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Why Do I Avoid Talking To My Parents

Why do Asian parents avoid talking about sex with their kids?

How do you know they do?

Some parents get embarrassed about the subject so they avoid it but this goes for parents the world over - black, white, asian etc.

Unless you have lived in lots of Asian homes how can you assume that asian parents particularly don't talk about this?

I think you will find that many parents, not just Aisans, get uncomfortable about talking about sex - hence all the jokes we hear/see about parents having 'the talk' with their kids. (eg - like the dad in the American Pie films!) We all laugh at these situations because we have all been on either the giving or recieving end of such cringeworthy talks! lol

Lets face it , no one, even when you get in your 40's and 50's, is comfy listening to their own parents talking about sex. We all prefer to pretend our mums and dads have never done it! So the kid gets uncomfortable during these talks and the parents avoid them like the plague!

If your parents aren't willing to talk to you about it then this is probably why!

Why do Asian parents avoid talking about sex with their kids?

I agree with explodinggummybears. Asians parents are always worried about what others think. My mom use to lie to people about what my dad does(job) because she was embaressed. Or my cousins in Asia had a bid wedding ceremony and my mom would say you better have a bigger wedding how embarressing if they outdo you. So retarded! Yea asins don't talk about anything an we aren't affectionate towards family which is wierd. My boyfriend is not asian and his familt hug a lot so I am use to it. When my uncle came from Asia to live in the U.S., first thing was I gave him a hug and he didn not hug me back...AWWWWKWAAARD!!! I have four sisters and we never hug kiss or say I love you...but we do say it to our parents. So its not just sex we that asian parents don't talk about its everything that seems big. They wont talk about stuff liket that until you are like 30.

How do it stop/avoid talking back to my parents?

I always like ALWAYS talk back to them, not once that I didn't have a time not talking back to them. I want to stop talking back to them, when I talk back to them I get so pissed but minutes later I feel bad because I know it's not right to talk back to your parents and I know that I might've hurt their feelings. I can't control myself. I get mad easily and my temper is always high. I want to be a better daughter.

Why do teenagers avoid talking to their parents?

cause they're going through a period in their life where they want to be independent and free, and at the same time don't feel like anyone would understand their problems anyway. it's pretty common and most kids get over it and develop better relationships with their parents as they grow older.

How to avoid talking to my dad?

Ok so yesterday my dad was being a jerk the whole day. The night before I got home sort of late and he was upset and so he told me to come home earlier. So instead of being bad or whatever I came home the time he wanted me home. I was already angry at him because he was screaming at me before I left and ruined my whole night with my friends because he put me in a bad mood. Anyway when I got home I said hello and went into my room. Then like an hour later he starts screaming at me and bursts into my room and he makes me go into my parents bedroom and asks me what something is, and why its here and Im just like how am i supossed to know this isnt my room blah blah blah. So then I walk into my room, he bursts in again asking me why I didnt do the dishes (when he didnt even tell me to) and I tell him that I always clean after myself after I eat, so why should I do yours and my older brothers dishes? I think that your capable of doing it yourself. So then he tells me that somethings wrong with me. Then I go into the bathroom to avoid talking to him and he bangs on the door and yells at me telling me to give him the garbage because I wont take it out myself. Then I stay in the bathroom and just cry away. My dad always gives me an extremely hard time because he thinks I never do anything around the house. I do though, but he wouldnt know because he comes home when my mom leaves to work and thats when I help her. No, my dad has never hit me or abused me physically. He never did anything to hurt me that way. He is just such an aass verbally and I just cant take it anymore. He always screams at me but never to my brother and im the younger sibling. What can I do to avoid talking to him like this or him making me cry? Because seriously Ive had enough of it

Why do parents avoid talking to their kids about pornography?

I’m sure parents avoid talking about many topics with their children because it’s uncomfortable. Sex, pornography, etc. can be hard to bring up an discuss, and it’s easier to just assume that your child would never do something like that.Unfortunately, issues like pornography addiction are getting more and more prevalent, and as parents we need to address these issues with our kids, instead of hoping they don’t ever get caught up in it. Starting when your kids are young, make sure they know they can talk to you about anything. It’s so much better for a child to hear from their parents about what pornography is and why it should be avoided, then to hear random incorrect facts from society. There is a good article here with tips about how to discuss pornography with your children.

How do I avoid telling my parent my salary?

I think I'm going to disagree with most of the answers here.Here's why.Let your dad boast about your salary.Yes, it might be embarrassing to you. That is because you don't have confidence in yourself. You're scared about what your relatives think of you.You're worried about them avoiding you or talking bad behind your back.It only shows what kind of person they are if they do. Not you."A person talking bad behind your back without knowing what you went through only shows the kind of person they are. Not you."On another note, I'm not recommending that you go and tell everyone your salary. Since your dad already told them, use this situation to your advantage.Rich people want to hide their wealth. Poor people want to show their wealth.This comes down to confidence.If you're really rich, you don't care about what other people think.If you're poor, you want people to know you're rich.What's the difference?Rich people have the confidence. They don't care if you think they are poor.Have some confidence in yourself but don't be arrogant.Inspire your relatives that their lives can change too.I bet your dad didn't give you the job. You're the one who worked hard and got the job yourself.You learn skills that people are willing to pay X amount for. You did it yourself.Use what you learn to inspire your relatives so they can do what you did.

Why do teenagers avoid talk to their parents?

I personally don’t like talking to my parents all the time because I feel as though I will mess something up. I do like to talk to them, but I feel like I will either say or do something wrong. I just got my phone taken away from me a few hours because I was watching The Office instead of just listening to music; I saw my sister watching The Office while doing homework and I thought that I could do the same, but apparently not. The main other reason that I spend a lot of time talking to my friends over my parents is because my sister and I fight every single day, and my parents, neither of which grew up with other kids in the house, understand that we can go from hating each other to being best friends in like 3 minutes. It’s just easier for me to stay away from them, and my phone gives me something to do when I’m alone.I also don’t like talking to my parents for long periods of time because there is always something that can go wrong, and chances are it will.I just might forget something and get yelled at for it. I’ve been getting agitated really easily recently, most likely because of hormones, and its just more helpful for me to seclude myself from the rest of the family.

What should I do to make my parents stop talking to me everyday? I know they love me a lot, but I just don’t like to talk, especially for hours at a time. It’s frustrating. How do I make them understand this without breaking their heart?

I am an Indian girl, and I live abroad for work. Me and my sister both live away from home, so my parents are also in a similar situation as yours. You would know the worries of Indian parents when both their daughters are living alone in unknown cities. Only yesterday my mom freaked out when I didn't reply to her watsapp messages at 10 am in the morning (I was in a meeting) In the 30 minutes she didn't get my message, my father called me thrice, my sister pinged me on FB a dozen messages saying "call mom, shes freaking out again" .  I am also in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend-and he also wants to Skype for an hour every day. Like you, sometimes I just DONT WANT TO TALK. But I do talk. Every single day.  I recently got laid off from work due to budget cuts, and I have 2 months notice to search for a new one . I didnt tell my parents because they would freak the hell out.  Every day I talk to them, laughing and joking as if nothing has happened. They ask me about work and I tell them everything is Awesome (with a capital A). I talk to my bf when I would rather apply to jobs and study for interviews. It is hard. But I take a deep breath and plunge into it. Talking to your loved ones shouldn't be so hard , some might say. But loving is not easy. Its a commitment. I make an effort-even when I'm not feeling so sunny I behave as if I do. The more you retract yourself, the more will your parents yearn for a connection. All they need from you is an assurance that you are safe and happy. So give it to them. Having come to adult life you must have realized that they must've had a hell of a difficult time , navigating life and bringing up a child. It must've been hard for them when they had a bad day in office and you wanted to go out for dinner to a fancy restaurant. It must have been hard for them to be there for you when THEY wanted to sit in a corner of the house and just stare at the ceiling. I'm not trying to appeal to your emotions(God knows it never works with me) - I am pointing out that there are somethings you need to do because you have the power to make people really happy and really sad, and you just need to man up and choose the tougher path.

How do I stop myself from talking to my parents?

Practice all of these but especially #2 as it relates to your parents.They are projecting their fears and hopes for you onto you not realizing that they aren't including your desires in the process.You could try writing letters to them expressing your feeling (without blaming) and explaining how you feel after hearing their views as well as your desire for mutual understanding.However, at the end of the day remind yourself that they may sincerely think they mean well, and this is about who they are and not who you are.All the best to you!

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