Why do people get upset over small things?
this is actually a very complicated question, believe it or not. many people have experienced extreme traumas in their life (car accidents, fights, abuse, etc.) and have not dealt with the trauma appropriately. the negative energy can stay logged in your body for a very long time and can come out in strange times. (this is documented in psychology). mix what was written above with our growing narcissistic society, in which we are become more self-centered people who have no regard for others and will do almost anything (even unethical) to get what we want. there's a actually a lot more i could say about this topic, but i don't want to write a novel. hehe lastly, some people are just down right angry. they might even have good reason to be angry, unfortunately, if they never learn to manage their anger, they tend to take it out on random people instead of the person or situation that really deserved it.
Why do people get angry with you on small things?
They might be in a lot of pain, and annoyance/anger is be their habitual response to small irritating things that they regard as stupid or unnecessary intrusions into their ‘inner world’. I’ve found ‘inner world’ a concept with which many people are not familiar. When I’m meditating, dozing, or purposely sitting away from others, back turned, it’s not uncommon for someone to barge in: speak loudly/sit down heavily/too close if I’m on a couch. This even happens when I think I’m sending signals I don’t want to be addressed: I’m away from others/back to group/eyes closed/writing in a journal. I realize that some people haven’t a clue about body language. An adult asked me the other day what) ‘body language’ is (when I used the term). I assume everyone knows; most people I know are aware what it is. That made me look at my assumptions. How complicated communication is today, and I do get irritated (if I’m irritated, these interruptions aggravate me). I get irritated when people misuse/can’t differentiate ‘irritate’ from ‘aggravate’, they use ‘to’ when they mean ‘too’, or they misspell there/their/they’re. So there. Be for-warned: You’ve been advised of some of my pet peeves and irritations. By the way, “Forwarned is half an octopus.” (if anyone reading this gets it, congratulations!)
Why do people get offended at the smallest things?
some people take offence very easily but some dont
So many people are so small and petty and keep stressing on non issues. Why don't people become serious and do great things?
It's all about evolution, social exposure and educational background. You can only take the horse to the water. You can't make it drink. By talking about this, you indulge in petty talk, and by answering it I indulge in petty issues. Sorry.
Why do I get hurt so much even for small things?
Because you hope too much from them,because you think they will say more comforting words than what you already heard.Because in your mind, everyone does pay a really good attention to you and make you their genuine first priority,When in a hard disbelivingly thing for a facts is,They don’t. Never did and never will.And It is not a necessarily bad thing. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re pathetic and childish.it’s just how people actually are. It’s okay to to get hurt, as long as you remind yourself that it will be okay with time and a better perspective.If you learned to rely on yourself more than what you do to them, you’ll be more okay and less hurt by whatever they said.
Why are people so unhappy about little things?
I'd like to mention 3 likely things:No major struggles or challengesWe have no great war, or great depression. There is no reminder of or real danger of us losing our way of life. So people get complacent get used to a certain level of convenience so the baseline is very high. I also think we also expect perfection in most things due to media and producer claims. Our expectations are set very high and so disappointment is guaranteed.I have read and thought about a lot of problems in the world and the past so my frame of reference is changed. As a result I rarely get bothered by little things because they either don't matter or I work around them (a train delay means I use the time to read a book or play a game). When people forget that things can be much worse and have no major problems in their life, they inflate the issues they do have.Lack of personal goals / drivesAlthough our world allows us to easily learn almost any skill (via YouTube or other websites) and social networking means we can draw lots of attention to any cause, for the most part it backfires. It seems many people's hobbies consist of Facebook, watching movies / shows and sometimes partying. While they are fine, and I especially love partying, the need for a quick fix of satisfaction and fun has led many people to have no major hobbies or interests. It's easier than ever but most people can't be bothered learning to make short-films, code apps, doing something about some problem in the world etc. I feel that having a hobbies that I think and spend a lot of time on crowds out the little things as I am focused on the big picture. Meanwhile, people who don't have such things going on, appear bored inside and thus focus on the little issues in front of them.Genetics / UpbringingI have noticed that some people are just naturally more resilient to problems in their life while others just can't handle even the smallest ones. I personally think its mostly genetics but parental upbringing is also a major factor. More and more I think that this is the biggest factor.
Why do people care so much about daily trivial things?
Whilst I agree with your sentiment (There are a lot of trivial things in the world, such as celebrities and so forth) you need to be careful about how you say it.A lot of the “trivial things” that people are about are actually much bigger than you think. For example, I used to wonder why my mother hated when petrol went up in price. Now that I own and run I car, i know. Sometimes the small things in life are the things that you need to take care of. Do not get me wrong, I worry about certain big things to (leaving the EU, Nuclear war), but I also care about what my children are going to eat today, as if they don't eat a healthy diet then this will affect their long term future.Sometimes it is a matter of knowing context for people concerns. Sometimes it's because people understand the trivial and have no interest\desire to know about the big things in life, as well.
Why do some people make small things a big issue (tension) in life?
Being a perfectionist and too calculative increases the chances of stress. When this stress hits then people start making issues even from small things to defend their core. I came across people who make big issues out of small things and learned that those people are expecting too much out of life, people around them and their own strength. Nothing in life is guaranteed yet these people choose to take things for granted. They think that by paying people you are entitled to get what you want. That just doesn't fit in. You can't enforce that even legal. People are free to react the way they want, we are not in slavery anymore. Even legal contracts can be ditched. Some of them also expect a lot from other people. Like in laws or wife or kids or parents etc.Sometimes it's taking things for granted, expectations from life and people create more issues. Because that is the time when we are defending our own values and dreams. Often being selfish leads to such incidents.
Why do some people get easily affected (upset) by little things? How can s/he resolve this?
As a general rule of thumb you can take it that the less control people have in their own life, the easier they are affected by what is happening around them.We only become upset by triggers that “bring the pot to boil over”. Which usually occur when we have had a very stressful time and/or when we do not have enough control in our own life, making it so stressful.These two things go almost hand in hand, as it is likely that you will have a stressful time when you are not in control and not being in control causes a lot more stressful factors to run amok.Think about it: if you had all the control over your own life, would you ever get upset by something small going wrong? After all, you have the power to change it, so why does it matter?The reason so many people get so upset about all these tiny things is simply because they are not aware that they have the power to change almost everything about their life!Obviously there are accidents and things that are out of our control, but even then we have the power to decide how we react to those things and to change them, or at least fight them.To really get control back in your life all you must do is actively decide on what you want to do rather than to react to what is happening.People that overreact to certain things let their emotions get the better of them during those times, even though they do not need to. You have the power to decide whether or not you want to react to an emotion or whether or not you just want to sit back and do something different.The difficulty in this comes when we are not aware of this power and do not think about it, making our emotions take control.Learn to actively decide on what you want by:Being intentional before you go into an argument/situation.Keeping your eye on the prize. AKA what you want to get out at the end.Reminding yourself that you are not a slave to your emotions.In the end, it you can react either way. You can take everything personally, decide that every little thing has huge problems it brings with it, or you can decide to take a deep breath, step back and look at the problem from an optimistic point of view.Stop being less than you can be and reach your goals. Send me a message saying "1 to 1" to get life coaching with me. Lukas Schwekendiek
I am a very sensitive person, small things bother me a lot. And then my mind keeps thinking about those petty issues for days. I want to be a stronger person who doesn't get affected by irrelevant things. What should I do?
I don’t know if anyone already has told this, but what I am about to tell works like a charm for me. I was also a very sensitive person and now I’m proud to say I came out of the sensitive circle.All I did was started forgetting, yes you read that right, I started to FORGET things. We forget a lot of things in our day to day life. Why not apply this to our problem and come out of it?But this came with a bane for me, I started to forget almost everything. I needed more practice to stream what kind of thoughts to be forgotten.I come from a lower middle class family where securing a job after degree was the top priority in order to help the family. But to my fate, I lost three golden opportunities from world class companies because I was sensitive and whined about the lost opportunities and did not concentrate on another. This bothered me a lot and that is when I decided to change myself into a stronger person than I was.How did I just like that forget things? My single shot on helping my family was taken away and how did I just like that forget? I’m a movie addict and watch a lot of movies, tv series and such.This may sound lame to some, even my own family thought I lost my mind as when I had to concentrate on getting a job than watching movies in my computer. But it helped me ease my mind and let things go. I watched comedy movies, laughed my heart out and stayed out of reality for a while. I came out fresh after a months time, and started looking for a job again and got one.What I’m trying to tell is being sensitive about things and thinking about it not only is a waste of time and energy but also an anchor pulling you down from moving forward.Everything is in our own mind, contemplating, confusing and achieving is all in our hands. Pick out what you want.Enjoy this life carefree. Y.O.L.O !Cheers.