I can't trust anyone and I don't like people.?
Hey, so I am 20 years old. I have no friends and nobody really talks to me. I try making conversation with people and put forth an effort to make friends but nobody is interested. I have no social skills and do no trust a single person. I have been stabbed in the back and screwed over so many times that I don't think anyone is a good person anymore. Whenever I discover a trait in someone new (that someone in the past who screwed me over possessed) I don't want anything to do with them because they all end up being the same. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself and it's impossible to build any up if I keep getting reminded of how shitty everyone is every time I come out of my shell to talk to people. I just don't understand anyone and I feel like an alien. I hate big crowds and I fail at engaging in the simplest of communications. One thing that makes the situation worse is that I get my hopes up and expect the world out of each new individual I meet. I refuse to befriend someone who drinks or does drugs because I have witnessed the hurtful and stupid things that can take place while under the influence of them. It seems like every girl cheats these days and if they don't then they can easily be persuaded to when they hang out with guys who try to get them drunk or high. I don't respect guys who take advantage of girls like that either. What do I do, and how do I trust anyone in this world anymore?
How may people don't like tacos?
My friend said I was the only one in America that doesn't like tacos. So I've made it my goal to see just how many people don't like tacos. Please, i do not want people telling me I'm crazy, just answers.
Why do people hate working? am i the only one who likes working?
i hear so many people complaining about there job. "oh my job sucks", "i don't want to go to work!!" "i have to work 11-7 today, kill me!!" those are all things i have heard people say about there job. i have been looking for a job for 2 years and finally got one a month ago as a dishwasher and i love my job!! people on Facebook would write status's complaining about working and it really irritated me becuzz u have a job and i didn't you don't know how lucky you really are!! and i'm not talking about full time jobs i'm talking about jobs like cashier, or scooping ice cream, and those little jobs that 18 year olds get.
Why can't we as people understand that there is only one God?
Because of the difficulty of seeking a physical corporeal creator of the physical world.Even according to the best of the scientific theories, the big bang, the universe originated from a very dense but finite mass.It is illogical that a creator is some other finite physical being. Yet, it is also illogical that a physical creator (like anything else physical) could be infinite.So, to understand the One God, it is necessary to understand that the Creator is NOT a physical being.And this requires envisioning the concept of a single, all encompassing - yet unified - being, that is beyond all dimensions of our physical concepts.He is the sole singularity, with no possible divisions, and infinite in all ways, encompassing all, yet all things are one within Him.In the Jewish Bible, He is called YHWH, meaning approximately “existence-giver”. His unity - something difficult for people to grasp - means that there is no division between His essence, His actions and His Name (which includes creation, which is unified within Him despite its particularity and apparent divisions to our senses).The goal of understanding all this is that we are all part of God. Creation was a hiding of His emanation in such a way and to a certain degree, so as to allow for the universe and our physical selves, to “have space” that He doesn’t completely fill, as well as free will which derives from the soul He breathed into us (from His essence).And after all this is said and digested, it remains true that there is still only the non-physical indivisible One God who contains us all, and it is all unified within Him.
If people don't text me, and I am always the one who texts them first, do I look needy and desperate?
I dont think you should worry about that.If you do, and lets say you stop talking. Even he/ she can do the same (to avoid looking desperate).So, there you have a problem, both are not communicating due to their desperation problem.Its good if you are making the conversation. It shows you care. Its not your business or your concern what others think of you. But if equal effort is not put in by the other side, he/she doesnt care much about you.Its your call to just care or get something in return.Move on.And I dont think desperation is bad. People want to judge you to make you look inferior than them. They will find any fault they can within you.I dont have friends whom I can speak my heart out. If that one person comes whom I feel I can share my thoughts with, then hell yeah I'll be desperate for him/her.Its just like this: You didnt eat a single gram of sugar for a long time. When its time to eat it, you will be desperate, eager to munch on it. People will call you desperate but they wont understand how hard it was to hold out on sugar for that long.
Are there some people who don't like traveling?
Yes! We do exist!I understand a lot of people here on Quora love traveling and this isn’t going to get great support!But if you are reading this, do read till the end!Now, Why don’t I like traveling?I love my everyday life.How can that be an answer?Let me explain…Traveling is for people who want to run away from their everyday life.Now, if you are an ardent traveler, this may get you fuming, but hey, wait, just think,now before I break it out, let me ask, why do you travel?To get new experiences, meet new people, try new food , blah, blah…All these are things, we find in everyday life.Don’t believe me?I know you wouldn’t.From the bus driver whom you saw today, to, the local vegetable vendor who was trying to scream his throat out in the morning, you definitely see new people everyday.From having your car punctured on a crucial day ,to ,meeting your old school friend on road some fine day, our lives already offer us with too many unexpected experiences!Food?Yeah! That’s a tough one to convince, but wait, do you know about that local food stall on the third street from your house? No? I know you won’t!You are worried about the food miles away but you still haven’t figured out that beautiful local restaurant next door!I would say, these are excuses people give for traveling!It’s not the experiences, or the food, that often gets people traveling!It’s their mindset to escape from the everyday life.People simply don’t love the life they live everyday.Maybe they hate their job, their neighbor, their parents or whatever!People want to get away from these villans, as far as possible.They see traveling as a solution.Now, Why don’t I travel?I find happiness in my everyday life.I’m able to look at people you would simple ignore in your everyday life!I’m able to make memorable experiences from things you wouldn’t even consider a thing in your everyday life!I’m able to find great food in our locality, that you would miss invariably!So, why do people travel?To escape from their everyday life and that’s all. PERIOD.Why don’t I travel?I’m happy living my everyday life and It’s a pleasure. So why should I try and run away from it!Thanks for your patience to get till here! I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone deliberately.Sorry If truth hurts!
When did you realize people don't care about you?
I realised people don’t care about me when I understood they were too busy with their own journey, just like me, and they had no time to care about the little me. And this was such a relief !I stopped admiring people, looking up to celebrities or random achievements, but instead I could focus on developping myself the way I wanted to.I know now that people want to care about each other, we are all concerned with each other actually, but it’s just that most of the time we are too much entangled in our mind reality, and we don’t have time to care.Furthermore, I realized that I am the only one who can care about myself in the best way possible.I think expecting people to care about ourselves is a form of complaining that will never find a solution in blaming others for not caring about us. It’s not people’s job to care about you.Of course it’s great to receive love and care, it’s liberating. To give love and care is liberating too. But expecting to receive care, like we deserve it, is counterintuitive I think.
Why are people so judgemental? Am I the only one who hates that?
You are absolutely not the only one who dislikes that.I believe that people are judgmental because whatever quality they see in someone else speaks to how they feel about themselves in some way. I think that their judgmental actions are actually a projection of their own insecurities. Through my own experience during times of my life when I was judgmental and unforgiving, I can say that my own feelings had little to do with the other person and more to do with my insecurities.Today I do not participate in gossip and try not to talk negatively of anyone if they are not around. However, before I matured and was very much a broken and insecure person, other people's behavior would incite anger, jealousy, sadness, or some other negative feeling, but I assure you, almost always it had nothing to do with them.Today, if I feel judgmental towards someone, I try not to talk negatively of them, although I am not perfect. I need to check myself if I feel hateful towards someone. “You spot it, you got it.” I try to realize that it is my own baggage, and no one has the power to make me feel a certain way. Now that is a fact. People have influence, but ultimately no one has the power to change my feelings.I could be wrong about this, but just keep in mind that judgmental people could be the way they are because of their own internal problems and insecurities. Not that this makes their behavior ok, but it really speaks to something about them, not anyone else.Ghandi said, “We must become the change we want to see.” So remember, you can't control how anyone else feels- that's their own shit that they can walk around with if they choose. Also, every person has the capacity for hate and evil, so if you want to experience a world with less judgment, become the change that you want to see, and find out what you can do better each day, because that is all you can control.
Religious people scare me, am I the only one?
I know a number of religious people that genuinely scare me. One of them is trying to write letters to the government suggesting that we bomb Muslims and force all survivors into concentration camps. It's very disturbing, he'll go into detail about how the Muslims should be tortured and forced to watch their children die. This man would be my father. When religion clouds your moral judgements like that, it can result in some frightening things.
Am i the only one who thinks people who smoke weed reguarly are low life stoners?
In many cases you are correct. However, there are plenty of people who smoke weed on a regular basis who are still productive members of society. One of my best friends, the salutatorian of my graduating class, smokes weed a few times a week. She was accepted to Yale and Cornell. She has also been involved in several internships at NYU. Not to mention the fact that she is a wonderful person and far from a low life.