Why do so many Vietnamese people have the same last name?
Please remember that last names were not important in rural families or when there was no movement of population. For example: my Norwegian grandfather was raised on a farm and had no last name — he was given his farm’s name as his last name when he immigrated to the US in the 1880s but Immigration cut it down to three letters. Historically, 95% of the Vietnamese were rice farmers so a family name was not important. Almost 200 years ago, a degree by the Vietnamese king said everyone had to have a family name. So the sly farmers immediately took the King’s family name — Nguyen. Not sure about Tran’s popularity but both Tran and Nguyen are Chinese family names and were initially used by immigrating southern Chinese (everyone in Vietnam has some some Chinese blood, either recent or back 600 or more years).About 50 years ago or so I heard the “North” Vietnamese government had required a minority tribe adopt family names. Same thing happened. They asked who was in control and they all took the family name of “Ho”.The really interesting stories on Vietnamese names are the given names by farming families — they were often just a number indicating their rank in the family. In NVN, this started with the oldest then two, three, etc.. In SVN, it began with two, then three. The southerners were always much smarter — they began with Two so when the devil (or whoever) came to take away their oldest child, he could never find him. Infant mortality was quite high so some times farmers would give the child an “ugly” name so the devil wouldn’t take it (e.g. name of a private part). In any case, the child is usually just addressed by its family rank (two, three, etc..). I did have a friend who was called Brother 13 (his family actually went to 16). Everyone in his home province knew him by the number and not by his name.
Is vietnam a dangerous place for crossdressers?
I am a crossdresser and I am vietnamese and I am wondering if vietnam is a dangerous place for folks like me. I am a male to female crossdresser and I enjoy dressing up like a girl in my free time. I am planning on bringing my dresses and high heels to vietnam with me when I go and I am wondering if it is safe to do so. Is vietnam a dangerous place for crossdressers ?
Are vietnamese people open minded to crossdressers and transgendered people?
There is this vietnamese tailor here in garden grove that makes custom made chinese cheongsam dresses which is called a xuong xam in vietnamese. The thing is that I am a vietnamese guy and I happen to be in a drama club in college which is up in my alley as I love crossdressing. I have to get a cheongsam made for a play that I am in and I am scared to go to the tailor to get it made. I am just afraid of their reaction. Are viet people open minded to crossdresser and transgendered people ? Please give me some helpful advice.
My boyfriend is a crossdresser?
Okay, cool. I can understand your excitement and your fears. Here's some thoughts to consider. A crossdresser is just a normal heterosexual guy with one little kink in his brain. His brain releases neurotransmitters when he crossdresses and these give him a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification, and self-identity. It affects the reward centers of his brain so he will have an addiction response and say that he NEEDS to crossdress. Now most crossdressers are very private about their crossdressing. They feel ashamed about it. They try to place limits on their crossdressing. Then there are those crossdressers who feel no shame. They celebrate their crossdressing compulsions, and create a female alter-ego and even give "her" a name. They often fall in love with their alter ego and are concerned about "her" needs. Their wives complain about being their husband's second love. And their husbands have been known to leave their wives and families in order to pursue their first love. So what do you do? You can support his crossdressing, but set the limits. You have a need to be loved and held by a man. You may feel like a lesbian if her boyfriend wants to make out with you while he's in drag. So while you can have fun playing dress-up with a crossdressing boyfriend, don't forget to compliment his manly side too. I suggest you tell him that you don't know the limits of your tolerance of his crossdressing. So your simple rules should be (1) he should only crossdress in his own girly clothes, and (2) he should only crossdress when you tell him its okay and you're comfortable with it. You can let him know when to stop being a woman and when you need him to be more masculine.
Should a male crossdresser use the men's or ladies' bathroom?
Hi... This is indeed a "tender" area in our lifestyle and going out and about in public.. Let me start off by saying, that you can either win or be a huge "looser" if proper precautions are not used in your decision... First off.. If you use the men's washroom, you are going to come under much harrasment, and scorn, if not physical abuse. There are many out there who are just "itching" to do bodily harm to someone who doesn't conform to their way of life, and c/d s falls right into this category. Male washrooms are the last bastion of their god given right and NOTHING will take that away from them. On the other hand, if you use the women's facility, and one of them takes offense to you doing so,a legal situation may prevail, and if you are "brought up" on any charges related to same, it can get a bit "ugly" and expensive. A couple of years ago, my wife and I (again, I am a c/d - t/v ) were taken into a night club by another "couple" which we were told was c/d friendly, but my first "task" for the night after purchasng the first "round" of drinks was to make inquiries with management what their policy was as to usage of washrooms. I was advised that c/d s could use the women's washrooms So rule of thumb is to ALWAYS ask...!!!. Good Luck... Regards, Rachelle In High Heels
I like to make fun of vietnamese guys, is that wrong ?
I make fun of vietnamese guys who get a wife from vietnam in an arranged marriage, Most of the vietnamese guys who get into arranged marriages are the ones who can't get a date with a girl. I make fun of them by saying they will end up divorced when the girl becomes legalized.
Why do some Vietnamese people speak Chinese?
Because China has had a great influence over Vietnam. First off you have China’s domination in Vietnam which was over 1,000 years under Chinese rule. The Vietnamese even used the Chinese script for hundreds of years before they invented their own. The Communist takeover of China ended up with many Chinese emigrating to Vietnam.To directly answer your question, from the stories I’ve heard and background research. As I mentioned above, China has had a substantial impact on Vietnam. My parents have both said they received a little Chinese education when they went to school in Vietnam. This allowed many Vietnamese people (such as my parents) to be bilingual as they could speak Vietnamese growing up while also learning enough about Chinese to hopefully get by. You also had places like Chợ Lớn (literally Big Market in Vietnamese) that were like Chinatowns. These “Chinatowns” attracted people and allowed the thriving of the Chinese language.However, with the communist takeover of Vietnam, many Vietnamese people no longer speak Chinese. Many of the Chinese people in Vietnam (also called Hoa) emigrated from Vietnam after the Fall of Saigon. Chinese is no longer part of the learning curriculum which is why many of the younger Vietnamese generation will most likely not know how to speak Chinese.
Should male crossdressers be allowed to use the women's restroom when they are dressed as a girl?
If i (a crossdresser) am dressed like a male, i'm going to use the mens room. However, if i am dressed as a female, then i am going to use the ladies room. It's simple really. If i am dresses as female then i am presenting myself as female. I am referred to with feminine pronouns and my feminine name. I'm only in the restroom for it's intended purpose. As is the case for ANYONE who goes into ANY restroom. Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there who do not understand crossdressers. They will tend to equate them with people who are gay. And while that may be true in some cases it certainly is not true in all cases. However, when people don't understand something, they tend to react negatively. As such this is why there are so many hate crimes. I feel unsafe going into a men's room while dressed as a female. I would be too afraid of possible violence. Use the restroom for the gender that you are presenting and only use the restroom for it's intended purpose. k