Why Do I Avoid People And Why Do I Get Anxious

Why do people hate socially anxious people and avoid them, and why do they love confident people more than socially anxious people?

I personally feed off the energy and vibe of others. It is not that they hate socially anxious people but it can make them feel the same, especially if they are empathetic and do not have the right skulls to control that. I tend to do things that make people feel weird and do not notice, these coping skills, help us and drive others away.Not looking people in the eyes, or shifting your eyes.Tapping, hummingShiftingAre normally signs to someone that you may be hiding something, lying or uncomfortable around them. Consider how you would feel thinking that?Take small steps when going out and trying to meet people, it gets overwhelming. Just experienced overloading myself and feel like I am angry for no reason. Make sure you have a support system, whether it be a friend, spouse ,church leader and it would be even greater if they could be around sometimes when you go out. My spouse knows when I get panicky and has me grab his belt, no matter the crowd he gets is out, and together so I can call down.Thank you and best of luck. You are not alone everyone has something quirky about them..

Why do people avoid me just because I am anxious, jittery and have no life skills? Don't they realize that treating me like that makes me worse and if they treated me with a little compassion maybe I would be able to get better?

There's a lot of information I don't have about your experiences. However, I can confidently say that there are a lot of people who for one reason or another do not look beyond a reality that excludes them. As a result, their perception of you would be a bit different. Now, you've thought about this, so I'd assume if you were to meet someone further down the scale to you you'd be more kind.When others observe you or interact with you, they focus on the aspects that most make them uncomfortable. I'm not saying it's their fault, or your fault for being the way you are. All I'm saying is that we all have to meet each other halfway. Take it as a learning experience to make yourself a better person. And bear in mind the people who treat you in an undesirable manner may not have thought about existence from a different point of view, especially from your point of view.Try and see the positive aspects of people and yourself too. It's easier said than done. Try and be thoughtful and considerate to people regardless of how they treat you. Learn what makes you a better person, a more desirable person. Not so people can like you, but so you could contribute more than you or they are to society.Everyone is weird, everyone is anxious, everyone lacks a skill or many. Many people are just good at concealing it. And many people just treat you as they've been treated by another person. Break the cycle, be good to people regardless, and focus on making the world a happier place.The fact you've perceived something you think is a problem is a good step. Try and solve the problem. For yourself at least. Remember, everyone's in the same boat, some just hide it better.Sorry if I didn't address your question properly.

Why do we get more anxious at night? Or why do anxious people stay up?

Personally for me, when I was working full-time, I would get anxious at night especially because I was anxious about the following day. Will I wake up on time? Will I make it to the meeting without my car breaking down? Will I prepare enough for the meeting? Was I well prepared for any questions after my presentation? There's so many things that I would be anxious about. I would rehearse my speech to make sure that I was able to counter any objections that the group may have about my proposal.I also got anxious at night because when I lived alone I never knew who would be outside. When I was psychotic I would push dressers against the door so if I would hear someone will try to come in. If someone would ring my bell after night time, I would not answer.But then again, I would get anxious in the day. I went to the theater and had to leave and go home before the play started. There was just so many people around increasing my anxiety.Sometimes it just depends on what your triggers are. Mine were normally finances, claustrophobia, open spaces, and social activities.Meds could also possibly cause more anxiety.Hope I answered your question well enough.

How do I avoid being too anxious?

How do I stop feeling anxious?When you're feeling anxious or stressed, these strategies will help you cope:Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head.Eat well-balanced meals. Do not skip any meals. Do keep healthful, energy-boosting snacks on hand.Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks.Get enough sleep. When stressed, your body needs additional sleep and rest.Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health. Check out the fitness tips below.Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly.Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary.Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn't possible, be proud of however close you get.Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.Get involved. Volunteer or find another way to be active in your community, which creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress.Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify? Write in a journal when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, and look for a pattern.Talk to someone. Tell friends and family you’re feeling overwhelmed, and let them know how they can help you. Talk to a physician or therapist for professional help.Everyone experiences some sort of anxiety, including myself. “Being prepared for everything” for me is the one that really help me the most when it comes to this problem. Try to have plans on what you need to do, it greatly lessen the feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease.

Why do I get anxious after opening up to people?

Hey, I have experience treating people like you, and I’m not blaming you for something. I’m just saying I can understand you perfectly because before helping people, I was in the exactly same place as you.In first place, we have to remember that our behavior, besides our personality is also made by our family, environment, school, friends, neighbors, etc. So your behavior doesn’t mean COMPLETELY that you are like that, because the place we live and the people who’s always with us can change us in a extremely way. And you could even don’t see it!I don't know how old are you, but is good (Fantastic!) you already noticed that little problem you have. You know what does that mean?It means that you really enjoy to talk to people, met people, and share things in common and experiences as well. But you may be are anxious because you haven’t realized yourself completely. You still have fears inside you haven’t overcome from your past.You need more time alone, analyzing and exploring yourself in every single way you can understand this. ^And alone I mean ALONE. Nobody with you. And when some problems come to your life, try to take the decisions for yourself, without asking anyone, and always choosing what you think are the best for you based on your own judgment.Also when someone suffer, the person begins to lose fear to real things, because now it focus more in smart conversations with people who can understand different kind of topics.Another thing that could help you is met people when you be around someone who you really trust like your sister, brother, or best friend. Someone who don’t make you feel anxious and that will give you more confidence.Is a very large process and it can be hard for you to understand it well just by reading this note. But if you really want to be more sociable person in REAL LIFE, then don’t doubt about it, just do it! Do everything, and I mean EVERYTHING you want without thinking about somebody else's judgment!!! Is amazing to notice how to get the freedom in real life can give you at the same time freedom in your mind. Trust me!

Why do I feel anxious?

What is Anxiety?Speaking purely on an emotional and physical level, anxiety triggers feelings of panic, worry, and stress. This causes physical symptoms: fast heart rate, sweaty palms, inability to concentrate and much more.The truth is, anxiety is triggered on a chemical level in the body and there are very deep-rooted, historical psychological reasons as to why we suffer from anxiety and why some people suffer more than others.The Sabre-tooth Tiger!To find out what anxiety is and why we suffer from it, we need to look all the way back to our cavemen ancestors! That’s right – it’s their fault! As an experiment, imagine that you are a cave-person living in a tribe. What would your needs be? At the root of everything, your greatest need is to survive as a human being and then to survive as a tribe. So your main concerns would be food, water, and safety. Your brain is hard-wired to KNOW that your survival depends upon these three things.Therefore, if you see a Sabre-tooth Tiger, you know you are in danger as you could be its next meal! If you have no food, you know you are in danger as you may not survive. If your water supply has run out, you know that you could dehydrate. If any of these things happen, your body’s natural, the hard-wired chemical response is to release something called ADRENALINE.Adrenaline is a chemical often referred to as the ‘fight or flight’ chemical. It is released as soon as the body PERCEIVES that there is danger. Its purpose is to shut off smaller bodily functions and prepare the brain with more oxygen to be able to deal with a potentially dangerous situation. If that Sabre-tooth Tiger is staring you in the eye, adrenaline is released into your bloodstream. Your heart-rate increases, your brain focuses on what to do in the situation and you have one simple decision to make: do I fight or do I run away? Those are your two options – the third one is that you get eaten!Similarly, if a rival tribe comes to steal all of your food, your body perceives this as a danger. Your body prepares you to either fight to get your food back or run away from the situation to protect yourself.So What Does this All Mean?Quite simply, it means that anxiety sufferers are chemically wired to become anxious over things that others may not feel anxious about. A great analogy is to think of a faulty smoke detectorRead More:Why Do We Get Anxious

Why do I get nervous/anxious around certain people but confident around others? And how do I fix this?

WHY questions on Quora about interpersonal interaction are tricky because the “why” of any one human’s emotional response to a given situation is a product of their unique psychological development. So, “why” you get anxious with some and confident with others is unique to you.With that disclaimer noted, in general, cognitive theory of human development finds that anxiety is often an emotional response associated with a perception of some degree of insecurity or danger and confidence with an enhanced perception of safety. So, it might be that around some people you interpret their words or actions as some degree of danger or insecurity and others you interpret as safe or even supportive of you.As to how to “fix this”, it depends on what your goal is. As the question is stated, you might have a well developed and functional capacity to correctly perceive people who are “more likely” to be a possible danger to you VS others who are “more likely” to be safe and supportive of you. For most of my clients, over 25 years, that would be a skill they aspire to create for themselves :)But, if your goal is to NOT get “overly” anxious around some others who don't objectively seem unsafe (e.g. they are not speaking or acting in a threatening manner), then it may be helpful to recognize that when this is happening, to then ask yourself (in the moment): “how am I describing this situation/person right now to myself? Often when we amplify the emotion of anxiety, it is habituated with self talk that is “catastrophic” or “demanding”, but out of proportion to the objective reality. For example, if you are saying to yourself that “it will be horrible” if I can't think of anything to say to this person (e.g. social anxiety), then you may have learned to habituate high anxiety with that catastrophic thinking.In CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy), one can learn to recognize this habit and learn to create a new habit of how to interpret a situation and attach an appropriate and functional level of emotional response to a given situation.Hope this helps :)

Why do I feel anxious and sick?

Psychologist Martin Seligman wrote a great book entitled What We Can Change....And What We Can't. In the book he discusses anxiety, and he makes an important point: when everything is going fine, our minds continue to look for something to go wrong. It's a trait we inherited from our caveman ancestors because historically, it was TRUE that something bad was always happening.  It paid to worry all the time. The cavemen who worried excessively were better prepared for the next catastrophe, so their offspring survived better. Further generations inherited that anxious trait. Seligman also points out that anxiety engenders itself: when you start feeling anxious your body gets tense, when your body gets tense, your brain gets concerned, when you get concerned, your brain automatically believes there's a real problem (e.g. I'm having a heart attack) which causes you to freak out...which increases heart rate and blood pressure, ad infinitum.  In short, the worry worsens the physical symptoms which escalates the anxiety. A vicious circle. Usually, once a person is informed that the physical sensations are the normal consequence of worrying, they stop having anxiety attacks. I know that's long and drawn-out, but I hope it helps!  (p.s., check out Dr Seligman on YouTube, or get the book. He's fantastic)