Why do some people like making others feel bad about themselves?
Those are people with either a very low sense of self-esteem or a very high one. Narcissists are very good at making others feel bad about themselves because it's how they control them. They believe that they are the absolute best at everything and have to prove it constantly. They need to keep people in thrall to them to feed their egos, and instilling doubt and pain is a very effective way of doing that. And people who feel bad about themselves like the company. I have a friend who I mostly love, but for whom this is a very bad habit. She has low self-esteem for a number of reasons, and so she talks about others behind their backs and will do her best to do injury to them when she can. She feels remorse afterwards, but that doesn't stop her. Narcissists and sociopaths don't feel remorse.Fortunately, they are not the majority. I think most of us from time to time will add a little extra salt to the wound in someone we dislike, but we generally feel enough empathy for one another not to do that.
I'm eloping and people are making me feel bad.?
I'm eloping and I'm getting mixed reactions...most of them making me feel bad. One woman actually told me that it didn't matter what I wore to get married in because no one would see me so I shouldn't care. Another woman said that she's so sorry and wanted to know when I was due (I am NOT pregnant). Another couple actually insinuated my parents were cheap and didn't want to throw the party (my father is out of a job and it almost crushed him to hear that). We are eloping because his father can't travel and my family is already arguing over the details. I always wanted something small but just my family is over 100 people. We're still going to a church AND we're having a pastor preside. Why are people being so rude to me about it? When did eloping become such a sin??
Why do i like making other people feel bad?
Some people act like this because they've been bullied or otherwise made to feel inadequate in the past; others do it because they have self-esteem issues and want to feel better about themselves by bringing others down. I don't know if either or both of these apply to you, but my theory is it could simply be that a part of you enjoys having power over people and takes advantage of the ability to manipulate others' emotions in whatever means possible. It's kind of like a power trip in your own head, one of those things you might do "just because you can". Remember, though, if you have the ability to bring someone down, you also have the ability to help them get up again, to raise their spirits and their self-esteem. Basically what I'm saying is "use your powers for good" xD Clichéd, I know; but I believe you will get more fulfillment and self-worth out of healing rather than hurting.
Why do some people feel good about making others feel bad?
I struggle with this. I noticed that in myself, it's usually because of a sense of "justice." For example, I knew two people who were in a relationship together, but I didn't think they were a good couple. This was compounded because I disliked one of them, because he tended to be a know-it-all. When the two of them broke up, I delighted in it because it was "right." I didn't contribute to making them break up, and I'm not very close with either of them, but I delighted all the same.But I think it usually happens because someone is being hurt or was hurt in the past. I found out that I was being lied to about something very, very sensitive by someone very, very close to me. The instant it happened, I started to lash out at the person who had hurt me. I sent him literally hundreds of spiteful, hurtful texts and called him up and screamed at him for three hours. I took the attitude of "an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth." It was terrible and I kind of scared myself. But I think that this is the main reason that people delight in making others feel bad - they've been hurt, so they vent it by hurting others. For some people, they don't have to vent at the people who caused the hurt; they lash out at anyone.
Why do people feel a need to make others feel bad?
Hi there Not a very nice type of behaviour! generally these types of people are very depressed or angry, given their unhappiness and anger their behaviour becomes very negative and nasty, so what they are really doing is venting their anger at themselves towards others as they are usually to afraid to acknowledge and deal with their own problems and anger so therefor tend to view the world and people in a negative light. The top and bottom of it, is that they are very negative people that want other people to also be unhappy because in a sense they are jealous of and resent people that are positive or happy. Sad Situation
Why do some people make me feel bad about being quiet/shy?
There could be many reasons. Everything from insecurity to feeling threatened. There is no single reason for this feelling. I guess it also depends a bit on how they make you feel bad. If someone does it intentionally, then I would have to say that they are not someone you want to associate too much with. There are easily as many people that respect, apprciate and are attracted to those that are quiet or shy. Remember that you are who you are and need not change for anyone. :-)
Why do people try to make me feel bad about being shy?
Ever since I can remember I've been more quiet than most people. I was always very polite, and would talk if spoken to first, always smiled but just kept to myself. And for as long as I can remember people like teachers, friends, family were always trying to "fix" me to be more outgoing. People automatically assume that I have low self esteem, i'm weird, or just have a mental disorder. I personally like myself just fine, and find it annoying that some people always have to say everything on their mind at all times. My question is what is so wrong with being more quiet as long as you are polite, and why do people automatically assume I'm the one that needs changing? -Confused.
Why do people make me feel so bad about being tall?
Im 15 and 5'10 give or take a couple centimeters.. and my friends and other people always feel the need to point it out :/ I really hate it because I always feel so self-concious and slunch over and bend down some.I also think that none of the guys that go to my school are going to like me :{ cuz of the height. People tell me I'm pretty but then they'll say "your such a giant" etc. Its like they're saying im pretty but im too tall and a freak basically? Which even though it doesnt seem so bad, its very hurtful to me. I feel like the short girls have it so much easier. Im scared ill never get a boyfriend or anything because of mmy height. Soo why does everyone always point out im tall? Isnt it already obvious???????? This isnt just teens, its adults too >:[
How can I handle people who make me feel bad?
Do people dislike you or resent you? There’s a difference. The more people who ‘dislike’ you, the more influential you are. Possibly, they’re jealous of something you are or have. If people were truly dismissive, they’d say nothing to you at all because you wouldn’t exist for them.In any case, if their behavior bothers you, distance yourself from them as best you can. Let people know you do not appreciate their snide comments. You mention you are ‘unattractive and broken,’ indicating low self-esteem. You can raise your self-confidence by doing things you like and are good at. This will increase your inner-strength. Everyone is attractive to someone — eventually. Your time will come. If you have your youth, that is enough.If there is something you don’t like, deal with it, because the same themes will repeat themselves throughout your life until you face them head on. Don’t let others win by breaking you down.I grew up in a household where my brother was the King and I, the scapegoat. To this day, he tries to crush me under the heel of his shoe like a cockroach, but I refuse to accept it. I’m not going back in time and allowing my identity to be reduced to rubble to satisfy his ego. If we never speak again as a result, I’m fine with that. It’s the way it has to be. Life circumstances can be unfortunate, but you need to create boundaries and adhere to them. Some things are not on the table for negotiation - your humanity happens to be one of them!
Why do people make me feel bad for being short ??!!!?
Everybodys different... but why they make it seem like it my purpose or point or something... They even act bigotry to me. What is this ? Why do people change ?? What is this ?? I look perfectly normal. In fact, i'm 5'1