Why am I so bad at social studies?
Social studies is boring because it assumes that we are who we are today because of history and heritage. Most Americans aren't even raised with culture. So social studies is boring because it isn't relateable to anyone except the rich christians who legally came here from Europe against Native American's authority... Now Social Sciences are cool. Anthropology, Behaviorism, Psychology, Sociology, and even Sexuality are all awesome classes. But to study social history.... Zzzzzzzzz. Just find someone to do the work for you. It's indoctrination either way.
Is it bad to be socially awkward?
I am a very awkward person. Everything I say and do is horribly awkward. But normally it doesn't bother me. Normally I wouldn't consider myself shy, either. But lately a lot of my friends have been calling me shy, and I was wondering if that is prohibiting me from getting close to people. I live my life in my head- I am constantly thinking. So I normally am not paying attending to what's happening around me and often miss things people are saying. And I stay away from most social situations (like parties and things with a lot of people) so people have all these inside jokes that I'm not apart of, which causes me to zone out and become even more out of the loop. Again, normally I don't mind, but I'm going to be going to college soon, and I don't want this to prohibit me from making friends. Even when I am with my friends now, I refrain from saying things because what I'm thinking might be a little mean, and I don't like saying mean/hurtful things. Or I simply won't have anything to say in return. Also, when I'm in uncomfortable situations or with people I don't know, my brain shuts down. I don't know what to do or say, so I don't say anything. I don't know if this has to do with anything, but I have been known to have anxiety attacks, and new situations and crowds have been known to increase my anxiety. I like who I am, and I don't exactly want to change. I mean, I'm not fond of 90% of the people I meet (which might just have to do with the immaturity of high school students) and would much rather be by myself than around people I don't like, so that pushes me even farther from people. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't want to be alone forever, but will my actions keep me away from people? Or are there people out there who are like me, or can love me for who I am? My little sister is a lot like me, and we are best friends, but we can't be the only people like this.
I'm Socially Isolated?
I have severe social anxiety and extremely bad social skills, i really can't hold a conversation with anyone unless it's close family or a really good friend. Pretty much from the age of 12 and on my life has been horrible and now i've been in high school for a few years and its not going to good either. I have one friend who doesn't go to this school and aside from family i have no one and no social life. Everyday i'm home and do don't do anything except play games and going on the computer. I've just been coping with it for so long that it's like the only way i know how to live my life and i feel like i'm just accepting that i'm going to be socially isolated for good and i really don't know what it's like to go out and have a social life. I'm starting to not even want a social life like i would rather stay the way i am because it feels normal to me.
Why am i antisocial?
The simple answer is fear. At birth, or shortly thereafter your MIND took on the deeply repressed fear of your father and now your MIND causes you to replicate the way your father deals with this fear within himself. This fear is a misperception held as real by your MIND. The way through it is to embrace the anxiety your MIND causes you to experience when you are faced with "social" events. What you fear is who and what you are within yourself at a fully non-conscious level of awareness. I know that what you fear is not real, but consists of misperceptions taken on by your MIND.... because your MIND is incapable of perceiving the subtle Energy of your parent's Souls and Spiritual realms. So your MIND uses its own fear to cause you to be in fear of yourself. A real bummer, but everyone is impacted to some degree by this reality. Oddly enough, the more sensitive [Spiritually evolved] one is, the more intense the fear. Begin to intentionally force yourself to attend social events and to intentionally engage in discussions with people... no matter how anxious you feel about doing so. Keep in mind that this anxiety is not your own fear, but is that of your MIND... and that it is a misperception. Simply work through the anxiety... and before long, you will begin to really enjoy socializing, and you can begin to search out wall flowers and encourage them to open up to others. Peace
Why is having a low social drive "bad"?
Yeah, you should read, Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto: by Anneli Rufus. It explores all the reasons why people have negative views about loners. I think people are just scared of the unknown. When they see someone sitting there being quiet, not laughing, not engaging in small talk, etc, they start to form negative views about that person. They are snobby, they are weird, they are slow, they are dangerous, etc. We live in an extroverted world. We are used to people screaming, yelling, jumping up and down, to get their point across. When someone is not doing the same, we say, "What's up with them?" They don't realize that some people, introverts, don't require or crave as much social interaction as others. Introverts are just as smart, nice, friendly, creative, aware of their world, as extroverts. But, they don't feel the need to talk as much and are just happy with the few friends they have. I know I have a low social threshold, but it doesn't mean I am not like everyone else. It just takes awhile to get to know me. And, I don't feel the need to talk, talk, talk. But, I do have a certain about of socialization I require to be happy, too.
My social skills are so bad, i just want to cry...?
I am 19. Long story short, I've been isolated from the outside world pretty much my entire life (Not my fault. Dad forced me to be...) Because of this I literally have zero social skills, I can barely even communicate with people online, due to the fact I never know what to say to people. I'm always scared/worried I'll say something wrong, stupid, or I'll accidentally say something that will hurt the persons feelings. Also, this is probably going to sound really pathetic, but when I can't think of anything to say to a message (which is all the time), I'll ask a few questions on yahoo answers asking ''What should I say to this message'' and then whatever the people who answer the question come up with, I use that to reply to the message... Pathetic, isn't it...? Oh and, not to mention I take forever to reply to a message, like 3-5 days, sometimes even a week or more if it's a long message. I see other people communicating with each other so easily and it makes me depressed and jealous... Unless you've been isolated from people your whole life, you have no idea how I feel. Having zero social skills is so frustrating for me. It sometimes even causes me to have anxiety/panic attacks because I feel like if I don't reply to a message the person will hate me and never talk to me again. Or if I say something stupid or something, the person will still hate me... I don't know what to do about my bad social skills anymore. Any ideas? Thanks