Why did my boyfriend go see a female friend without telling me?
I’m cutting you some slack on this one, unlike a lot of responders, because I once had a boyfriend who assumed I would go apeshit crazy if he wanted to spend his birthday with his guy friends. I would not have. I would have been happy to celebrate his birthday a different day and delighted for him to party down bro-style. But he didn’t bother to let me know. So when I asked “Hey, what do you want to do for your birthday?” he crossed his arms and said “I’ve got plans, thanks.” Just like that. Instead of “Well, on the day of my birthday, I was invited to hang with my bros, but should we do a big night out another night?” What he actually said was very hurtful, not only because it implied I was not welcome in any way to celebrate the day, but because it also implied that I was some kind of fishwife who would have somehow prevented or forbidden his friend-party. I would not have.Long story, but your question reminded me of what it’s like to not be given the benefit of the doubt. It might be how your bf is feeling right now, and it might also be how you are feeling right now.If you are feeling hurt that your boyfriend didn’t think you would trust him, that’s a good sign.However, if you are angry and somewhat threatened by him hanging with an old friend, that’s exactly why he didn’t tell you.You need to have a talk with your boyfriend. But first, go in with this reality check (I’ve had to face it too): You do not need to ask your boyfriend’s permission for everything, including hanging with male friends. Likewise, he does not need to ask your permission to hang with female friends.Ask your boyfriend what you might have done to make him think you’d overreact. If he can’t cite much, it’s time for a talk with him about female stereotypes and assuming that you’d blow up when in fact you’d just show normal interest.If he can cite a bunch of things that show you are jealous, it’s time for a talk about trust and boundaries on both sides. Just keep it nice, keep it accusation-free, and leave it with, “so in the future, when x happens, we will respond with…” This can become a positive step forward in the quality of your relationship if you use it that way.
Boyfriend didn't do anything for my birthday- what should I do?
I would never forget my girls birthday! Guys dont always forget ***holes do. I bring flowers home on a whim just to see her smile. I he cant treat u right on your birthday or any other day especially with your dad in the hospital then i think its time to reevaluate your relationship.
What should I do if my boyfriend leaves town on my birthday?
I don't know you, I don't know your boyfriend and I don't know the nuances of your relationship or your feelings for each other. As such, I can only answer from my own perspective.If I have a boyfriend my assumption is that he loves me, and that I am important to him.What I assume is that what he wants is to make me happy (not to make me angry or frustrated.)If something comes up for him that is important which happens to take place on my birthday, rather than thinking "wow, I must not matter to him" what I think is "wow, this must have been a difficult decision for him to make."This thing that he is doing must be really important for him, and the fact that something is important to him means only that it's important to him, not that I am not.You see, not everything is in relation to me.I love him and he's important to me so the least I can do is make life this as easy as possible for him, rather than more difficult.I would say: "look, my birthday is a big day for me, but we can celebrate another day. This thing you have to go do is only happening on this one day. So go do what you need to do and I am looking forward to celebrating my birthday with you on another day."Then, I would think long and hard what I want to do to honor my birthday. An afternoon alone in an apartment I have all to myself? A get-together with beloved friends? A good movie and lots of popcorn? A trip somewhere where I can swim in open water?Whatever it is, I would rock that birthday, and remind myself that the best person to spend that day with is me.
Today is my birthday. I am feeling very lonely. Only my boyfriend wished me a happy birthday but I expected more from him than just a wish! Why did not even a single friend wish me a happy birthday?
Have you wished yourself.If not, you should , may be 3–4 times in the day. You lived one more wonderful year and it is you who should be grateful and happy to yourself.I personally believe that greatest recognition, felicitation and love in this world is self appreciation, self praise and self love. The strongest source of happiness, motivation and love in life should be inside. Outside source can be optional.There is nothing wrong in having expectations, but our majority of expectations should be from our ownselves. The most happiest people around me ( including myself ) as well as in history are those who have/ had a very strong sense of self love, self appreciation. They are the persons who are most connected to their inner selfs. Happiness or sorrow, they find appreciation and answers within themselves.Now let me come to the second part. I feel it's a great thing that your boyfriend remembers yours birthday and wishes you. I know it is expected of better-halves to remember, but if we look practically in our extreme busy and stressful daily schedules, this is not easy. And to me personally it gives me a very nice feeling when my wife remembers to wish me on my birthday because I know the kind of work stress and load, she goes through everyday.Lonely , I believe, is nothing but a frame of mind. And It has nothing to do with how many people wished you on your birthday. The same person might feel lonely in the middle of a crowded birthday celebration, at the same time they might feel happy and complete when they are celebrating just with their better-halves.And finally I will not wish you happy birthday, I would just tell you to wish yourself.PS: For the last 6 years I am celebrating my birthdays with my happy self and with my lovely wife and I am extremely happy about it.
Is it wrong to ditch my boyfriend on my birthday ,like he did on his?
last year on my boyfriend birthday he dissed me and i didn't see him till that night . he told me that his mother was throwing him something and it wasn't enough room.that was a lie and i want pay back let him know how it feels .oh he came in about 10;30 so he claims he was still with me just hanging with the guys thats all and me and his mother get along.
Forgot my boyfriends birthday! What do I do now? I feel horrible?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We've been through a lot together and we got in a huge fight which lead to me breaking up with him 4 days before his birthday. We made up and the. I called him in the morning ,after him ditching me the night before, to ask what the plans were and to say happy birthday and he never answered so I texted him and no answer. I have no car so I had no way of seeing him. So I figured he was mad so I stopped trying. Turns out he didn't get any calls or texts from me and I just found that out today. He's very sad I think he was actually crying when I called. What do I do? I love him so much and I feel so bad. How can I make it up to him
Am I wrong for having my feelings hurt? My boyfriend gave me a houseplant for my Birthday?
My boyfriend and I have been off and on going on 9 years. I know he is selfish and self-center. I am a giving person. I couldn't wait to see what my boyfriend gave me from the heart. He makes great money, so it is not that that is all he could afford. I wouldn't have cared if it was a homemade dinner or a handmade card. Something that said I love you or I care. But a house plant is not a very loving or personal thing and it is a kinda generic gift. He never said anything kind just handed me the houseplant. I believe the only reason he got me the plant is so he could say he got me something. I had to hold back the tears. To me this showed me, that maybe I am with the wrong man and if I want a loving, caring and sensitive man, then I need to look further. Am I wrong?
My boyfriend forgot my birthday and I want REVENGE?
Mwahahahaha I am the evil person! =D Prank calls rules. --- Just be creative. Bugs --- Fill his shirt with it! Act rude --- Will make him mad. Hide his stuff --- He wont suspect you. Punch him --- Say aoch! Woodo --- Stick in needles. Magic --- If you can curse him. Mean joke --- What ever that is evil. Hit him with a bat --- If you don't punch him. Embarras him in front of an audience. Forget his birthday. Annoy him. It is easy to come up with mean things...and even easier to throw a relationship away. :D
My boyfriend doesn't take me out on my birthday or Valentines day, what do you think?
When it comes to your birthday... HELL YES! My dad forgot my mum's birthday one year, and it was really upsetting for her because they had been married at that time for about 15 years. Lets just say, **** hit the fan pretty damn quick. .Any way, I think He's obviously being lazy and cheap..