Why do I always want the door shut?
I also like my door closed to, unless there is a lot of people over or everyone including me are doing tasks that force me to go in and out I don't mind. But I think its the fact of liking to feel that you got your privacy even if your not doing anything and its just alot more quiet which just make you feel more comfortable and less annoyed of people coming in your room. That's just my guess and how I feel sometimes though :))
Why do we ALWAYS want what we can't have?
We want what we can't have because desiring more is was drives our imagination and creativity. If humans were naturally content with whatever existed before us, we'd still be living in caves. To address your actual situation... my advice to you is to stop putting up with people's crap. Seriously, what does N mean when he says he "doesn't know" if he still wants to be with you? You should be PISSED! What the hell does he mean he doesn't know, when you are such and awesome person and a great catch? Does he honestly think he can just string you along forever, like a lost puppy? Is he really that arrogant? C is no better, because he wants to put you on some kind of time table that's convenient for HIM. He basically told you that he'll only get with you if he hasn't found someone else in the next 6 months. What a jerk! He obviously doesn't see your awesomeness, either. As for Jay... well, there's a guy who sees your awesomeness, and it sucks that you're not into him. But that happens, and if he's really that depressed over it, he should seek medical help for it because his attitude is not healthy. Not your problem, though. My advice: forget about N and C. Write them off. While it sucks to be single and lonely, it's better to be single and lonely than in a bad relationship. I speak from experience. When the right guy comes along, it will just *work.* You won't experience this drama like you are with N over trying to MAKE it work, when the pieces just don't go. And the right guy will recognize your awesomeness right away, and not put you on a shelf like C. It will happen... but it will take a lot longer if you keep wasting your time with these unnecessary guys.
Why do I always want sex when I'm drunk?
Sexual desire is a powerful drive in all creatures-homo sapiens only suppresses it because of cultural and societal mores. Alcohol is notorious for loosening inhibition, however. My true concerns would be, #1 do you forget the importance of safe sex on these occasions and #2 do you enjoy and have a memory of enjoying the sex later on? As long as you consistently practice safe sex and stay in a safe environment (e.g. where people you know and trust are around to help if needed), casual sex is not going to cause you great harm. Your overindulgence in alcohol is far more worrying. EXCEPT-if you aren't truly enjoying the sex physically, or can't even much recall it later, you aren't seeking sex, you're seeking something else altogether. Acceptance, self affirmation, a poor substitute for affection, a boost to your self esteem...whichever it is, casual sex cannot provide it. In that case, I recommend therapy to discover what you seek so you can look for a better source. There is nothing shameful about casual sex as long as you are safe and only seeking physical pleasure...there is nothing wrong with physical pleasure. But if you are using casual sex as a substitute for deeper needs, it will end up badly. I do suggest you cut back on the booze and examine your desires and motives, that will help you make good decisions for your future. Best of luck.
Why do i always want to be with her? text her and call her? why am i like this?
Why do i always feel like talking to my girlfriend over the phone or just texting her all the time? I noticed that i even neglected my friends over the time which is not good. I always want to go to her house but never usually ask. I always enjoy just being around her in person and hate when she leaves. My mood is good when we hang out but when she or i have to leave a few hours later my mood goes down. Why am i like this? What can i do? I hate myself for acting this way, i never usually done this before
If you always want what you can't have, what do you want when you can have anything?
This reminds me of King David and how he wanted Bathsheba. He saw her, wanted her, despite the fact he could have any of the hundreds of wives and concubines in his harem.He made sure her husband died in the war and wooed her and married her.That's the kind of shady dealings that go on when you can have anything… especially what you can't have, or shouldn't have…2 Samuel 11 Bible Gateway passage: 2 Samuel 11 - New International Version
I ALWAYS WANT SEX? How can i fix this?
i had the same problem i was always having sex and always wanting it because i would always get it whenever my boyfriend for past 2 years have been having sex everyday also (my exbf too) and sometimes 2-3 a day b.c i jus wanted more and when i didnt get it i would masturbate, or use a vibrator to get thru ( back massagers work wonders!, mine broke unfortunately) and sometimes look a porn at same time. but something happened i dont want sex anymore for past 4 months i only had sex 4x idky cause i was addicted and now im like a nun lol my bf is greatly effected by this i got him used to having sex all the time and he is just getting used to it but not entirely idk what wrong with me maybe its b.c ive been having sex since i was 14 yrs old (im now 19) and my hormones arent goin crazy anymore or maybe just a phase (who knows 2 weeks from now i can be goin crazy again) but yea like i said masturbate, or sex toys...now to turn him on i tried these things. 1. while he is laying down or sleeping (try if he not a grumpy sleeper) take his penis out and start suckin on it and give hand job even if its soft (it should get hard eventually especially since he'll wake up 2.take your clothes off cause "your hot" this works after my bf looks at my body he just wants me soon after 3.start touching yourself in front of him 4.does he have a weak spot? my bf is his neck i start kissing it and he gets horny quick 5.while hes sitting down start rubbing his penis i had to do all this b4 my bf got used to having sex all the time me and you should trade bfs since my bf wants sex and you do and i dont want sex like your bf doesnt either lol if you think he cant go without maybe he could be cheating on you and if he is go look for someone new cuz no one deserves that...masturbation doesnt work on me either, so i used the back massager...
Why do we always want more and feel like we can't get enough of anything?
That's just the nature of believing yourself to be a "separate thing" -- the official word for it is "ego", but that's a word that's kind of confused with other concepts.When your mind operates without awareness, it finds differences between you and "not-you", and sort of cuts reality in two at those lines. The result, psychologically, is a sense of being something that's cut off from the rest of life -- from others, from what you want, from "the whole".So that kind of a self feels alienated and separate and sort of 'empty and meaningless': it's like a small scouting ship that's gotten lost in space and can't find the mothership anymore, and then has forgotten that it ever belonged to the mother ship. Ok, it's SciFi metaphor day. Sorry.Anyway, such a self is always kind of hungry: everything it wants is a kind of proxy or cheap substitute for what it really needs -- to be restored to its unity with all of life. So it keeps chasing things that it wants, and those things fail to be satisfying, because a substitute for wholeness can never actually replace wholeness.The ultimate solution (there are also various band-aids or temporary solutions) is to undo the original malfunction: the places where the belief in difference became a belief in separateness. That takes a lot of awareness and understanding, a kind of cognitive self-redemption that can take years to complete.