Why Are Asian Parents So Unloving

Why are Asian parents usually more controlling?

Asian parents expect certain things from their children(culture thing). As a norm, Asian parents invest a fair bit in their children e.g. education,not kicking them out at 18 and supporting the kids until they are financially independent.Sometimes they also want what is best for children (from the parent's perspective) and want to protect them from the dangers of the world. This of course doesn't help the children as they need to make mistakes and learn from them. I think this was true of Asian parents until the last generation. As the world becomes a smaller place and people are able to absorb ideas from various cultures, some of these things are improving for the better. This is especially true of migrant families.

Why are Asian parents so controlling? My parents force me to practice violin and piano for hours and I rarely spend actual time with them.

I assume that you are in you early to mid teens.This is a cliche’d story : Most Asians in the United States are immigrants to the country (as opposed to those Asians born in the US) and recognize the benefits of hard work. If you can prove you can work hard towards one worthwhile goal, then you can work hard to any worthwhile goal. From my perspective, what they seem to be trying to do is to get you to understand that you need to work hard at something worth pursuing. Also, they seem to be making sure that you do not give up easily, especially if you have a perceived talent for music.Perhaps what you should evaluate for yourself is : Are your parents interested in music ? Are you interested in music ? If you both are, then talk to your parents about taking you to a concert of your local symphony orchestra, or if that is too expensive, find a youth orchestra that is playing locally and go to their concerts - it’s usually free as they are glad for the attendance. That would get them to spend more time with you.If you’re not interested in music, perhaps it is time for you to talk to them about what does interest you - hopefully you have a passion for something that in their view is worthwhile ?

Why are Indian/Asian parents so strict about academics?

A2AFrom my own perspective, I come from a poor immigrant family. I can’t say whether or not social class will affect others’ experiences. In my parent’s mind, they believed the only way to become successful was to have good grades which may be true in the Eastern school system but not so much here in the West. Sure, it helps to open up opportunities but most companies don’t care what grades you get as long as you can do the work. But try explaining that to my mother.The negative reaction to anything less than an A is due to panic that the child won’t amount to anything and will remain as poor as the parents. Being poor is hard and any decent parent won’t wish that kind of lifestyle on their children. My mom’s parents died when she was young and still in school. She had to raise her younger brother and basically starved, trying to make ends meet by selling rice. Eventually she learned sewing skills and became a seamstress but there were several years in which she didn’t know where the next meal would come from.She wants to be assured that I have the ability to keep a roof over my head and food in my fridge the only way she knows how: through education. It’s also why there’s a stereotype that Asian parents want their kids to become doctors or engineers. These are stable jobs that earn higher salaries. Unfortunately for my parents, I’m an artsy fartsy kid. Also, every parent likes to brag about their kids and what little Johnny has done. I swear it’s a favorite pastime for middle-aged Asian ladies to get together and try to one-up each other through their children’s accomplishments.

Why do Asian parents tend to be more strict than other races?

Cultural and they expect their kids to support them in their old age…. can't do that without money. They know that.Not part of the American culture. Families in America expect adults to take care of themselves in old age…that's why we have retirement plans, 401k, 403b, Medicare, savings plans, time shares, investments. Young folks don't want to do that. They want mommy and daddy to take care of them all their lives. (Trust fund babies). You will hear me say over and over again to save your money so when you get old you have some and don't let someone take it away. There are families that take care of the aging but is not cultural. It is personal.Asian folks are very family oriented and know that if they don't teach certain techniques, kids won't get it. Asian people don't want to go into nursing homes. That's changing a bit but not much. Asian folks understand how quickly a child can go astray. They are very aware of the ways of the world. Good folks don't want their kids to go down a dark and lonely path.Nothing against other races, cultures and ethnicities. We are all different and we are all the same. The question is about Asian folks. If you want my take on other cultures ask me about them.

Why are Asian parents so unsupportive in comparison to other parents?

As an Asian, I remember that my parents were very vicious to me. I was a fairly smart student and I was also an avid piano player. I remember that my parents made me quit piano because I “only” got 2nd place in a state competition. One time in school, there was a really hard test. I got a B, and a lot of people got and F. My parents said that I was stupid and that all the other Asians got and A. When it was time to study for a math test, my parents would take the study book and make me to do 70 pages! They said that 70 pages is nothing and that they can do it in an hour. I was very discouraged and depressed as a child. My dad always called me a “f*cking idiot” and said that I was not his son. Ironically, he screamed at me if I cussed, even though he was the one who taught me the word “f*ck” when I was only two or three. He always thought he was right and thought that I was really dumb, even though I was the star of my Scholastic Bowl team. My mom called me “a piece of junk” and always verbally abused me. I even saw her kick my brother down the stairs because he “stole” some toys from school (they were really some fake rocks that were part of his art project). Another time, when I was in 8th grade, I went to a private school where 8th grade is part of high school. A senior who I knew fairly well gave me some skittles. When I got home and gave some to my brother, my mom intercepted. She asked me where the candy was from. If I lie, my mom makes me sit in the garage for an hour, so I told her that it was from a senior. She screamed at me and said that it must be drugs disguised as candy, so in the dead of winter, I ended up sitting in the garage barefoot in shorts and a T-shirt as punishment. However, my parents are not always mean to me and they sometimes treat me with kindness. In my opinion, all that discipline helped me in a way because it prepared me for struggles as an adult. It is hard to be an Asian in the United States because of Affirmative Action and other social barriers, and in a way, cruel Asian parents are trying to toughen their kids up. Still, I think that there are better ways to do this.

Why are many Asian parents too strict and overprotective?

Please tell me if you find out the answer to this question. I have lived with my indian mom and dad my whole life. I was born here I america, but they are from india. I can’t tell you the amount of times i have been beat. I figured that was normal, and i was socially awkward until 6th grade. I had no friends in elementary school. But then, in 6th grade i dont know, but something clicked. I gained a sense of humor in a way. I then talked to people, and i have a good bit of friends now.(im in 10th grade now) i still get beat. I cant fight back, even though i am strong enough now, because i dont want to get kicked out of my house. I get criticized(*cough cough beat cough cough*). Back then. From 5th grade- 8th grade, i lived for that 1 or 2 hours a week i played my ps3 if i was “good that week.” I was still sad. I learned all about how my friends were congradulated for an A. They earned money. They met eachother outside of school. I did none of that. If i didnt get an A i was beat. If they got an A they got to go to dinner somewhere. They got to play their xbox/playstation any day of the week for as long as they want. I had no free time after school. Do homework and then do more work my mom or dad gave me. I was depressed. I practically decided the way to be happy was to make it where nothing can be taken from me. I didnt know why my life was like this. Then 9th grade came. We had to get laptops for school. I got a pretty decent laptop(because it was for school of course) . I realized, they can't take away what they don't know about. I found out about steam. Basically i could play all my ps3 games on my laptop. My life changed. I learned some hacking and basically stole money from others phones. Especially androids. I made a Bitcoin wallet and stole others money from phones on the same wifi.I made a pretty big steam that way. I have 100's of games and am around level 560. I play with my friends after school now via steam.i realized I can tell my parents I'm doing homework,but play steam and drag “homework” till 12 pm/am. Then u don't have to do the work they give me either. I have fun. But, I would trade all of this in an instant to be a normal child. So, if anyone knows how, please tell me what I can do.