Why do some shy guys come off as rude to the girl they like?
First thing... Yea guys can be dumb sometimes but thats okay... cuz we all act dumb at one point oin our life...... and in most cases guys are actually more shy... and they have really strange ways of telling a girl bout their feelings.... sometimes to get the girls attention.. they try to act mean or rude... or they try to be the "BAD BOY".... and thats okay... i think you need to get up and make the first move!
Do guys feel rejected when they ask a girl for her number and they refuse?
My boyfriends best friend asks women for their number as his opening line. He is good looking guy that appears normal until he speaks to or about women. He just doesn’t have the capacity to understand people. My guess is he is another person that has made it to adulthood with undiagnosed Aspergers. To say he has a block of understanding right and wrong would be an understatement. He is extremely smart ,well educated and always reading to books to better himself. The last book he read was titled” the art of not giving a fuck about anything” . He chose this book because he does feel rejected especially by women. It would help if he understood it’s very rare a woman will be open to a stranger walking up to them saying hello my name is… may I have your number i think we need to go out on a date. He recently scored with this approach, a very beautiful woman actually gave him her number. Now did they make it to the date part? He sent her a message about the date, she replied by saying you must have the wrong number. He was already engaged to this woman in his mind he had already planned out how their relationship was going to work and how long he would wait to tell her he loves her. All he had was a number he never even questioned if she gave him the right number. I watched this man jumping up and down with excitement over how hot his new girlfriend is. There was no talking any sense into him about the reality of the situation. It was hard to burst his bubble he was so happy. Once again we watched his smile spiral down as he read the from her. Now he is going through the motions of rebuilding his self esteem once again. No doubt the next time he sees a hot chick he will use the exact same approach and once again he will face rejection. I honestly don’t know how to help the guy with the comprehension of right from wrong. Rejection sucks for everyone pretty sure no one enjoys feeling in wanted.
Why do guys act mean to the girl they like?
You're right, this behavior is very immature, and that's the problem with relationships when you're young - girls are emotionally and socially mature much earlier than boys. So although he's the same age as you, emotionally this boy is about eight years old. I don't know the exact reason that young kids find it difficult to admit to some of their feelings and have to express the opposite feeling instead - maybe it's fear of being embarrassed, or because the original emotion is more than they can handle so they have to pretend they don't really have it. Either way, the question for you to ask yourself is - do you want to be involved with a large-sized eight year old? This boy just hasn't yet got the maturity it takes to admit to himself or others that he feels an interest in a girl. That's okay, he'll get there eventually. You have to decide if you can be bothered to wait for that day to come. My advice would be to get on with your own life and interests, be polite to him when necessary, but otherwise just tune him out. Ignore the remarks he makes, or say something like 'Okay, you're entitled to your opinion' in a pleasant tone of voice and then walk away. This is assertive behavior, and it may make him think twice about insulting you or it may not. It doesn't matter - you do what's best for you.
Is it rude to ask a girl if she is a stripper?
It is definitely rude to ask a woman if she is a stripper, erotic dancer, exotic dancer, or whatever other name there is for it. Not because the job itself is shameful or deplorable, but because of the stigma that is attached to it in general society, and the many assumptions that go along with stereotypes of strippers.Still, maybe you have a new friend or acquaintance and you have a hunch she's working as a stripper, as it is a widely pursued line of work around the world. When in doubt, I think the best way to approach someone with a question like this is to open it up and simply ask what they do for a living/job/work.To dig deeper if the answer is vague and/or you truly suspect she's hiding it (entirely possible), you can share some positive anecdote of your or a fictitious friends experience at a strip club and say how you're curious about what it's like to have a job like that. You have to bring it up naturally of course. Start talking about various types of careers that are non-traditional and say something like “I've always wanted to be a skydiving instructor, a nude art model, and ice even wondered what it would be like to be a stripper. When I/we went to a club once a lot of the women seemed to enjoy what they do.” By opening up about yourself and speaking in a positive light, it will be more likely she will trust she can open up to you. If in fact she's not, then she will probably just share whatever opinion she has about the matter. Either way, you find out more about her without being rude or making assumptions, and give her the opportunity to be candid as you are. Living by example, there's something to it. ;)
Is it rude to ask any girl about her age?
Its rude to ask a woman who is significantly older than you...like your elders. Women your age who you are trying to get to know on a better level...you BETTER ask her that age and you need to see some proof too lol...dont wanna get caught up in craziness. Women who are ashamed of that though are just insecure and you dont want to talk to them anyway because they are gonna just lie about that...and their weight. I honestly dont find that offensive either. I never lie about all my thickness. Find you a nice confident woman
What is the proper way to act when a girl you are interested in is rude?
You know what, I don’t see any reason to be rude to anybody. Kindness is the key to any GOOD relationship. Depends on how you feel about this girl. Wanna tell her she’s rude AND assist karma ? You could approach her whether she’s alone or with friends, it works better with friends around You need to act like. I don’t know what I’ve done but I apologize if I upset you. Just don’t say it. Ask her a little louder than normal. “ I must have upset you for you to be so rude to me. Is it something I did or are you just on your monthly period?” She will be REALLY embarrassed. More than you. OK OK, let’s take the high road. You said you are interested in little miss “I will treat you any way I want and YOU will take it”. OK. Life rule: You teach other people how to treat you by what you allow them to do to you and get away with it. And absence makes the heart grow fonder. But there is no guarantee. You could use the “kill with kindness” approach. Carry her books BEFORE she asks you to. Open a door for her BEFORE she asks you to. Assist her with putting on her sweater/coat BEFORE she asks you to. BUT you MUST have already decided what you WON’t do for her. There is a limit, a deal breaker. BUT dear, I have to be very candid with you. She does NOT act as if she is interested in you. One more approach: Avoid her for a day. Don’t let her name cross your lips and don’t let your feelings control you. You may need to avoid her for 2 days. Go out of your way to avoid even the sight of her. She might get curious and track you down. But there is no guarantee. However, realize you have the opportunity to learn a major life lesson here. If you fail, do not worry. YOU will have a similar opportunity . Again and again.Til you get it right. You will learn to respect yourself and expect the same from others. I wish I could hand you a magic lamp. Rub it and the jinn pops out and takes care of all your problems. I’m sorry, I don’t. Besides, there are other girls who wish you would notice THEM. POLITE GIRLS. Go get ’em , Tiger!!
Why is it rude to ask girl if she had an orgasm after sex?
the girls you are with suck if you cant tell if they had one or not. They should not be offended at all...I wouldnt be. Ive been asked that before and I either answer yes or no.
Why do girls get mad when you don't ask them out?
Like every now and then one of my girl---friends or even some random girl would develop a crush on me and then start acting weird around me and make subtle hints but the thing is I dont really like them in that way and I just want to be friends (I'm not g@y or anything i just dont want a relationship). I continue to talk and be a good friend anyways . So usually this lasts anywhere from two weeks to two months and then all of a sudden the girl just gets short with me and if I ask her a question she gets rude or blatantly ignores me . Its not like I can just say "hey I dont like you in that way, we should just be friends" when she flirts since that would make me look like a fool because its not like she asked me out in the first place, in fact none of them do they just act silly for a number of weeks hoping that I ask them out or something but i dont want to because of the reasons i stated above. So what am I suppose to do in situations like this?
What does it mean if guys act rude to you ? (10 points for best answer, feel free to be honest.)?
I have a guy friend who I like. He's pretty rude to me (used to be sweet, but after a friend suggested he was interested in me, he became ruder). It's edged with friendliness. He'll randomly tell me to shut up and once said "I was the ditziest girl he knew." (I'm one of the smartest girls in our class - he knows this - but I get a tad giggly around him). Yet he never acts like he DOESN'T want to talk to me! He'll initiate conversations every now and then. I'm very conscience about not acting clingy or invading where I'm not welcome, but I just don't see that with him. He'll also show his kindness. Once, a mutual male friend refused to "fix" my phone because I have sprint and he was biased towards tmobile. Then the guy who I like said "Honestly dude, I'd do it for her." Yet we don't walk to classes together. Many of his friends are also my friends, so we'll gather in groups and just talk. He won't talk to me even most of the time, but he'll single me out occasionally. He doesn't invite me to hang out with him and his friends (both girls and boys), ever. Doesn't even touch the topic. We're both mild Muslims and boys/girls are still a touchy topic. He does get pretty friendly (with some friendly rudeness, but not as much as he shows me) & hangs with his non-Muslim girl friends, though...he gets more touchy-feely with them too. I'm his closest Muslim girl friend; the others are aquaintances and he's always nice to them; never mean. I'm not sure how important the same religion is to him in dating. I think it's "nice but not required" (same for me). I feel he's giving me mixed signals. If he wasn't of the culture we are, I would've given up hope. Not to mention he's a "tough" guy and pretends to act emotionless. What do you guys thing? Is being rude still considered a way of hiding feelings? Or is he genuinely trying to tell me he's not interested w/o being upfront? 10 pts for best HONEST answer.