Why my parents think I owe them?
Your parents have struggled to provide for you for many years. They have given you attention, love, and assistance. THE LEAST THEY DESERVE FROM WHEN YOU NO LONGER NEED THEIR HELP IS GRATITUDE. how would you express that GRATITUDE depend on you, your life, and social values you got.In my culture, I am from Burkina Faso( West Africa), you should assist and care for your old parents ( old: you can afford for yourself and they are less productive). You should take them with you and stay with them if they need company and their daily life. We don't believe in sending them away to the care home ( we don't have any anyway), and we don't also just take caregiver and done. If they want to still live alone, you can pay for all other needs. You should visit them as often as possible, you should show them respect, love and patience. They should be free and able to show you around as they beloved son or daughter.And as a Muslim, there is more to be done. We don't take it as task, but as a blessing, because many couldn't see theirs old, nor grow up by their sides. Or others do not even know theirs names. It is a blessing to be able to hold your mom up, clean her, make her laugh, and feed her ( by hand and by paying for it) as she did for you, and remember she is will still do today if you come to be handicapped for any reason.Do you owe them anything? No, should you do anything for them? Yes, it is a blessing. Your life is what they make it for you.If you come to believe they didn't love you much or didn't care much for you, try to go back and understand their situation at the time. And lastly just think: if my mom kept me in her womb for 9.months, she might have loved me in some way or the other. Because caring a baby for 9 months and delivering it, is the hardest, honorable but most risky thing one can do to oneself.Oh yes you should think about returning something to them. And that shouldn't stop you from doing more for your own kids.
Why do my parents think I'm stupid?
I'm 13 and in 8th grade. I do very well in school, too. If I do good on a test or a worksheet that I thought I was going to do bad on, I get exited and tell my mom and dad. They always say stuff like "It's about time," and stuff. They are always nice to me, except for when they act like this. They get along great and we are a great, nice family except they all think I's just some big dummy. I get A's and once and a while B's. I act smart, and do smart things. They treat me like some mentally retarded blonde or something. They are NOT joking, either. They really think I'm stupid and I have no idea why! Please help me make them know I'm smart. It's starting to really hurt my feelings and annoy me!
What do your parents think of you?
My mother thinks I’m a good friend. We don’t have a vertical relationship by way of authority. We joke, we play games. She’s happy I’ve grown into a positive, open-minded and independent person. She likes me for who I am. She has never worried about me.My father has some illusions about me, since he didn’t live with me from the age of 6 up until the age of 20, when I moved in with him for a year, for university. Apparently he thinks other people have to push me, pressure and guilt motivate me and that I should do as he says. This however isn’t true, because I push myself the most, pressuring me is the best way to stop me from doing things (because I will not give you the joy of taking credit for it) and I generally don’t do as people tell me to (unless I agree with them). I’m as hard-headed as he is and that has resulted in quite a few conflicts, lots of friction and a general sense of “he doesn’t understand me really, and he doesn’t want to (by how he behaves), but he still wants attention because family = nr. 1”. Right now, he is satisfied, because I’m employed, I have more degrees than him, I have my own home etc etc. I think his behaviour can be explained by the fact that he has worried about me, mostly because of his own hardships in life. I try to understand him.
Why do my parents think I'm worthless?
Hi, Everytime I do something, my parents always say something like I'm stupid and that I don't know how to do anything. For example, today I got cable tv for my parents as a surprise gift and when my dad got home he yelled me and said I was worthless and useless. This was only because I let the guy drill a hole on the floor. It doesn't even freaking look bad so I don't know why he's so mad. Also, when I was in the 6th grade I was getting really bad grades and I overheard my dad telling my sister that I'm never gonna amount to anything... :( I still remember that day cause I cried myself to sleep. Even now, I still second guess myself a lot and I have little to no confidence in anything I do because I'm starting to believe my dad. I hate this feeling, because I know I'm not useless but sometimes I can't help but second guess myself because of the constant criticisms I receive at home. From time to time, I even think of wanting to die in my sleep because I feel so useless sometimes. What can I do? :( Thanks!
Why do my parents think I do not deserve anything?
i don't know why should you relate the incident with your being a girl and the so-called low-grades? you are adorable as you are and please stop comparing anything of you with others.if you do, first thing you lose with this thoughts is you stop appreciating others (would you stop loving a child it so smiles but that you don't have orderly teeth!); second you begin losing grip over your own achievement earned by hardship.don't try to show to others, challenge yourself.i hope you will be a great lawmaker of your country in the future, my dear friend.
Why do my parents think that school is easy?
I'm a parent. I took hard classes in high school, and my sons are taking them now. I don't automatically expect A's, but I do expect my sons to do their best. If they come home with a C in any class, AP or otherwise - if I've seen them studying and if they've either come to me or gone to their teacher for help, then I'm fine. However, if I see an A minus, and I haven't seen them studying or doing homework, well, our house will not be happy for a while. It sounds to me like your parents know you are intelligent. They probably believe you are more intelligent than they were in school. Therefore, if they got A's in regular classes, to their way of thinking you should get A's in more advanced classes. I would suggest alloting a certain amount of study time to each course (20 min to a half hour for easier courses, and 45 min to an hour for your more challenging courses). You probably won't need all that time but plan on using it IF NEEDED. Tell your parents that that's what you're willing to commit to (0 to 2 1/2 hrs per day depending on your course load) and that if you thereafter get a B, it's a B that you'll be proud of because you've worked hard for it. Tell them that if they see you putting in the effort, you expect them to be proud of you too. . You also might want to make sure your parents understand that GPA's for AP courses are weighted and that your B or C is the real-time equivalent to their A or B. All in all, I believe they know you're smart. And they want what's best for you. They just need their eyes opened to the fact that you're trying. Please try (though I know it's hard at times) to cut them some slack. If you treat your parents as adults, I guarantee that eventually they will start behaving as adults - listening to you and respecting your opinions. In the long run they love you.
Why do my parents think I'm useless?
If your parents have actually told you you are useless, that must have been very hurtful and hardly likely to encourage you to make changes they might want.Maybe your parents get exasperated with you, as parents all do at times, and say things they don’t mean. What you could do is decide to show them you are not useless by setting yourself some goals that you think you can achieve in small, achievable steps.Listen to your parents’ complaints with an open mind and ask yourself if there is some truth in them. For instance, do you work hard enough at school, take care of your room and your appearance? Maybe you spend a lot of time at home and any family can get on one anothers’ nerves if they spend too much time together. Try to get out more, socialise and mix with people who will improve your self-image rather than damage it. Take up a new hobby or be determined to become really good at an existing one.Your attitude needs to be: ‘I’ll show you you are wrong about me!’: that way something positive can result from this situation!
My parents think im doing drugs! and im not?
Maybe you all need to have a real serious talk in which you listen...and let them say what they feel....and you respond to them and say how you are FEELING I can totally understand how you feel when you feel accused of something that isn't even so.... So, I would try that...and I would also let them know that you would be willing to do what it takes to let them know that you are living a healthy lifestyle... If you feel like it is beyond talking, then maybe you need to write them a letter and let them know how you feel...that way you can totally express how you feel.... But, if none of that works, then you may need to look at focusing on continuing living a healthy lifestyle, but don't live it to prove anything to them...live it to prove it for yourself... They may never get it...they may never apologize...and you can't be looking for them to understand you forever.... I had the same thing happen to me when I was younger....and until this day, my parents still treat me like they should expect the worse... I have found that living my life healthy for me and my family is what is most important....I can make all of the best choices, but it is like my parents don't respect that position of my life...they always want more and more... But, I live my life NOW...to be the best I can be for me, my husband, and my kids.... I still haven't gotten an apology from my parents for how they hurt me when I was a kid...and still don't get one when they insult me now.... But, I love me because I do what is best for my life...I even pat myself of the back every now and then...God showed me that ....