Sudden changes in girlfriend's behavior, what does this mean?
I have been with this girl for over a year now. I'm 24 and she is 29. We used to do everything together. We didn't spend one second of our free time apart from one another. Two weeks ago, she made a new friend at work (female by the way) and everyday she has another excuse to hang with this girl, without me of course. Keep in mind, prior to this we never hang out with our friends without each other. She doesn't want me to get to know this girl and will avoid going out with her all together if I ask to tag along. She used to call me everyday during her breaks and lunches and text me excessively, yet now the only communication is when I contact her. She no longer says she loves me when hanging up the phone, and this morning when I tried to kiss her before going to work she turned her head so I kiss her on the cheek. Issues concerning my opinion, needs, wants, and desires she no longer cares about. She will give me sarcastic responses, ignore me, or shake her head with a smug look. I'm wondering if she hates me... Anything I ask her becomes a complete arguement now. I can't even ask her what she's doing for lunch without her raising her voice or shouting DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, IT'S NO BIG DEAL! CALM DOWN! Yet when I've had enough and ask does she want to be with me, want me to leave, or is she mad at me, she gets upset, cries and begs me to stay. I don't know what to do or think about this anymore. Help. Any advice or input will greatly be appreciated. Thanks.
Why do people change? We were best friends and then suddenly one day he forgot everything. Was I nothing to him? What was my fault?
You know what…I have been through the same phase and it's 1 year since then. I completely empathize with you. This is one of the worst thing that can happen and I feel sorry for you to feel this way.Let's not get into right or wrong. As you asked why people change….you can't control it. People are exposed to different kinds of environment and people everyday that they are bound to change. It's you whether you decide to change the way you want to and nobody else can control it.I don't know what caused your best friend to behave this way…..but since he decided to walk away you should let him go. Not for him but for your own peace of mind.If you want an explanation for it then you can message (not personally meet) him by saying that it would be kind enough for him to reason out this situation. If he reasons it out ,well good enough for you but if he doesn't then don't bother. If you find him playing around the bush rather then answering you then just stop.Whether he answers you or not…you have to walk off. If he didn't care to communicate to you at the first place, you have to close yourself from him. You are not an open door that he will walk off and in whenever he wants to.Just say OK . Don't apologize and try to reason out things. Even if he has misunderstood you no need to explain coz best friends never behave in this manner.People come and go in our lives and they have a role to play. Learn from this situation that you need to be careful about the kind of people you choose, who you can trust and how to keep any kind of relationships stable. Don't hold any grudge against him. Forgive and forget everything specially to yourself. Don't blame yourself…it just happened..forget it.Meanwhile concentrate on your positive development. Initially it will be difficult to trust others and it's absolutely fine. You need time to repair yourself and no need to rush. But don't close yourself.It's a temporary phase. You will soon be over it. You will meet much better people in future, I promise. Just keep on moving in life.You are not alone. I am in the same boat as you are.A big hug for you :) …Everything is gonna be fine :) !
What do I do when your female friend has changed her behaviour unexpectedly and has stopped talking to every one but stays online every time?
Firstly, you have to set your own boundaries. You need to realize that you are responsible for yourself and nobody else. If you don't come from that position, you can hurt yourself either mentally or emotionally, when trying to help somebody else.Saying that , I'd reach out and try to figure out what's going on. And don't try to be all problem solving with them. That will push them away or cause them to close up. Ask them how they're doing in their life right now. Are they seeing people? New boyfriend's? New job? We could be they got a job as a secret agent and everything is great, but unless you know that Bart, you're not going to really be able to help them.On the other hand, if they have a new boyfriend, and they got that person at the same time their behavior started changing, you may want to do some research, and not on quora, on how to help a person out of an abusive relationship.* Dictated, grammar not reviewed
What would you do if your friend suddenly acts cold towards you for no reason?
Let's just call her sally. Sally is in my group of friends but we don't talk to each other a lot cuz she's usually really busy with school stuff. We talk on facebook pretty often though. We even have a lot in common, such as liking the same musicians and designers. The last time she was still being friendly to me was on her birthday a few days ago. She told me that she really liked the gift I gave her. A few days later, when my other friends and I were talking, she joined in but didn't talk to me. I decided to start a conversation with her by asking a friendly question. She replied with a flat, bored tone and didn't even bother to make eye contact with me! I was like "ohh okay..". Then she continued talking with our other friends. She completely ignored me, yup. Then she asked this girl in our group to hold her books for a while cuz she needed to take something out of her bag. The girl handed sally's books to me instead cuz her hands were pretty full and I wasn't carrying anything. So I did it. When sally was done with whatever she was doing, she took her books back from me with a cold "thanks", no eye contact or a smile. I haven't talked to her since then. I feel sooo sad. She's not like my best friend or anything, but it still hurts to know that someone dislikes you when you are always nice to her. I don't know what I should do.... Should I just go up to her the next time I see her and say "Hi Sally!" very cheerfully to her face? Is it a good idea? What would YOU do if you were in my shoes? Thanks guys!
Why does a girl's behaviour change abruptly towards someone after receiving a gift from that person?
Thanks for the A2A.As I see it, a gift is a token of appreciation.By given a gift to that person, you show that you appreciate her.You say you should be glad but it freaks you out.That doesn't make much sense to me, to be honest.To me it sounds like you want to be her boyfriend but not this way.One thing I have learned, is to be honest and communicate.Talk to her about how you feel and what she does to you. I do understand it is easier said than done.I do want to say, I'm no expert in the way of how women think and do.These are just my personal opinion(s), regarding the question I was asked to answer.
How do you deal with someone's sudden change in behavior?
I find this question lacking specifics. My answer is therefore general.Wait. Look. Listen.When I write ‘Look’ I mean out of the corner of your eye. You will see far more when you don’t look directly. This is a Life-art to be acquired in any case… slowly let the impressions of another’s change of behavior seep in. Don’t judge.There are many things that provoke changes of behavior… to name but a few: alcohol and other drugs; growing up; trauma such as a death, a personal accident, a relationship breakup and so on; illness, such as perhaps finding out one has Cancer, or perhaps having recovered from cancer etc.; excessive stress leading to nervous breakdown… and so on and so on… and sometimes just a conscious decision to change one’s life’s paradigm… such as for example to stop seeing life in terms of Winning and Losing, but instead to be content with moving things into a better place tomorrow than they are today.Taking the time to look and listen obliquely to the other is unobtrusive and will allow you and the other the opportunity to ‘feather in’.Then you will have the answer to your question.