I made my girlfriend insecure?
So the other day I confessed that I had a thing for Asian women to my girlfriend. I love the way they look. But my girlfriend is the opposite of being Asian. But she's a very beautiful, petite Native American girl. When I told her, she got very silent and avoided me the rest of the day. Later that night, she called me and told me she was very upset. I was worried about her, I didn't want to hurt her. I just thought I'd be honest and let her know, but it's made things a lot worse and I feel horribly guilty for hurting her, she's so sweet to me too. The thing that I feel worse about is that I knew she had insecurities and a bad past. I love her so much and it's just driven a wedge between us. She can't even look at me, and she says she feels like a "phony", that she feels like she's not at all what I wanted and that she's not good enough for me. But I love her so much, I tell her she's beautiful everyday but now she simply doesn't believe it and she's growing apart from me. What do I do to make her feel better?
Do white girls like Asian guys? And why?
When I was growing up, I used to have a deep insecurity about my ethnicity (I’m Japanese). I thought that most girls, except for Asian girls, found Asian men to be unattractive. Plus, I was nerdy, liked to play video games, and studied math in my spare time.Consequently, I was a virgin until 23, but after my stepdad passed away shortly after my college graduation in 2013, I decided to do what I wanted with my life.I postponed grad school, went to Vegas for 6 months, and just tried to get laid. That first year in Vegas, I ended up sleeping with around 15 girls, and, to say the least, it was quite a learning experience. A lot of my former prejudices were either eliminated or greatly reduced.After those 6 months, I went to grad school, dropped out, moved back to Vegas, and became a nightclub promoter for a major club. I wound up sleeping with around 40 women that year, but I began to feel conflicted and disillusioned by the superficial pursuit of sex.I moved to Thailand for a few months, did a meditation retreat, and took my mind off of the world that I had left behind and began to focus on myself.I then began to realize that everyone is connected—we are one in the same. Although we have different appearances and different attributes and different preferences, ultimately, our energies and synergies determine who we connect with the most.I know that sounds psuedo-sciencey, but I believe that in the modern world, we don’t follow our soul’s intuition enough.So to answer your question, I’ve felt that deeper, more intimate connection with girls from a variety of backgrounds, and the more dating, social, and real world experience I gain, the less the appearances matter for me. I’ve seen the same to be the case from the female perspective too.My friend, Kevin, and I are actually doing a podcast on dating for Asian guys: Asian Tinder Stories - AGL Lifestyles
Do white guys want a serious relationship with an asian girl?
Hi! I'm an asian girl, 5'4, and I dance. My friends say that I'm pretty cute and attractive, but I have been confused by white guys for a very long time. I was in a very old culture for too long and there were too many things i dont like about it, so maybe that's why I really like white guys. I think they are cute, easy-going and fun. But I feel it real hard to find a serious relationship with a white guy. I have met lots of guys, most of them seem just like to fool around with me or want to experience getting an aisan chick, rare are serious. That often lead me to doubt myself that I being an asian girl is hard to be the first choice for white guys. Some sayings like "asian women are submissive, you treat them whatever they still wont leave" makes me feel even worse. I just want people like me as a girl not an aisan female with the perception of "more willing to please and weaker". Could anybody tell me,do white guys want a serious relationship with an asian girl or just fool around?
Why Do Asian Girls Dye Their Hair Blonde?
I see a lot of asian girls dying their hair blonde now a days, and wearing blonde or green contacts?? and white girls get criticized for being a blonde...are they trying to look like white girls?
Why do I feel bad when I see white girls dating black guys, am I racist?
Yes, you are.Here’s the good news: You have enough self-awareness to ask that question. That means you can change.I honestly don’t think it’s possible to be an American and not grow up being severely twisted up about race, no matter where you live, how your parents raised you, or how much pigmentation you have in your skin. All nations have their problems with racism, but the good-old USA, which likes to think of itself as having “solved” racism, constantly shows that it is one of the most racist nations in the world. Racism permeates our culture and poisons each and every one of us.But as individuals, we can choose to overcome it. I recommend, first of all, make some black friends. Or really any nonwhite friends. And be honest with them about your confusion once you get to know each other. Now don’t turn them into your guru on race—that’s not being a friend. Just be friends, and apologize when you screw up, and LISTEN TO THEM when they tell you you screwed up and why. And grow from it.Next, get your hands on pretty much anything written by James Baldwin. There’s a whole lot more writers out there who are amazing about race, but Baldwin really, really gets it, and he writes beautifully too. Baldwin, if you really read him and listen to what he has to say, will make you feel pretty awful about your racist feelings…but on the other hand, he holds out hope—not utopian kumbayah fake hope but real, practical hope that Americans can overcome our racial divisions and just be Americans.Being racist is lazy and weak and a really lousy way to live. An adult, one who is awake to reality, sees these poisons for what they are and works to purge them. Good luck.
Is it me or do Asian guys overcompensate for their insecurities from stereotypes?
Being an asian male, I know I've suffered from stereotypes, but it seems as if every single asian guy out there is WAY overcompensating, really really forced machismo and hypermasculinity. I find all these asian guys trying to deeply submerge themselves in the hip-hop culture as they were black themselves and scatter the words "rice" "chopsticks" or other disgustingly stereotypical words throughout it. They have the whole overrated street racing culture. Excessive use of the word Dragon or rice. I could go on forever. This doesn't just happen in America either, which is extremely sad. Every single "asian" party I've gone to in college was always full of sketchy douchebags out for a fight, and often times it always ended up in some fight. The funny thing is, the majority of the people I know who act like this were sweet, little, nerdy kids when they were younger who liked playing video games. Why is it that every Asian guy out there seem to be trying to prove something?
Do white girls get jealous when they see a black girl with a good-looking white guy?
Hello Atinuke, Sometimes they do. I think many different cultures have some tendencies to be rather jealous and protective of their women or vice versa, their men. Some white men often feel the same about their women going out with black guys. Also I have heard comments, murmurings as well as getting a few dirty looks when I have been with ladies from the Middle East, Asian or Latin American cultures as well. Cheers, Michael Kelly
Why do black girls get intimidated by a white girl with a donk?
I think it's the other way around. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41APzy5kq...
Do you think asians have less attractive features?
I completely understand how you feel. I'm biracial, I have mixed relatives with stronger features but I look more, as they would say "Asian" in every way. I have friends picking on my features and I don't think I was ever that insecure about them until they started pointing it out. I've grown to realise though, that people who make fun of "Asian" features are just too brainwashed by the media and/or simply are a little jealous on the inside. No one has perfect features afterall, and maybe you have a certain unique feature which they don't, so they pick on your "flaws" to even things out. People are superficial and ignorant like that, there's really nothing you can do to change how society works. Strong features also doesnt make a person attractive, honestly it's how you carry yourself. it's definitely not true that Asian features are less attractive. Beauty is subjective, take Devon Aoki for an example. To some, her unique mongol features has made her one of the most attractive and successful models out there, yet there are others who see her as "ugly, weird and bland". I also reckon, Asians get made fun a lot not because of the way they look, but simply for being Asian. Some people just think Asians are "weaker" because of their built and the assume Asians don't know how to stand up for themselves. It's ridiculous but yea.