Why do I get so nervous when talking to people?
As far as developing your social skills is concerned, it is often a matter of finding common ground with someone. If you are fearing judgment, censorship, or being ostracized, it will be hard to find common ground with people. You feel less intimidated when you have a common interest that draws you close to each other. Here are some suggestions on how to find common ground with others: 1. Learn to be a good listener. Make sure your body language reflects that you are listening. Many people are just looking for someone they can talk to. If they feel that they can talk to you, then they will be much more inclined to listen to you. 2. Learn to ask good questions. People who know how to ask the right question at the right time do very well in socializing with others. Sometimes it is not what you say, but what you ask that endears people to you. The right question will help you find common ground and tell the person you are talking to that you are interested. 3. Learn to laugh at yourself. If you walk around self-conscious, people will be more paranoid around you. But if you can laugh at yourself, then others will feel more comfortable around you too. The first step in feeling easy around others is to first feel easy around yourself. 4. Be hard to offend. If you have a chip on your shoulder, people won't want to be around you. Don't look for the bad in others--you'll always find it. Much of it will be misunderstood and will only create more fear in your further interactions. There are many more things you can do. I've written many articles (including a book) on the subject. Feel free to read the articles at: http://www.fitlyspoken.org People have a hard time opening up because of some fear. Perhaps it is a fear of rejection, of being made fun of, of feeling like the odd man out, or just not feeling like you can really relate to their life, struggles, concerns, and care. If this is you, it is important to isolate what this fear really is and why you have it.Overcoming that fear or at least controlling it is the next step to feeling comfortable talking to others. I wrote some articles on this subject as well. Anyway, hope this helps!
Help! I get nervous when talking to people.?
I don't know what's wrong with me. Is it shyness or social anxiety? Well, let me start from the beginning. I might be talking to a friend, a family member, a co-worker, a guy, a girl, or basically anyone; and I'll always get kinda nervous. I might repeat myself multiple times. My body will be stiff and I tend to be too scared to move. This happens when I do a presentation as well. It's not terrible or anything but at the end of it all, I just feel so insecure. I'll think that I messed it all up. I said (or did) the wrong things, they might've taken it the wrong way, and then I'll always think that they're angry at me. I may avoid them next time because I'll feel as if they hate me or something. Like, because I was so nervous, they took it the wrong way and now they don't think I like them. What can I do? How can I "ease up" in these social settings? Please help, it's been bothering me for quite a time now. Thanks.
Why do I get nervous when I have to talk to people?
Becoming nervous when you have to talk to people isn’t a unique in your life?Look at your life at the things you are good at today. Weren’t you nervous when you first started out?But now you are great at it; how did you become great? Do you still feel nervous? Probably you still do (a bit) but the nervousness is now under your control.So here are few possible reasons (not an exhaustive list):You aren’t an extrovert (social and outgoing)You have been asked to keep quite and listen as a child, always (Damn! Your parents must have been strict. They only meant good though)You are just not used to talking openly about things happening in your life ( You are an introvert. But hey, most great leaders were INTROVERTS)You are dealing with a high stake situation (You just have too much too loose. Even the most expressive extroverts have their tongues tied in such a situation)You don’t know what to talk about ( Well, talk about the last book your read or last movie you watched)The only way you can get over this nervousness is by accepting your nervousness and not hiding it.AndTalking to people regularly and not being in your head all the time. (World is complicated but life is not as complicated as you think)If you are looking for a challenge based guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking so that you can share your thoughts confidently and naturally feel free to grab a copy of my FREE guide called From Zero To Hero at ElevantoI’m building a movement to help my fellow introverts :)
Why do I feel scared and nervous over simple things and how do I stop it?
That's called anxiety. It's really common and loads of people have it. So don't think you are odd or alone.You just stress alot and need some time to clear your head.You have worried thoughts. It could be due to lots of reasons.It may be because yor are afraid of getting judged ,or You may be afraid that people will think badly of you or that you won’t measure up in comparison to others. And even though you probably realize that your fears of being judged are at least somewhat irrational and overblown, you still can’t help feeling anxious.These cause sad or anxious feelings, and cause your body to release chemicals (for example adrenalin) which make you feel worse, and that makes you think more negatively, which causes you to release more chemicals, and on and on it goes. The body is designed to release those chemicals sometimes, but if you're worrying constantly they can build up to the point where they overwhelm you and everything seems terrifying and your hands starts sweating.So just relax and try not to focus on your negative thoughts.For example, if you‘re worried about an upcoming work presentation, the negative thought that could be coming to your mind is: “I’m going to blow it. Everyone will think I’m completely incompetent.”Then and then just stop. De-clutter your mind first. Try to think how you are going to start your presentation instead. Do a little POSITIVE self talk. Tell yourself that you will give your best. Drink water. Bring out the confidence. And yeah always SMILE. It reduces the tension.
I always get SO NERVOUS when i speak in public!!?
i'm ok when chatting with a bunch of people, things only get difficult when i need to do something serious in front of them, like a presentation, speech, etc. last time we were playing games and i lost, and i was asked to sing a song. i knew i could sing very well, for sure!!! but somehow i got nervous and my voice trembled. it was such a disaster!!! a consellor i visited said people get nervous when they don't have confidence. but the thing is, i still get nervous when i'm pretty much familiar with the topic i'm talking about. and i don't get nervous in interviews with people who are my superiors. i got an interviewe before being admitted into the university, by the man who is now my supervisor. he thinks i'm talented, confident, focused and so on because that's what i was like in the interview. and at that time, it felt like i could be whatever i wanted. i think i'm afraid because i know i'm going to face my peers' judgement.
Why do people get nervous and anxious?
I honestly don't understand social anxiety...Like what are you afraid of happening? Is it a self esteem thing? This girl in my class is literally mute and so afraid to speak to people. I've never heard her voice...maybe once but wow the whole class was shocked...
I get nervous whenever I talk to people, how can I fix that?
I was just like you. I decided I didn’t want to be like that so from then on every time I felt that way, I would ask myself if a ‘normal’ person would feel that way and if the answer was no, as it usually was, I would force myself to do whatever was causing me to feel that way. This was difficult. You have to want to change really badly as I did. One step at a time. Every time I faced these fears and anxieties, they got weaker, every time I gave in to them, they would get stronger. After you face the fears, the next time you are in that situation, it is not as hard as you tell yourself you did it before so you can do it again. Sometimes I would challenge myself, like to say hi to a stranger. Over a period of years, the fears, anxieties, shyness all went away. It won’t be easy but it is certainly worth it.
How can I not be so nervous when making speeches?
Almost everyone who goes up to do a speech will *ALSO* be nervous -- so don't be hard on yourself. I use to get so nervous that I had to hold on to something so I wouldn't shake! Now, I am a "natural" at it, lol. The best thing you can start off by doing is *really* knowing your topic. The better prepared you are, the less chance you have to make mistakes. So, preapre yourself and practice talking aloud to friends, family, or a mirror. Keep it simple. Prepare numbered notecards that have KEY WORDS only. The keyword is a prompt to let you know in what order you will be talking about the subject. Again, number your cards in case you drop them. Make sure you allot a certain time for each notecard. Maybe each notecard should be -- let's say --- 2 minutes worth of talking? A minute on the subject/area? When you are going up there, never say "I"m nervous." Go up there, smile and say hello and introduce yourself in a friendly, smiling way. This is your notecard #1. Your last notecard should be asking the class if they have any questions (if that is appropriate), and/or THANKING everyone for the opportunity to share with them. I had trouble with keeping time, so I took a mini-clock up with me and put it on the desk, so that I didn't get nervous and talk to long. Well, good luck and I know you will do great!
How can I talk to people without being nervous?
There is nobody who has not felt this, no matter how confident they may appear. Everyone cries, gets frightened, is ill etc. They might be just as nervous as you!Remember that you are just as good as anyone that you come across. You do not need to change for anyone, and your life has given you a unique perspective that nobody else can offer. Don't hide this uniqueness/weirdness - embrace it! You are interesting and your opinions are valuable. There is no such thing as normal. Don't try to be liked by everyone, as those who do not like you for who you are will never be worth your time and trouble. Don't fear being alone. It is better to be alone than to mix with those you can't relate to.It sounds as if you have social anxiety, which I have also experienced. I used to worry that I was strange and everyone around me was normal, and that there was nobody I could relate to. I was scared to talk in case I got found out. I researched how to interact with people in different situations. None of this made me happy, and none of this led to any friendships.However, if you are open with people you will eventually (or quickly!) find that you can relate to others around you. Some tips:Join societies for people with your interests - there are societies for Pokemon, climbing, Harry Potter, musical instruments, people with social anxiety...Find your people - MeetupBe open to having conversations with people who seem amenable. It needn't be anything special - if a shop worker asks about your day ask about theirs; if someone at a bus stop makes a comment you can agree/add your thoughts. If it doesn't go well it's no big deal.