What do you do when you aren't good at anything in life?
Well, you’re clearly very good at something, self-abuse. As an exMarine, I’m inclined to accuse you of whining but that is just me. There is something which necessarily precedes ‘being good at something’. It is ‘being interested in something’. I would suggest you might first study psychopathology which study contains a great deal of self-reflection and self-analysis which might reveal to you the ‘why’ of your lack of interest in the stunning adventure you have been, wailing and crying, literally excreted into and which, though it may not seem so now, is very time limited. Try considering 23 yo as not having been onplanet for a long time but as the beginning of a very short time before your mandatory exit offplanet maybe 60–70 years from now. You might also begin to see that the people who have made the most profound changes to our lives and fortunes in the past are those who did not ‘mature’ in their gifts until well into those few remaining years. Life for those who are not trapped into an ‘ism’ (integrated system of [mass] manipulation, e.g. religion, nationalism, ad nauseum) during development are less crippled with perceptual barriers but we must all deal with profound ignorance. Life is a blind path along which we may find things, branch paths which we could never have imagined and which, if we allow ourselves, sweep us away into perceptual worlds containing the most stunning epiphanies and relationships and successes possible for a monkey such as we are. Relax. Read. Study what we know to be true and, especially, ‘how’ we know it to be true. Epiphany will come and you will find YOUR way. And, although “skills” are cool, honest and clear perception is way cooler and how many people at 23 are ‘skillful’ at anything without years and years of practice? ¡Buena suerte!
Why am I not good at anything?
Meet AKSHAY. Akshay is not good at anything. Well that's what he was told.When all his friends used to work, Akshay used to just laze around, annoy people and criticise their work.Akshay brought in negative vibes wherever he went.He himself would never work, but loved finding FAULTS in everyone's work.People used to tell Akshay “You are absolutely good for nothing.”One day a CEO of a big company heard about Akshay and the minute he heard people's descriptions of him, he hired Akshay for a 80000Rs Salary per month. It's been 5 months since he hired Akshay and he loves him!But WHAT DID HE SEE IN THIS GOOD FOR NOTHING AKSHAY?The job he gave Akshay was to do no work, but to find out all the faults in the company and report it to him in the most brutal way ever.Within a matter of time, Akshay audited and checked how the operations were going, whether the staff was unproductive, whether money was inefficiently used.Akshay never had intentions to please anyone and hence he told the CEO that truths in the harshest ways.The CEO immediately took action and the company soon started making profits!In life, you may sometimes feel like an ‘Akshay’. But there is always someone out there who views your imperfections as your sweetest quality.Be upfront about your imperfections. Many people don't have a CORE talent or hobby but they are great at managing people. They are great at making sure that the jobs get done from those who DO have talents.Like Akshay, never be let down.
I'm not good at anything?
To begin with, I'm not being very melodramatic as this is exactly how I feel about myself. I'm not really good at anything. I'm ok at some things, but I don't have any amazing talents. And it's not for lack of trying- I did gymnastics for seven years and was still absolutely appalling. I've been baking for six years and still am not very good. I've done piano for ten years and am only ok. I'm not athletic, I'm not funny. I do we'll in school, but not exceptional. I do we'll in history, but that's not really a talent. I don't have anything really going for me. I'm too needy and annoying, I'm not attractive. I have friends but I don't know why they like me. I'm not whining, I'm annoyed at myself. I've tried dozens of activities: art, languages, tennis, kayaking. Basketball, IT, knitting, sewing, self defence, cycling, writing, sculpting and graphic design, to name a few. I practised quite a bit, but still never got very good at them. I'm so frustrated. I feel pathetic and useless and unlikeable. What can I do?
Why doesn't anything good happen to me?
You should definately read the book, " The power of your subconscious mind" which states that even if things are going well, we are the ones who make it seem bad.The saying " Everything happens for a reason" seems true to me. Whenever I go through a bad phase, it's only "hope" which keeps my mind in the right direction. All the "bad" things ( which are not actually bad) happened to you have something great in store for you. Maybe you've had enough, but just a little more patience friend? Try and connect the dots and you will realise whatever happened to you has a deeper Meaning to it and things are not always what they seem. Cheers!!
What should I do if I am not good at anything?
Same.Straight up. Welcome to the world of average.I mean seriously, right? You watch movies, and you see the annoying love interest or best friend tagging along with the hero and they're just... there. They don't do anything, and you're like, "Just go away loser!"Then you turn off the T.V, and go pat yourself on the back because you're amazing at... wait... what am I good at? What's the difference between me and that character? Why is my life this way???So you call your friends. You say, "Hey, I've been thinking. You're really good at x, y and z, and I... I'm no good at anything"They come back with, "That's not true! You're good at lots of stuff"You reply, "Like what?"They stammer, and stutter, and can't give you an answer. Because maybe you aren't good at anything. Or maybe you were just asking them what you're good at because you wanted to hear that, "everyone is special" or "everyone is good at something"Then you get the cliché answer from other friends. "Oh, you aren't good at anything? Go make yourself good at something, because I'm officially an inspiration speaker/life coach, so pick yourself the f*** up and go make yourself good at stuff!!!"So you try. You practice and practice and practice at what you want... but you're wasting your time. You'll never be amazing at that, not like the others in the class, or on the team. Not like the people you see winning contests and making lots of money. So you give up, and you quit.You settle into that job. That dumb stupid job that millions of other people have done before, when they gave up because they were "just average" too. And you don't see it, like they didn't see it.Didn't see that every day thousands of dreams are dashed. Didn't see that every day people commit suicide because they couldn't change the world, like mommy and daddy told them they would. Didn't see that they were doing more than just not changing the world.You all saw, that you didn't change the world. None of you saw that you kept it going. You work at the post office, and you sort letters all day. You tell yourself you aren't good at it, that anyone could do it. Then the person gets their letter from their dying relative, and you helped that process.You're a garbage truck driver. Anyone could do it, there's nothing special about you. Except you keep the streets clean.I dare you, think of the most common job. The one that ANYONE could do. You do that job... and you're not special.You're essential.
I'm not good at anything. I'm worthless?
"The expert in anything was once a beginner"..You can't just expect to try something and instantly be good at it. Obviously when you first try something, you're not going to be good at it. Just find things that interest you and that you enjoy doing, and do your best at them. Do you honestly think people are just born able to play the trumpet or kick a soccer ball? No. Quite feeling sorry for yourself, that's not going to make things better. Think of the good things about you and all the things you have going for you. (Don't say there is nothing good at all). Your life is what you make it. So you can choose to give up, or you can choose to be happy.
What should you do for a career if you're not really good at anything?
Well I can tell you a career is only one choice, you got many many other choices that do not require a career. Do not succumb to the herds, here as you can see.Example, a writer, they're good at one specific activity and they're sought after in certain wide range of industries, from ad copywriting, publishing, web content strategist, or even cinematic script developer. All they do their whole time is writing to connect with the specific audience. Is it a popular profession? Not as common as engineering but it still involves a darn skill, we all need a writer at some point.I think you don't seem to know yourself well enough to explore other options that do not always involve a classic career ladder type in a company. Or your friends are limited to one narrow group that you got no broader horizon to relate. It is actually something you can and only you can change.Stop being a copycat, believe and take patience, trust and have faith then take actions. Who says life is only about 9 to 5 career? I can tell you most are quite dead end and incredibly booring jobs. These people here in Quora aren't all honest with themselves or didnt tell you the real truth. I was in that position before. It's not all rosy colors and rainbows, faaarr from it.