I HATE that my dad in inconsiderate?
So my parents are very strict but mainly my dad. So when I had to talk to him and literally beg I was able to make money to buy my own phone. He has a phone with unlimited data and he buys me prepaid cards with 200 mb for 3 months and 200 texts. So I kindly asked him if he could afford to buy at least a gigabyte and more texts. Keep in mind my mom pays for his phone data and she didn’t want to spend more money so my dad says “no I spend too much money” yet with all the extra money he gets after paying bills for our mobile home he spends on himself little small things. While our mom in considerate and works to feed and gets us what we need. He doesn’t listen to me when I ask him nicely and says your making me angry. He always directs us to our mum to buy us stuff. I don’t want to lose friends cause of not being able to call or text them. Also they don’t let me hang out at all so this makes matters worse. I would play outside but it’s boring as my parents don’t take us anywhere and they don’t trust me outside they’re overprotective. I tell him if it wasn’t for this phone I wouldn’t be able to have any fun at all as it’s true. He would be able to afford it but he just doesn’t care about what i want. What do you guys think?
Why do I hate my dad so much? Is this irrational?
My father is a tough man, tall and scary looking. I'm extremely afraid of him. he is very bipolar. When I was a child, he would scream at me a lot for the stupidest things; dropping food, being to loud(I once got grounded and was forced to stay in my room for 7 HOURS WHILE I had a friend over for speaking to loud in the car). He can be very nice and funny but the majority of the time he is rude. lately he has been turning off the Internet for no reason, and as of yesterday I am only allowed 1 hour on the Internet. He has my phone and iPad hooked up to where he can see what I do on the Internet, and he controls EVERYTHING I do. When I was a kid, and still to this day, I'm mentally scarred from the looks and screams he would give me. I feel like it had effected me now because the moment a teacher/person is even a tiny but upset with me, my eyes start tearing up and I feel horrible(my drama teacher yelled at me for giving a kid a mint and I almost had a full fledge panic attack). He tells me "I give you so much freedom in this house." I hate him will all my heart but I'm also terrified. I woke up to go to the bathroom one night and I guess I closed the door too loud so he got up and told me he was going to smack me in my face. He says so many things like that. What do I do? I try to talk to him but he will just take everything away. Are the the things he does with the Internet irrational? I'm hardly ever on the Internet. I can't have a life because of him. Im a 15 yr old girl.
Why do I hate My Parents, Is it Irrational?
I feel like my parents hate me now. I wasn't ever a bad student, but recently my grades dropped due to me writing and looking up... inappropriate things on the internet. But that's over now. My parents found out about this and boy are they mad. They took away my phone, computer privileges, etc. I get that, it's going to take some healing time, but it seems like every two minutes my mom is bringing it back up. My dad has just ignored it completely, we haven't talked about it. I feel like they hate me, like I've disappointed them, like I'm this cosmic awful that they unleashed and now they're disgraced by me. I love writing, and they made me give it up (which is a big sacrifice for me, considering). I love them, but I hate them, and then I love them again. Am I just emotional? Or could they quite possibly hate me? It's been a month or so since the incident, and my mom gave me a warning before, but I ignored it (again, I get it, she's mad). Am I horrible? I don't feel like they love me anymore, because I'm not posing as this goddess of a daughter that never comes out of her room because she works so hard.
I hate living with my dad and stepmom?
Ok, so ever since my stepmom got married to my dad, she has been crazy and ocd about everything. Lately things have been absolutely unbareable. She is clearly attacking me verbally and my siblings even say she's bein irrational. She doesn't let me do anything. everytime i try to talk to my dad about it, he goes and defends her not me. He is also verbally abusive. zI feel like i have a really bad life because nothing good ever really happens to me, and i can't concentrate in school because of what happens at my house. Im constantly being let down by everyone in my life, and i feel like i'm toxic. What can i do? no one will ever listen to me for more than a second and its really been wearing me down lately. please help
Is it normal to hate your step father?
Put yourself in his position.. or in your mother's position.. would you want your kid to hate you or your husband just because you/he are/is not the mother/father of the kid? Then ask yourself why you really hate him.. there has to be reasons. Sure, you can find many things you don't like about everyone.. but only very few things make you really hate someone.. and I don't think you really hate him.. maybe it's just a feeling. What if he was your dad? Would you hate him then? If not, then this is quite irrational and only based on the fact that he's your step father. It may be true that many kids dislike their step parents if they have any.. but it doesn't make it 'normal' or whatever. Besides, what is normal anyway? The problem is, when you have any kind of hatred for anyone, it's not good for you yourself. It haunts you.. and can even distract you from your daily tasks and reaching your goals. It can bring many frustrations and cause a lot of stress. The people you hate, just cast them away, don't let them get to you.. don't let your hatred get the better of you. But see, this is your family, really.. maybe that's why it's bothering you.. so maybe you don't really hate him at all.. it just feels different I don't have a step parent so I don't know how it's like.. but I don't see how different it is than being taken care of by an aunt or uncle.. I think it depends more on the individual.. not their title or job. Try to get yourself out of this hole.. don't let it occupy your mind like a crazy wormhole. It really shouldn't be something you have to worry about. As long as he accepts you for who you are and takes good care of you, you should have no problem living together :) Anyway, just try to have fun. Enjoy life =]
I hate my dad. What should I do?
Get away as soon as you possibly can, move to another place and never talk to him again.That is the solution.If you can’t do that because you’re underage, get some counsellor’s help. Choose the person you ask help from carefully, it shouldn’t be someone who carelessly tells your parents your intentions.If you’re not underage, but are not economically independent, find a job and become economically independent.You don’t “cope” with justified anger. If you hate your father, you likely hate him for a good reason. There are situation which must never be allowed to continue, yours sounds like one of those.Don’t forgive those who mistreat you, they will do it again if you let them.
Why do many people globally hate black people?
I grew up in the Jim Crow south. my grandfather was in the ku klux klan. they defended ‘white protestant America’ in those days. they were the paramilitary enforcement for Jim Crow, strongly anti-immigrant, anti-catholic and anti-semitic. they hated everyone equally, regardless of race, creed or national origin.my dad was a patriarchal, ‘white man’s burden’ white supremacist. once he told me black people are like children and we must take care of them. but, compared with his father, he was relatively progressive.Jim Crow worked by pretending black folks were invisible. what black folks? I don’t see any black folks. do you see any black folks? of course we kids saw black folks every where and were a little confused, but we understood make believe. we were kids.before the sixties I never saw a confederate flag. then came the marches and you black folks refused to pretend you are invisible. and the white folks got mad because you guys threatened to take away the all-white world they pretended to see. people like what they know. and not only did you guys threaten to take away what they knew, you took it. and that really pissed them off. all of a sudden there were confederate flags everywhere and people singing ‘dixie’ who didn’t even know they words. I think the confederate flag flying over Alabama’s capitol was a souvenir beach towel. or at least that’s what it looked like.and shortly thereafter they all became republicans. in droves. and to this day they’re still republicans. and they’re still pissed. talk about holding a grudge.so, and sorry to ramble, why do they hate you? they fear you. they always have. you show them their inhumanity. you show them their brutality. you show them the truth. and, as in ‘lord of the flies’, the truth is they are the beast. realizing you are the beast is unsettling business. we like to think we’re nice people. well mannered. genteel. we’re like blanche dubois. we want magic. we want illusion.
Why does my dad hate that my brother likes wearing makeup?
His masculinity feels threatened and he has clear cut gender roles that women are for makeup and dresses and boys are for short hair and trousers. Tell him to stop being fossilised and grow up. Makeup is made for males and females, just marketed more for females as we are the ones wearing it. But hey, if he chooses to make his son unhappy and take away part of his learning and maybe even personality, then his son will grow up to hate him. My parents were always the same with me trying to force me to wear blue (I'm a girl) I didn't know what pink was until I was 6. I was a tomboy until my late teens but I still loved pink. I really was angry with my mum always dressing me in that vile colour.
My girlfriend hates my parents and I don't understand why. Am I being blind the situation or is she being irrational?
I never forget one serious talk with my father, when I was still a child. He said to me: “if you’ll ever love somebody, and that somebody has people he loves, you will have to respect that. Your loved one would be hurt, very much, if you or anybody would want to stand between him and his loved ones. It would force him to make a hard choice.”In your case I would try to find out why my GF hates my parents. “Hates” is a very strong word anyway. Dislikes would be more realistic. The point I am trying to make though is a question: does she really love you if she does not make an effort to be in good terms with your parents?Let me tell you about an example. My husband lost his father in WWII. His mother re married to a guy ho wanted her money. According to Hungarian laws of that time, the children, not the wife inherited the estate. But my husband’s mother took everything in to her hands. My husband did not care. He loved his mom, and wanted her to be happy. We got married in 1953. Apartments were hard to come by because WWII destroyed lots of buildings. My husband lived in a huge 4 bedroom apartment. Parents usually allowed their married children to live with them. My husband’s step father quickly sold and separated part of the apartment, so that he could have extra cash, and we had problem where to live. Finally we found an apartment, but it was very difficult to heat. We were shivering. My husband wanted to take an old blanket, which his father used to have in the army. His step father did not let him. My husband ended up with pneumonia.Few years later we came to Canada, and as soon as we established ourselves I suggested that we bring my husband’s parents over. My husband was surprised. He asked me if I forgot how his step father treated us. I told him that I kept his mom in mind when I suggested this, and I still thought that was the right thing to do, knowing how much he loved her. We did bring them over. They are gone now, but she was very happy with us. My husband is gone, after 64 years of beautiful marriage. I am very happy that I could do what I did. For him.