forget about attraction but instead focus on your personality.Next you must talk to people, talk to a lot of people n try to keep a healthy conversation going, this will build your confidence.Women tend to get attracted to guys with personality, that doesn't mean big, bad, or loud personality. It means being your self, being your comfortable self. Be grounded, well groomed, smell nice (please at lease use deodorant) and be presentable. Common sense will help.Work on getting yourself noticed, by making friends and acquaintance. You must respect women and don’t treat them like they are bimbos.You also cannot seem desperate and that’s a big turnoff. You have to strike a balance between being a gentleman and someone who doesn't take bullshit.Don’t be shy, ask them out, go on dates, casual dates, double dates, many dates if possible and with all kinds of personality of women, experience and learn the art of being a MAN you will re-discover yourself being around women.You will definitely get rejected countless times but you will soon learn that rejection is good, it means that is not going to work anyway and move on to the next. Once you’re down the only way is up!The key points here are; respect women, do not cross the line if a clear line is visible, have good intentions (everything is not bout getting under her skirt) and finally don’t be an arse.Please also be cautious with women who will use you to get things done and some for the materialistic kind (gold diggers), don’t be quick to judge, some just wanna know if you are for real, but when it gets too good too be true, it probably is! Then RUN my friend…If you are wondering, I’m a GUY and I still don’t have all the answers to “womenology” hahahaha but what I have stated above works very well for me in social and business settings. It helps me in having a healthy relationship with all kinds of women at work and outside of work and mind you when i say relationship, not the sexual kind! :)Cheers and all the best Gentlemen!!!

Why am I not attractive?

At 13 years old, you are only just starting to learn your own identity and who you are as a person.Your body is starting to change and go through puberty and acne is part of that. Very few people get away with not having spots!I know a girl who's little sister I used to take out for days out. She was 12 when I met her. She had very short hair, glasses and everyone would tease call her a geek and a lesbian. But the guys still loved her. Fast forward to age 16 and she's one of the prettiest girls in her school and she's got a beautiful personality to boot. She found her own style and confidence and blossomed.But you know what? She was gorgeous before she grew and dyed her hair. She was unique and lovely and boys loved her regardless because she was confident!Boys will come and go. At age 13, they are just finding themselves too.Find your own confidence. Be true to who you are and follow your own interests. I know you might want boys attention at the moment, but why? Because you really want a boyfriend or because everyone else is doing this so you want it to?Boys love all types of women. What works for one boy, won't always work for the next.Be beautiful from the inside out and your love will blossom in time

Why am I not attracted to anyone?

Ever heard of being asexual or aromantic?Describing that beautiful painting you can like without wanting it was what made things click for me. I think you are experiencing some degree of being ace/aro.I just recently figured out I’m borderline ace (demigreyheterosexual, if anybody cares), so don’t worry, it’s not just you. I found out by asking a question on here about why people date so much and realized from reading the answers that I just don’t have that sexual or romantic attraction to people very much at all.It’s okay to feel like this. Different people have different levels of desiring different things, and you and I just don’t feel attraction to people. I can see the beauty in everyone, girls and guys both, but I’m just not attracted to people. The only romantic attraction I experience is to a male I’ve closely bonded with already, and I almost never experience sexual attraction to anybody.You don’t have to talk about this with people if you don’t want to. Aces are like one percent of the population; everybody else feels those romantic or sexual urges, and they won’t understand what it’s like to not have them. They’ll say you just haven’t met the right person yet, or that you’re blooming late or something.Aces/Aros can still lead happy lives, with or without a partner. It doesn’t mean you’ll never marry or find love or anything. You can live single and enjoy it, you can find another ace/aro to share life with platonically, you may find someone who’s that exception and get married to her, or you and your wife can decide together how far you want to go physically. It’s all your decision.Dating an ace/aro, or dating as an ace/aro, can still be a lot of fun. It’s nice to get to know somebody really well without dealing with sexual tension or the whole floaty in love thing. I still feel a degree of romantic attraction, but it’s not that strong. It’s great for both partners to know the other isn’t in it just for their body.For support, check out various ace/aro websites. There are plenty of guides and resources out there for people like us.Or try Tumblr. They are very accepting and understanding over there, with a lot of aces and aros populating the site. In fact, they tend to understand sexuality better than almost anyone. This is one of my favorite Tumblr posts of all time:TL;DR: Say hello to being asexual!Hope this helps! Message me anytime you’d like.~C.D.