Why do women hate guys with aspergers?
Every girl I have talked to wants nothing to do with me. My ex made fun of me because I told her that I had aspergers. I would like to think that at least one girl would have some understanding about why people with aspergers do what they do but, from the way I see it. Must girls just show pity for them like they were retarded and avoid them. I was told that I was never gonna finish school or get a job. Had doctors tell me that I would never have a normal life. I'm 22 years and seem to be doing well for someone who was told that he would never succeed in life. I graduated from school with more credits then needed, got a job making $14 an hour right out of high school (this is my first job I ever had), and I'm helping my family with their income, so why do women think i'm retarded. I'm trying to learn better social skills. It doesn't help that I have read that people who have aspergers have difficulties having sex but, every time I read something about this. It was always written by a women. The way I see it. its like they are trying to warn other women about us as if they trying to destroy us. I'm bothered by this because I feel like the closer I become to living a normal life, someone always takes it away. I'm tired of being lonely. I feel like I'm falling apart
How many Asperger's guys are gay?
Perhaps a bit more than the general population. It’s hard to find solid studies with solid figures. But in general, we seem to be more diverse than neurotypicals in our sexual orientation, gender-linked behaviors, and gender identity:When compared to controls, individuals with ASD demonstrated significantly higher sexual diversity, reported gender-identities incongruent with their biological sex, and higher gender-dysphoric symptomatology.The ASD group reported higher rates of asexuality; decreased heterosexual attraction and contact; increased homosexual attraction; ASD females reported higher homosexual contact; and were not concerned with the gender of their romantic partner. ASD individuals who were gender non-conforming reported better relationships with their opposite-sex peers during their schooling years than their gender-conforming peers did. The ASD group reported poorer mental health than controls and belonging to a sexual or gender-diverse group worsened this effect.Conclusions: Increased non-heterosexuality in ASD may particularly fit predictions from the Extreme Male Brain theory of autism. An androgynous self-concept, gender ambivalence and dissatisfaction with culturally-dictated sex-roles emerged as major themes, which together may permit more fluid sexual-identities.Autism and (trans)gender: dysphoria, and gender fluidity in ASDThis would tend to support the impression I have from both experience (my own and that of others I know) and personal accounts I’ve seen, e.g., on wrongplanet.com.My personal sense at this point is that those of us on the spectrum are more likely to be neurodiverse in general, and that the neurodiversity encompasses not just neurodevelopmental disorders like autism and ADHD but differences in sexual orientation and gender-linked behaviors as well. I think it’s also true that autistic men and women seem to have less gender differentiation in some important respects than neurotypical men and women.I think too that our sexual behavior and expression tends to be affected by our sensory and emotional hypersensitivity, and perhaps as well by the fact that we are less influenced by society and certain aspects of instinct.
Why do guys with Aspergers Sydrome always end up with lots of female friends and no sexual relationships?
I am a 38 y/o male and I suspect I have Aspergers but it has not been officially diagnosed yet. Yes, I can tell you, what kills it for me is that I approach women in a gentleman, cerebral way and though while I am nice to them and get along and such, I don't display any natural animal magnetism that might spark sexual interest. It is not that I am not attracted to women, it's that I don't posses the natural physicality that is necessary for an intimate relationship. The MALE ROLE, is another big killer for me and many other men with AS, the whole taking charge thing and bringing game is just not an inherent part of my nature and when I am expected to take control, things usually fall flat. It also doesn't help much that I have trouble showing emotion or trouble getting subtle jokes right away. For you and I, I suggest a support group, so we can gain insight to others who are in our boat but seem to be going nowhere.
Can girls with autism or Asperger's have a boyfriend or get married?
Yes, you can have a boyfriend/husband and you can live a normal life. I'm a 28 years old female with Asperger's syndrome. I've been married for many years. I was not in a relationship until I was 19 years old, but I know about a lot of neurotypical girls who got into their first relationship around that age too, so I don't think you need to worry. Most of the female aspies I know are in relationships and some of them have kids. You too will come across someone good at some point. You can live a normal life like everyone else. My life is normal. I have a husband, a good education, a good job and my own apartment. I've travelled a lot and done a lot of things I've wanted to and made my dreams come true. Sometimes I have to work harder than other people to make things happen and the same may be true for you, but you can achieve a lot of things and have the life you want if you put your mind to it.
Do women hate guys with Asperger's?
Try thinking of women as individual people instead of one group with one set of emotions. Some people dislike those who have Asperger's. Some don't. People are individuals. From experience though I will say that it can be very uncomfortable to have a guy with poor social skills trying to make a move on me. Often menn with Asperger's might give social cues that come off as creepy or too intense or awkward, and as a woman who's been taught to be wary of men who are trying to pick me up, that can be very scary. I had a classmate who had Asperger's and he would always come talk to me after class and stand much too close and say things quite bluntly, such as "your butt looks really nice in those pants". It was weird and I didn't like it. Eventually when we became friends and he got better at socializing, I told him about this and he was so embarrassed that I had felt uncomfortable. He hadn't intended to be weird or creepy, but he didn't have a solid grasp of social cues and that made it hard for him. That may be an issue for other interactions between women and men with Asperger's and it's unfortunate, but not surprising.
Why is it more common for boys to have Aspergers or autism then it is for girls?
It’s not more common. It’s more visible. Add in a dash of sexism, misinformation, and misdiagnosis, and you have the reason why more boys are diagnosed.I’ve heard of girls being diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and “unexplained sensory issues” as opposed to people admitting that yes, this female person is quite possibly autistic, because of the stereotype that autistic people are only awkward white boys with strange interests.I was raised within a female gendered role, though that isn’t what I am now. My autistic traits manifested in a stereotypically ‘male’ way. I talked incessantly of my interests, which were not ‘ordinary’ for a kid my age. I played video games for hours. However, I still heavily masked my autistic traits, such as fidgeting, and I was very articulate, which is why it took about 12 years for the school system to diagnose me.TL;DR: gender stereotyping and sexism has lead to a general underdiagnosing of women, girls, and feminine people with autism, which means that a large group of autistic people live without the care and help they need.
Are guys with Asperger's more feminine or emotional than most men?
My experience has been just the opposite. Their interests are manly-man things such as engines and computer technology and trains and electronics and muscle cars. They generally don't easily express the emotions they may feel very deeply. Please read books and watch YouTube videos by the Aspergerian (as he calls himself) John Elder Robison!