A coffee date. first date, how do i not be awkward?
Prepare for it today by coming up with topics you can talk about. Make them easy topics like, say, movies or music. Then come up with some questions with each. For movies, that would be what's your favorite genre, who's the hottest star, what movies are out now that you want to see. But don't sound cardboard: if he says, "I like action movies," don't go on to your next question like you're conducting an interview. Expand on that. "I love action movies. The Die Hard series is one of my favorites. Have you seen them?" Conversation should flow pretty naturally if you're talking about something that you know about. Don't get into some discussion about the mortgage crisis if you have no idea what's going on. When in doubt, people always like to talk about themselves so ask him a question about himself: are you going to college next year, what's your major, etc. And yes, be yourself. Laugh when you want to. Eat what you want to. Talk like you always do. Because if you DID start dating, he's going to be really confused when you eat half a pizza if you told him before that you only eat salad. If the guy isn't into you for who you really are, he's not worth it anyway. And always, always assume it is a friendly hangout and not a date. If he offers to pay, tell him it's not a big deal, but if he insists, thank him earnestly. And if there's a kiss goodbye, you know you're in! Good luck, and don't worry. He's going to be just as nervous too.
I'm socially awkward, introverted, and suffer social anxiety?
I've always been this way. I'm 18 now and starting senior year of HS pretty soon. I'm always quiet and hate meeting new people unless they appeal to me (then I become close and talk to them just fine). But i'm always scared to leave class and go to my locker where EVERYONE is around talking to their friends and I'm alone not saying a word. While this happens I fear that people think I'm awkward and this makes things worse. I've gotten better but ALL my close friends from school thought I used to be socially awkward before I met them because I didn't talk too much. I just hate meeting people because I when they try to talk to me I get really tense and I start to stutter and talk in almost a different tone of voice and just freak out for a second unless I keep talking more. I just hate being the quiet person who is falsely accused of being a loner and someone who has no friends. I've had an abundance of great friends my whole life but I feel bad because I don't ever get invited to things and school is always a heep of anxiety. How do I deal with this more?
Problem with my 17 year old son, help please?
As someone who was until about a year ago a seventeen-year-old son myself... I would wager that he was at least as mortified as you in all these situations. If the main issue is embarrassment, just ask him to keep his door closed and volunteer to always knock, as it will save both of you future embarrassment. If you have an issue with him masturbating, I would say that this is very silly. Masturbation is perfectly healthy and not in any way harmful. If you have an issue with him having sex, I would suggest you have a conversation with him about it (yes, it will be awkward, but it will make you feel better in the long run). Forbidding him from having sex would be a bad idea and probably make him more likely to do it (did so for me). Do make sure that he's aware of what he's doing. Do tell him how important it is to use protection (both against pregnancy and against STDs). Make sure that he is educated.
I like this guy but he's a year younger?
You shouldn't worry so much. The only thing that matters is that you like him. I'm a senior this year (12th grade) and I have friends who have sophomore boyfriends and no one thinks it's weird or harasses them about it. Honestly, their boyfriends are way better and more mature than half the guys in our own grade. I think it's sweet and completely normal. Go for it! and don't be afraid to be proud of it! Obviously if you like him then he's worth it <3 Hope that helped and Best Wishes! xxxx Please answer a question about my love life? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkvOCxQGivdnqduBGV2NXtUJ53NG;_ylv=3?qid=20121112173113AAxq7w2 Thank you <3
Why does it seem as if there is a disproportionate number of socially inept mathematicians/mathematics students compared to the average population?
I don't believe mathematicians are disproportionately awkward. That perception, I believe, is a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy based on a stereotype. To be sure, it is reinforced from time to time: there are socially awkward mathematicians. But not significantly moreso than socially awkward law students, or engineers, or literature majors.One thing that doesn't help is that some mathematicians -- especially the good ones -- are passionate about what they do. This passion sometimes displaces what might be considered "ordinary" enthusiasm for "normal" things. I definitely fell into this category as an undergrad.I went to UC Santa Barbara, which is essentially a beachside paradise. One could literally throw a rock from the campus bookstore to the Pacific Ocean. But I was into math. So much so, that I literally never stepped foot on the beach or in the ocean. I didn't go to parties. Was I socially inept? I like to think the answer was no. I comfortably conversed with people. I made an appropriate amount of eye contact. I didn't twitch uncontrollably when someone asked me the time. But I was definitely buried in a mathematical world. Standard small talk options were non-starters. Did I see that one movie? Nope. How about that Seinfeld reference? I dunno, what's Seinfeld? Did I see the big game? Nuh-uh. But that's small talk. Walk up to a math student and ask him or her to explain something they're passionate about, and you'll more than likely see them light up. They will take great pains to explain their thing to you in a way that you can understand, without just hurling jargon at you. They will customize their conversation to your background, and try to develop it at the right level of detail under the circumstances. These are all hallmarks of appropriate socialization.But if you try to talk to them about a TV show or a sports team, you might not get far. It's not that they're socially inept. It's that they find your interests boring.