Why do I get emotionally attached to everything?
There is not wrong being emotionally attached to something. What is wrong when your feeling of attachment become a hindrance to your self being. Normal people have a sense of attachment that has nostalgia to their lives. However, when attachment turns into obsessive compulsive disorder then you need to prioritize things that you mostly need.
Why do some people get attached to people and things way too easily?
Oh my gosh, I used to be one of those people.I was pretty emotionally fragile when I was little. I was a smart kid but I just had trouble processing sadness when I was hit with hard realities. I think I consumed too much media meant for adults, and a lot of things just shocked my system. I remember being 9 and crying my eyes out at a story in Reader’s Digest about a grandpa who accidentally ran a car over his infant grandson. In some ways, it caused me to grow up too fast.For that reason, I got very attached to people and things very easily. I liked comfort and familiarity. I was painfully shy, and didn't like stepping outside of my comfort zone.The biggest repercussion was that I hated when things ended. It made me feel hollow. I hated when school years finished or classmates went to different schools. It was jarring to me. I didn't like moving on and I didn't like being left behind.When I see people who get attached to things too easily, I immediately see that same fragile nervousness in them that I had as a kid. I had a dear friend at my former college who was exactly like that. It took her a New York minute to get deeply attached to something/someone, and she had a hell of a time letting go. At her core, she was highly insecure and terrified of not being good enough, so she latched onto whoever showed her affection. I still consider that a main if not *the* main reason for attachment issues.Thanks for the A2A, Matt :)
Is getting too "attached" to someone a bad thing?
Depends on what your personal definition of "attached" means. To me, being too attached means you are unable to perform daily tasks after meeting this person when you had no problem performing them before meeting them...things like making decisions based on your own opinion and perception. If you find that 2 or more of your friends make comments about how your "whipped" or how you don't live your own life anymore...then you've become too attached and have allowed this person to gain too much control over your life. Also, if you find that you cannot balance time between your new love interest and family and friends...then you're too attached. From what I've read of your situation, it doesn't sound like a "too attached" issue...sounds more like you're unsure or too young to understand what committment entails...not trying to offend you, but that's usually what happens when you tend to jump from one relationship to another so quickly. I'd advise you to just enjoy life right now, learn more about yourself and your wants and needs...then you'll know what it is you want in a relationship and will know what "too attached" means to you.
Do you have a mind that is open to everything but attached to nothing?
That is a wonderful question. What you have described in your question itself is the exact nature of the universal mind. Open to everything and yet attached to nothing. We become that which you have asked in the question when we become one with this universal mind. Unknowingly or say unconsciously we tend to become one with this universal mind at one time or another on several occassions throughout the day but our perception of the physical world tends to pop us out of that one-ness again and again. Though rare at any one point of time in human history, there have always been individuals throughout the human history who learned to be one with this universal mind almost all the time without having to lose their physical-ness. They became great teachers and were/are highly revered in different human cultures in which they existed. So to answer your question, I am that which you are asking just as you are that as well and I would love to be more of that more of the time. :-)
When you love everything you are attached to nothing?
I think to genuinely love everyone you would have to know the true nature of reality and be a fully enlightened being. In its exquisiteness everything is continually dissolving. Every moment flows into the next and is gone. To live deeply and soak in every moment as it happens there would be no need for attachment for you know IT is continually happening and isn't really going anywhere, but changing forms. From this deep understanding I think love is automatic. Thich Nhat Hanh said something in a book I read of his, "Understanding and love are not two things but one". I love everyone, but like I said in a post earlier I wrote to you, it is a continual process of staying in that state every single moment of life and I do slip out of it. So I do get attached to those thoughts. Stupid thoughts pop up but it's being aware of them you let them dissolve and let love flow. So yes a fully enlightened being is not attached to anything for they see it all as transient, yet eternal and they love all beings as themselves. Namaste.
Why am I attached to things so quickly?
Attachment is about ego and identity. it's also about fear and loss of control. Attachment is a BIG subject! If we have a strong sense of who we are, and are well grounded in who we are we don't NEED things or people to complete ourselves, to feel Whole or comfortable. At times in my life when I haven't felt good about who I am I've looked for things outside of myself to MAKE me feel good, and I've attached to them. When I haven't been in touch with a sense of joy from the inside, I've looked for things outside of myself to MAKE me happy, and I've attached to them. People do this all of the time. It is done without consciousness of course, and, SURPRISE! …… it doesn't work!Perhaps if you are attaching to things or people very easily it is because there is something lacking for you, within you, that would make you feel whole. The best thing that can happen for us is that we recognize this when it is happening. The great news is that you have! If you never recognize this behavior in yourself, and most people never do, you can't fix it. Once you do notice that you do this, you can begin to look at yourself to see what it is that you are afraid of, or what it is that's making you feel sad or lonely, etc. The answers to all of these issues will be found within yourself. So that's the good news and the bad news as they say! You have the power to fix this for yourself, AND, if you want it fixed, YOU must be the one to do it; this is an inside job. People go around all day long grabbing for and attaching to things and people because they believe that these things and people will make them feel better, make them whole and happy, feel less sad, less hurt, less lonely. Perhaps something like this is going on for you. There are lots of great books out there on attachment. You are already doing great things for yourself because you are noticing and questioning your need for attachment! Have you read “"The Power Of Now” by Elkhart Tolle? I'm not even sure if attachment is mentioned in that book, but it has all of the answers about it. Finding yourself and being grounded in who you are will help to diminish your need for things on the outside of yourself.
Why do we get attached to inanimate objects?
Because we are the only species that put meaning on everything. With meaning, comes attachments. It grips every one of our senses. When you hold on to that toy dog, what comes to mind? When you hold it, you think of your dad? When you think of your dad, what sorts of images come up? It's comforting for you and so you chose the dog to keep those memories fresh, and it is most comforting when you can keep them this way, and so now the toy dog is meaningful to you. That's why you have the attachment.
Is it okay to be emotionally attached to these things....?
so I am emotionally attached to these things... and dont say this band is crap, i dont care if you think so or not. But I am attached to Green Day. I know everything about them (Im not a stalker..) and it really kills me inside to know that I can never meet them and it really makes me sad knowing the other fans they have met. I love them so much this band changed my life. Another thing that I am attached to is... this pencil. I have been using it ever since school started, on the 5th and I feel an emotional connection with it. I am very weird... and I have already lost it once and I felt very sad and I found it and felt happy. I missed it so much... I am also attached to my computer. I sit on it all the time and I know thats horrible. I love it so much, I have tons of music and pictures on it and I spend lots of time organizing everything on it. And it makes me sad and angry whenever my younger sister gets on it. There is only one computer in the house so.. I am emotionally attached to my bed. It is always there for me when I am tired. I spent most of my summer on my computer or in my bed. I have nothing else to do. I'm pathetic. .-. Please dont judge me on this one...and i know some people will... but I am attached to my blades. i am a self harmer and I love my blades very much, I have 14 of them and I named all of them. I put one letter of the alphabet on them so I can memorize which is which. What is wrong with me??? I am very emotionally attached to stupid crap!!!!