My friend can't keep secrets? :/?
She's a really sweet girl, always cheerful and caring, she's very fun to hang out with.. But. Unfortunately she's sooo bad at keeping a secret. This is the 5th time that she spills a secret of someone from our friends-group. And the secrets she tells cause big conflicts.And everytime one of us shares something private we specifically tell her; Megan, please don't talk to anyone about this. And every time the secret seems to "slip out". I'm not going to end the friendship, my other friends won't end the friendship either, but we feel like we can't talk freely when we're hanging out together, all of us. What can we do? Thanks !
Why do my "friends" keep secrets from me?
This happens a lot. My one friend, Dom always tells my other friend Tasha about things. I always asks them what they're talking about, but Dom says "it's none of your business" or "why should I tell you?" when she tells me all this other crap that don't care about and I tell her all the gossip and ish I can. And when I ask Tasha, she says “it's none of my business" or to ask Dom. So I'm stuck being all confused. Does it have something to do with the fact that I don't have a boyfriend like them? Should I get one so they can respect me more? I don't have one because my family says dating in middle school is bad. And I agree, but if I want my friends to respect me, should I change my morals or are the fake basic friends?
My friends never keep my secrets?
Okay there are friends who you know you can tell secrets too... And then there are friends who you can't tell secrets too... Your friends aren't bad people, they just don't know how to keep a secret because they love gossip, it's not bad... You just have to keep that in mind all the time about them, usually you can tell if your friend can keep a secret or not, for one, if they tell you other friends secrets, then you know not to trust them with yours, and now that you know you can't tell them, I would suggest you not tell them anything you want getting out. Also, if you really feel the need to share secrets with someone, I suggest you find a new friend don't ditch your old ones, but find a new friend who CAN keep a secret.
FRIENDS KEEPING SECRETS?!?!?!?!?
So, my friend Ellie left her phone at my house. She slept over last night, right? And my other friend Matt texts her "Hey! Are you there? PLEASE TEXT BACK ASAP!" Since it is Ellie's phone, I just leave it, as I planned on returning it later today. 5 minutes later: "ELLIE...sorry for bothering you. I guess you hate me. You won't reply" I still don't text anything. 5 minutes later "God, Ellie. So I pick up the phone, about to text my always very melodramatic friend Matt back. But then I accidentally scroll up and start reading their conversation (BY ACCIDENT) Oh my gosh. I found out SO many things. Matt is depressed. Matt is venting about how he likes our friend Kayla (Which I already knew, as Matt told me) but is saying things to Ellie like: Ellie: Yawn. I'm tired, Matt. I'm going to bed. Night! Matthew: Sweet dreams. I love you, Ellie. Ellie: Okay.. And these types of things have been going on. Matt being like "I love you" and then her being like "Err..." And then I start looking through her texts. ALL MY FRIENDS HAVE BEEN KEEPING SECRETS FROM ME. Okay. Look. I KNOW I deserve this for snooping. It seems like I am an untrustworthy person. But look. I have never told a secret to anyone. Ever. And these people I have know for 5+ years. I just feel hurt that they won't tell me. My name has been brought up a few times, like in one case Ellie and Kendall were talking about a secret and Kendall said "Maybe we should tell Sarah?" But then they decided against it. Also, I kind of like Matt...so hearing him tell Ellie he loves her and that he keeps secrets from me hurts. Oh, also, they text all evening to each other. Matt never responds to my texts. Also, When I text Matt, he yells at me for forgetting to capitalize things or if I spell something wrong. But when he texts Ellie, HE spells wrong and uses "u" instead of "you" and makes a multitude of typos! I KNOW I deserve this. I know it wasn't my business. I just feel hurt. Don't call me a bad friend, okay?
Why is my best friend keeping secrets?
We've known each other since we were seven. She has been my best friend since we were eight, with two long breaks (a month) because either she or I did something to separate us. We are now twelve. She has always told me everything (or so I think), and I've told her everything. Recently, she had a secret that I suspected even before everyone else in our friend circle knew. Soon she told one of our 'lesser friends' and she soon trusted everyone, but me, with her secret. A boy we're both friends with that she told finally told me, confirming my suspicions. Now, while talking with me and the boy, she asked him 'Did you get the email?' I quickly replied 'What email?' She replied with a quick 'Nothing' while the boy told her no. 'Ok, I'll resend' my best friend had replied. I told her that was not a good idea (she doesn't know this, but the boy told me his email password so I can get in and read it any time) but she decided to go with it. I haven't checked the email yet, out of respect for her privacy, but I think I will later if she doesn't tell me what's going on tomorrow. Why has she been keeping secrets from me? I've always told her everything and haven't done anything to aggravate her.
Is it wrong to keep secrets from friends?
It depends on what the secret is.For instance if the secret relates to them, like your boyfriend cheated on you then yes you should tell them. Your friend deserves to know.However if the secret is frivolous, like I went down to the park the other day to eat a beef burger because I'm sick of this vegan crap the no. No one needs to know because no one gives a shit about your diet.Ultimately it just comes down to how important the secret is and how much you trust the person.
Is it okay to keep secrets from your best friends?
Okay or not, I can not tell you. But, surely it is not wise to share everything with every one: secrets or no secrets, friends or no friends, best friends or not best friends. You will never know your friends that well as to predict their future behaviour. Some of them may turn against you and malign you out of jealousy or personal gains. They may use your information without your knowledge to their advantage. So the best for you is to be discreet in talking your things.In William Shakespeare’s play Othello, the hero Othello comes to grief for trusting his adviser Iago too much. You might have read or heard of a American scientist by the name Millikan who took the idea of conducting experiments to determine electronic charge using oil droplets instead of water droplets from one of his students, conducted the experiment successfully and determined the charge for which he was given the Nobel prize. The student gave the idea without any forethought, but Millikan gave him no credit whatsoever. He did not even mention the student’s name anywhere. Jesus Christ was betrayed by Judas Iscariot, one of his 12 apostles and apostles are higher than your best friends.Your biggest enemies are among those who are very close or closest to you. But you can not shun every one or be distrustful and suspicious of every one. Man is a social animal. You can, however, be cautious enough to safeguard your interest.Keep in mind the following lines composed by me:Be careful which friend or best friend you will trust and share your things with and share how much?Not every friend who talks sweet or smiles at you is your best friend or even a friend.
Why do people keep secrets from their family and friends?
Usually for the same reasons they keep secrets from anyone: wanting privacy, fear of judgment, guilt, worry and many other factorsBut imagine if people in a family or with friends blurted out everything they’ve done, said, think and so on! What would happen? I can tell you since I tend to do this often. I don’t think about it because I hate secrets and can’t keep them (I’m too spacey).People DON’T LIKE IT! They think they want to know everything but they really don’t. Say I don’t want to keep it a secret that I think Mom is a selfish, narcissistic liar. And I tell her that. Imagine the streams crossing in Ghostbusters! Yeah, that kind of explosion.Or say I don’t think it’s right to hide from my sister-in-law the fact that she’s intensely boring and should stop keeping score of how many times I had her to my place, after all the times I’ve been to hers (adding in that nobody wants them anywhere since they let loose their very large, hyperactive and destructive twins and don’t watch them!). THAT went over like a huge bomb too!!Or should I really tell my son that I think he has a savior complex (after admitting that his father and I probably caused it!) and that all his girlfriends (except the current one) have manipulated him so they can have him around to safely continue having nervous breakdowns, seeing that he almost always dates highly neurotic (and one BPD) girls? No…that is one secret I will keep, since I want to keep seeing my son!Secrets can be the glue that holds a family together. For the more serious ones, like physical abuse, I’m all for airing them, getting therapy and then avoiding the people who are still toxic. That’s one that should never stay secret. But the other, lesser offences can stay secret…if you want to keep in touch with your family. Some people don’t.
Best friend keeping secrets from me?
my best friend has been keeping secrets from me about this boy she is dating. She's told her other best friend, brother, and her best friend's boyfriend. She used to tell me about her boyfriend but ever since she it an anonymous call to her house that told her parents about we boyfriend, she started lying to me and four other girls in our circle. I'm the closest to her out of all of us and it hurts that she told my brother and not me. My brother, her best friend, and and her best friend's boyfriend are all really close too. Ever since she got her boyfriend she's changed (lying, skipping class, cursing) and he was trying to push her to far. I don't know what to do. I have so many scenarios running through my head. Should I talk to her Nicky or confront her, let it go or tell the other four girls in our circle? Should I just let the friendship go. I feel like we have been friends for too long (3 years). Help!
My friends are keeping secrets from me. What do I do?
I have a very very tight circle of friends. I do not hesitate to say that I am deeply in platonic (non-sexual) love with my friends. Their loyalty means more to me than anything. Whereas I do not doubt that they cherish me as a friend, I fear that they are keeping secrets from me. This hurts more than they realize. It so happens that I am the only heterosexual among this group of friends. In my acceptance of their sexuality, I admit I have been careless with their secrecy although this has been more-or-less inconsequential. In one instance, I discovered that friend A did not want me to know that he was out to his mother. I don't understand why he did not want me to know this, but I let it go because perhaps I cannot foresee the consequences, as a heterosexual? I understand that I cannot understand. However, this very evening, I was enjoying a movie with my friends when friend A said, "[Friend B], remind me that I need to tell you something later." "What?" she replied. Friend A's partner responded "We'll tell you later." At this point, I looked away so they didn't know that I was offended, so I cannot document their facial expressions. This incident feeds my fears that they are hiding something from me. I understand that they may not want to share their secrets as lovers, but why should this secrecy spread to my lesbian friend? They have never had qualms about speaking of their sexuality in front of me, so I doubt this is the issue. Why are my best friends keeping secrets from me?