Why do I hate leaving my house?
What is wrong with me? I find myself more and more just wanting to stay at home. I am 21 years old have a great job and an incredible boyfriend. I should be "in my prime" going out with friends having fun and being young but instead I find that I just a soon be at home then out being young with friends. I don't mind leaving my house so much when I know what I am doing or have arrons (spelling) to run it just the going out with friend I find myself looking for reasons to get out of going. Even when I do go out and I am having a good time then next time I am invited to go out I don't want to go. For example my boyfriend called me yesterday and told me to book off july long weekend because him and some friend are getting a cabin for a week and he wants me to come. The first thing I can think of though is what I could be doing and a reason that I can't go. For that week well my b/f it off having a great time I will be home, alone, waiting for him to get back. What is wrong with me?!?!?! I think I hate the unknown of what will happen. I like to go out when I know where I am going who will be there and what we will be doing. I like routine. What can I do to fix this and why do I do it? please help me. thanks.
I hate leaving the house, why?
I absolutely hate leaving the house and socializing anywhere outside of a home. (I think i may have Social Anxiety, but there's more to the problem than that.) Whenever someone says they want to hang out with me, i always say "maybe" or make up an excuse not to go. My family knows i hate leaving the house and my mom wants me to see a therapist, but i don't think it'll change anything (even if i actually do leave the house and talk to them.) When i was on vacation in December, my sister wanted us to go ice skating and i said yes. But about two hours later, i told her i didn't want to go anymore. I also didn't do anything with my family that involved leaving the house. I think it may be that i wanted to go right away and come back really soon, but i doubt that. Whenever i do leave the house (which is actually like never) i always leave kind of happy that i'm actually doing something, but right when i get there, i want to leave right away. I also hate leaving my room and being outside of it, even in when I'm in the living room. I don't mind having friends over (considering that i only have three) because we're always in my house. And when they want to do something, i just say no and make an excuse saying my mom won't drive me or something. I also forgot to mention that because of this, i had to quit public school because i had trouble concentrating and focusing. And no, i don't have ADHD/ADD. It was part because every class i had, everyone would be too noisy and rude. I do online school, but even that's gotten hard for me because i cant concentrate. School's hard for me (and there's more to it, but that's a whole different question/story). the point is, i just don't understand why i hate leaving the house/my room, being around places with a lot of people, and hate socializing. how can i be more social and willing to start leaving the house and making plans with my friends? (small steps at a time) I am 13 and i know that this isn't regular/okay for my age. if you know anything, or can help me, please answer, it would mean a lot. i'm starting to worry because this has been going on since i was in 5th grade (now 7th) :)
Why do I never want to leave my house?
It could well be to do with feeling safe. Is this true? Do you feel safer when you are at home? Safety is a key element of our deep need for a sense of control, of knowing that things will turn out as we wish.Do you feel safe elsewhere? When you are with particular people? In particular situations? While your home is your castle, other places can be ‘good enough’.Where do you feel less safe? Is it outside (might you suffer from agoraphobia?). Is it around people you don’t know? Has there been incidents in the past (or even one particular one) where you felt unsafe outside the home. And perhaps felt the relief of safety when you got home again?If you can better understand all this and maybe more, you may be able to find ways to make life easier for yourself. If it affects you only in a mild way, you may be able to do this yourself. If it is severe, it could be very helpful to get professional assistance.
Why do I never feel like leaving my house?
I have the same feelings. I can stay at home for a few days without opening the door once. I cook my meals.The thing I realized is that first of all, there are no plans. My working hours are different from most of my friends, so when they are working, I am not and vice versa. Having my off days on the weekdays don’t help as well. The lack of plans and laziness (I live near a park) makes me stay home the whole day.Then of course, the internet. The internet has replaced entertainment. There are so much things that I can do online. I can spend the day watching videos, listening to music, reading articles, or replying questions on Quora. How does one get bored like this? How does one say staying at home is boring? No human interaction? I can chat online to people who live thousands of miles away from me.I also do not like crowded places. I tend to avoid them. But it is unclear to me now if I dislike crowds because I have been staying at home too much or I stay at home too much because I dislike crowds. Well I guess it is what it is, there isn't a need to think too much about it.So by asking this question, I hope you don’t mean it in a negative way. It is okay to feel like staying home until it becomes something psychological and hinders your everyday life. But I am guessing not, what you are asking is partly due to social media showing everyone out and having the best meals and doing the best things. You have the fear of missing out (fomo) and so you are questioning if it is okay to never feel like leaving the house. I am here to tell you. It is fine.
I don't like leaving my house.?
I really don't like leaving my house at all, & it's affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I don't like going over to hangout at his house. I don't want to leave my house to go hangout at the mall, I just shop online. I've been dealing with on and off severe depression for about three years now. I'm 13. I am diagnosed with OCD. I am confident about myself, I don't really worry about what I look like because I don't think that I am ugly or anything. I do not understand why I never want to leave my house. It's something I can't even explain how much I really don't want to leave. I am always making up excuses to where I can't hangout with my friends. I don't remember the last time I went to a friends house. I don't know what is wrong with me. Please, let me know so I can explain this to my boyfriend.
I'm 16, and I never leave the house?
I just turned 16, and recently I've started to realize that I really don't have a life.... I mean, I hang out with like one friend and go shopping or go over to their house sometimes, but that's like MAYBE once a month. And aside from school and my dance class one a week, I really don't get out of the house too often unless it's to go run errands with my mom or something.... It's not like I'm super weird or creepy or ugly. Lots of people say I'm really pretty. It's just that often times, I'd just rather be by myself, rather than trying to make people think I'm cool and fun. It's not that I never want to go out tho. People just never ask me anymore, so it's just started to become my lifestyle, and I haven't done anything genuinely fun in so long..... I'm also really shy and self conscious, so usually, going out to parties and crowded places just annoys me, because I'm constantly worried about how I look, and trying to find people to talk to, because I honestly don't have many friends anymore. My two best friends moved 2 years ago in the same summer. Often times, I just can't be myself around many people (mostly popular people, because I feel like they're quickest to judge), so it's just a pain for me to even go out. It's just not fun for me anymore. I understand that I'm a teenager, and I should be going out and having fun, but I just can't. It's become something I SHOULD do, not something I WANT to do, which it should be, which just bothers me even more. This isn't how I'm supposed to be, I don't even know why I'm like this. I haven't always been this way. I'm pretty sure it has something to do with how shy and awkward and self conscious I am. I'm starting to really hate myself.
I Hate Leaving My House and I Hate Socializing. Why?
Maybe Albuquerque just isn't the city for you. The people here are different from people elsewhere. I wont go into a rant about Albuquerque; but the people here have no concept of personal space and I have found them to be difficult to deal with. Hopefully once your boyfriend graduates you can move far, far away from this hole in the desert and regain your sanity.