Why do i always want to be alone...?
Although,i'd answer the question myself with this ''because i want to be alone '',i've come to give it a serious thinking . Most people who come to know me say i'm too lonesome. I'm 22 and they say this is the age to party out and have loads of fun, make friends, and be lively. But i just hate partying ,my health isn't that good and even if my health allows , i just don't like to hang out too much. I'm happy to be on my own and by myself. And there are my older sisters [not my own,just relatives] , aged 25 to 32. They do have so much fun ,go on datings and mingle out with people. They turn to me ,raise their eyebrows and fire me questions ''whats wrong with you?'', '' you are a little bit too abnormal,aren't u?'', '' aren't u bored with ur life?'' etc etc......................Seriously, i'm getting sick with these remarks and shots. Do i need to have some serious psychological counselling ???
Why do I always want to stay alone?
possible depression. you sound a lot like me a year or two ago. have you had bad relationships in the past? I used to have a ton of friends and go out after work and drink come home sleep 5 hours and get up and go back to work and I felt just great. (this wasn't a binge thing it was like once or twice a week) then suddenly I just found myself out, but wanting to be at home. then I'd just stay home. hated it when the phone rang. hated it even more if it was for me. sat around listening to music, watching movies, surfing the net, playing games, etc. it is VERY unhealthy and I bet you feel tired a lot but can't sleep some of the time even when you are exhausted. anyway, maybe you could talk to your doctor about it, or someone you know isn't going to judge you or that you feel comfortable with. I ended up meeting someone I love very much and have been with for over a year and two months now and I feel like I can't start my life over fast enough. maybe you just need to find something or someone to love :D
Why do I want to be alone?
I've just decided that being alone is a good thing and it's something I want. I'm depressed and fallen out with most of my friends, and I really don't want to be friends with them again because they are very nasty people. I feel like one of my other friends is betraying me and my two other friends just avoid me outside of school and don't seem to want me around. I feel completely alone. I always seem to fall out with people and argue with them, it's almost something I enjoy doing. I never insult anyone or bully anyone, I just fall out with my ''friends'' really easily. I don't really care about myself and how many people I'm close to, I like to punish myself by falling out with my friends. I don't know why. I just think being alone is the best thing for me, because I can never settle with a group of friends and I can't stand the bitchiness and the way everyone slags each other off. I hate it. I feel really trapped sometimes and feel like screaming when people start arguments with me. I've had a pretty tough time through the last two years and it's not reflected on me very well. I struggle to trust people and I don't give a **** about who I fall out with. It's like I've just given up and I don't care about anything anymore. I also get really angry when people argue with me and I honestly feel like hitting someone. It's always me, I'm always the one everyone gangs up on, it really isn't nice :( I hate my life and the only thing that's keeping me going is my family, I enjoy coming home and seeing them because I don't have to put up with bitchiness and arguments. I hate having friends because I know I will just fall out with them eventually. I feel so trapped and I relish the thought of eating my dinner on my own and sitting at break on my own. I'm not a shy person but I struggle telling anyone how I'm really feeling and I actually couldn't say all this to anyone :(
Why do I always try to be alone?
It would be helpful to know more about what you were like as a child, what your childhood was like, what you do when you are alone, what you think about when you are alone, your dating history, and what you believe are the benefits of being alone.As you described, wherever you go, you want to hide in a corner and be alone… It is quite possible that some people prefer to be alone at certain times. The question becomes why? If you see the benefit of being alone as not having to feel pressure from social interaction, then this is a sign of social anxiety.If you are choosing solitude as a lifestyle for the aforementioned reason, then it would seem that you are avoiding social interaction because it makes you feel uncomfortable.If you wanted to be alone because you were immersed in writing a novel or a major research project and solitude made it easier to concentrate, then you would have an understandable reason to want to be alone. The reason why you prefer to be alone is the key to understanding whether your desire for solitude is healthy or related to social anxiety.From a mental health perspective, there is a basic assumption that social interaction is very important. Most theories of psychological development assert this. Existentialists in particular believe that the ability to connect with others is vital for healthy and successful human development. I do not believe you should be looking for ways to avoid people. Instead it would be healthier if you sought treatment to deal with the underlying anxiety that seems to be driving your avoidance of social interaction.
Is it normal to always want to be alone?
I seem to be abit different from everyone I like being alone, I cant understand why people get emotionally involved with each other and I really cant stand being around one person for too long. I have never met any1 like me. Is there a screw loose in my head?
Why do i always get sad at parties and always want to be alone?
Hey, it sounds to me like you're an introvert. Basically, an introvert is just someone who is more ... mmm... in touch with themselves, and although they can chill with other people, they also need a break, to be alone and recharge. Someone who is introverted can start to feel drained in social situations, especially big ones where they aren't quite sure what the hell they should be doing there, and aren't connecting with others in any meaningful way. And yeah, a lot of introverts feel that something is just 'wrong' with them, because it seems the whole world is telling them that. Everyone else is so loud and outgoing, and makes connections so easily. The more the merrier, as they say. Yet, one who is introverted has a lot of trouble with these things. However, introversion also has its strengths. It's simply a way of being, and if I'm right about you and you are one, the best thing you can do is learn to accept yourself and live with it, because you can't change it. But you aren't alone. A lot of people feel this way. I myself like parties only when they're "bad" ones. Not a lot of people show up in the end, just the same old people as always, and we don't do much. Less draining that way, and I get my social fix. Look up the word introvert. Do you think it describes you?
I always want to be left alone. What is wrong with me?
If you want to be left alone but feel lonely afterwards (I’m starting to hate these recent question merges) then it is probably a sign that you are misunderstood and want to have socializing and relationships, but you know (or feel that you know) no one around you is going to accommodate your needs. A genius can often struggle with this as people are intimidated by someone who can be seen as outright superior. They can be told they have traits they don’t have or they can be considered condescending when they are respectful. People could assume that everything a genius talks about is above their level even when they do their best to explain it well. Or they could just be thinking on a level that doesn’t allow them to figure out how to better communicate with people not on the same level of conscious.More often, it is just people not being sensitive to who you are and what you care about the most. You could be really environmentally conscious and very close with Earth but have people all around you refusing to change anything. You could be a gamer who just has no one to play with even if you were willing to teach.
Is it unusual that I always want to be alone?
it is actually a journey all brilliant men have taken... where do you think all ideas and deep thought come from? how do you think people discover themselves?it lets you go where you are free and be you :PI like to be alone too... but, what did mommy always say? all extremes are....?fill in the blank :)there are as many interesting things going on out there, you can't lock yourself thinking you like being alone... sometimes fear may keep you locked from great thingslearn about people, understand them!but enjoy your alone times! they are great too!"Life could be wonderful if people would leave you alone."Charlie Chaplin"Yes, I guess you could say I am a loner, but I feel more lonely in a crowed room with boring people than I feel on my own."Henry Rollins"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be"Ellen burstynthere is one Marcus Aurelius wrote :/ can't find it, sorry!!!I would also like to point out that... you are not alone when you are on your computer interacting with hundreds of people...or reading a book where a person is sharing something...you just prefer not to be part of the social environment at times :D
Why do leaders/geniuses always want to be alone?
Not really introverted, but contemplative. Seeing more and understanding more don't happen in the split second. It takes time to consider the reaches of what one has come to know. When one is dedicated to a pursuit, they spend a great deal of time digesting what they do and work on a level that has few who can follow. being on the leading edge of knowledge means that most people will not understand what you are doing and fewer still care. The longer they pursue the task, the farther they move from even their colleagues. The task must be pursued and understood, as most intellectuals enjoy a good puzzel we enjoy the success in solving as it is what we are good at. Most of the time this means that we do it alone. It isn't that we don't wish others to talk to, but it does make it increasingly unlikely that someone could actually fill that roll. If people wish to converse with us, they have to meet us where we are, and we are always at work. Sorry, it is just a logical progression. As to leaders, they too are inmeshed with their objective. They have seen what needs to happen and are in motion making it happen. Again they are at work and likely will not rest until they have secured success. You have to meet people where they live.
My boyfriend always wants to be alone?
Sounds to me like a typical clash between and introvert and an extrovert. First of all, he needs to respect that you need your time out with friends (just as you need to respect that he hates that crap and prefers to be alone). Tell him how important it is to you and your well-being, but above all else, reassure him that you love him and are not going to be doing anything "unacceptable" (e.g., cheating, flirting with other guys, etc.) while you're out without him. Make it a point to text him a time or two when you're out without him, so that he gets used to the fact that you're thinking about him even when you're not with him (a word of caution: don't let him dictate to you when you are to text/phone, as he will try to use that as a way to control you; instead, the first time you are out without him, just be sure to send him a random message here and there so that he feels good about himself, you, and the relationship). Try slowly going out more and more frequently, although the rate at which you increase your outings without him must be a SLOW rate (so that he doesn't feel you are suddenly ditching him for your friends). If he continues to struggle with the fact that you are an extrovert and he is an intorvert, then you might want to seek out counselling as a couple (or pick up some books on the subject) so that the two of you can work through things together. Good luck :)