What happens to you when your parents don't love each other but put up with each other?
Family is the most important thing. When everything else goes wrong, it's our family whom we turn to. So, home should be a place of warmth and love. When one lacks this foundation of hope and togetherness, life can get difficult.I'm a 29 year old girl and I have an elder sister who is 34. Our parents don't love each other. It was difficult to grow up seeing our parents fighting all the time. They also have separate professions. So, my mom wasn't at home all day. Our granma took care of us while my parents were away during the day. So there was very less time that we had our parents at home. Even the very less time they spent together was filled with nasty fights and unnecessary arguments. While my sister and I eagerly waited for our parents to get back home from work to spend some happy time with them, all we got was an earful for how things are unpleasant. Whilst all our friends and cousins had a nourishing childhood, me and my sister were left to ourselves to grow up as good individuals. Our parents did realize the importance of education because of which my sister and I shaped our lives for the better. My sister is a research scientist at an environmental firm, and I'm employed in the IT industry.Here comes the drawback of the early childhood days spent with parents who don't love each other.First of all, my sister and I don't stay with our parents anymore, we moved out for higher education and found jobs elsewhere. We dread going home. We are dependent on others for emotional strength. Because we lack the emotional stability and strength from family, we face several odds everyday.Second, I am unable to trust another person when it comes to marriage. I feel that my marriage would end up in a bad way. Although I feel that I can turn things around for myself and learn from my parents mistakes, it's difficult to surpass the childhood unpleasant incidents. My sister faces the same problem too. Although we both are educated and employed and have found our ways for our life, we are unhappy constantly. We don't find love at home, we aren't able to find love for ourselves for fear of it going wrong.I hope to find love that I can trust and hope for it to be true so I can have a better family some day. Guess I'll have to wait and watch.
I'm getting my kids nothing for christmas?
my kids aged 11 and 13 CONSTANTLY fight and argue with each other, they give attitude when asked to do the simplest of chores, my daughter does not turn her assignments in on time at school, my son disrespects all authority, even as I am typing this they are screaming at each other, the screaming almost always turns to physical aggression that I have to intervene in, at this point, I have told them that the only things they will get for christmas is new socks and underwear, and a new outfit to wear christmas day, has anyone else ever taken such severe action towards their children, and if so, what affect did it have.
My parents are isolating/ ostracizing me from society?
Telling me that I need less religion in life and then telling me that I need Jesus' love (that is nonexistent due to him being dead) does nothing for anyone. Also, The point here is that my parents only care about my financial future. That. Is. IT. They don't care about anything that they consider as unnecessary such as dating, having friends, hanging out with those friends, developing adequate social skills, etc. I'm literally trapped in my house where I'm never home alone, literally. They say it's to remove me from any possible danger scenario. When they say that, it makes me want to strangle something because of how irrational it is because, any life scenario can cause danger. All they need to do is home school me and that will be the last nail in my ******' coffin.