Why do i hate my dad so much?
i used to love my dad when i was about 6, so much that i would always say i wanted to marry him. I'm 18 now. he was absent for most of my childhood and still is (he works very hard and doesn't come home until late). i don't want to hate him but he drives me f**king batsh*t. every time he opens his mouth or even moves i want to punch him. sometimes i think maybe it's because he acts weak and i despise weakness in people. I've dumped many guys because they were sensitive. i appreciate kindness but i find some people pathetic. i love my mom to death she is my role model which is why i also think that i might hate him because she's often bitter and cold towards him and he lets it happen. this is also the reason i treat my current boyfriend with such disdain. another reason I've looked into is repressed memories. it seems as though i started hating him around 10 years old and that's also when i started becoming promiscuous (young, i know) and craving sexual attention from guys. my dad has punched both me and my brother before but that's the only abuse i can recall and we were both out of line. i may be over analyzing this but the feeling i get when he's around is unbearable and i hate that we fight. HELP!
Why do i hate my dad so much...?
Hey guys, i know you're probably gonna think i'm a total bitc* who wants attention or something. And i think i am a total bitc* for this. But i can;'t help it. First of all, at the dinner table, he eats with his mouth open. The reason is because he always has blocked nose or something like that, but i cringe so much at dinner because all i can hear is him smacking his lips together. I hate that. When he sneezes he always puts way too much enthusiasm into it. Its like 'Achooooo wooo wooo wooo ahhh blahhhh!' And it drives me MENTAL. I hate that. He always blows his nose insanely loudly into a tissue, and he does it in public as well and its so embarrassing. I hate that. When he's speaking to my teachers about what homework i have to do and stuff, he never stops talking about it afterwards. He even comes to check my laptop screen to make sure im not on facebook or something. I feel imprisoned. I hate that. On school mornings when he wakes me up, i tell him im getting up. And as i am, he just stands there and stares at me, waiting until im fully out of bed. Oh.my.god.i.hate.that. Also, when he comes to hug me, i HATE it SO much. But with my mum, i really like hugging her. There's nothing wrong with my mum, yet, everything about my dad seems to irritate me. I hate walking past him because i know he will just stop to hug me or something. I hate that so much. I guess, my mum doesn't constantly want hugs, but my dad does. I've tried telling him this before, but he just got mardy with me and we fell out, and he just kept saying 'Oh, so i'm not aloud to love you am i?' That hurt when he said that, because i felt guilty and irritated at the same time. Guilty; I felt like i was saying 'i don't love you so can you not love me please' Annoyed; I hated that all i was actually saying was 'can you stop hugging me so much and give me some space' and he took it the completely wrong way. I called him pathetic after that because, he kind of was being pathetic. Another thing, when he comes home, in my head there's always this voice that goes 'oh, great.' with sarcasm. When my mum comes home i feel happy to see her again. Why do i feel like this? He's never done anything apart from irritate me? I don't understand why i love my mum way more than my dad, I hate that as well. I appreciate all answers, xx
I hate my dad. What should I do?
Get away as soon as you possibly can, move to another place and never talk to him again.That is the solution.If you can’t do that because you’re underage, get some counsellor’s help. Choose the person you ask help from carefully, it shouldn’t be someone who carelessly tells your parents your intentions.If you’re not underage, but are not economically independent, find a job and become economically independent.You don’t “cope” with justified anger. If you hate your father, you likely hate him for a good reason. There are situation which must never be allowed to continue, yours sounds like one of those.Don’t forgive those who mistreat you, they will do it again if you let them.
I hate my dad so much....................?
I have an older sister who pisses me off ALL the time (no exaggeration). One day I got SO fed up and spat in her face. Now I really understand that it was disgusting and I shouldn't have done it. My dad found out and he came up to me and threatened to spit at me. He never did, but he slapped me on my torso. I hit him back and then we just hit each other about 6 times. Then, I slapped his face. He chased me through the house and I locked myself in the bathroom. When he turned the handle and realised it was locked, he said, "Open the door now and you won't get a bad punishment." I realised that It's stupid to stay in there, so I unlocked it and he pulled me. I struggled, but he's too strong. He pulled me all the way to my room and then lay me on my bed. He turned me over and I struggled for about a minute until he locked me in a position. He started slapping he really hard on my butt. I couldn't feel it after about the first 5, but after wards, it hurt like crazy. I sat in my room crying and then he came and told me to come down stairs to apologize to everyone. I did, but no one would forgive me. I really don't understand why I had to apologize to anyone apart from my sister and my dad. I then went to speak to my mum, but she's angry with me and my dad. She said I behaved terribly, which I agree with, so she ignored me. But the thing is, she carried on talking to my dad, even though I had hand marks all over my butt. I hate him so much and I really wish he didn't live with me or my family. He lived in a different house for a while and it was so much better then.
I hate my dad so ******* much...?
I know it sounds bad but I swear to God I can't take anymore of his ****.... I'm 17 I swear I can't...I have anxiety disorder and depression and my dad is so rude to my mom.... He tells her how he can't stand her and calls her a stupid ***** he's always yelling and drinking. Now don't get me wrong as a father he does support us but he's a ******* hateful person due to him always arguimg and insulting my mom. She is a sweet heart and he treats her like crap. I suggested divorce and she said she'd be so,happy but I believe she's scared... I need help ugh..I'm to that point where I might end up harming myself because of this. This is not healthy. I'm sick of them arguing in front of me... Thanks
Why do I hate my dad with a passion?
I'm afraid that you are the only one who can provide insight into why you “hate your dad". No one knows what your childhood was like, or if dad wasn't very nice.If you really don't know, ask mom (if possible) if she can help unfold the family history. Or perhaps a close relative may provide some input.If all else fails,,,talk to dad, be open & honest, & tell him you would like to have a good relationship with him. But that there are unexplained/unresolved issues, & ask for his help putting your relationship on a more amicable level. You both will hopefully be able to speak honestly and regain a healthy bond. I hope it works out well for you.
Is it wrong to hate my dad?
What a shame! I adored mine, an English teacher who taught us so more than just that. We kids thought he knew everything. His disiplin was strict but consistent so it was easy enough to follow, which was rewarded by games, stories, and fun. A wonderful recollection. But many nights he was busy preparing for the next day’s work or just exhausted, so we learned to let him alone then.Think about why you hate him. If it is discipline can you try to avoid doing those things that annoy him? If it is just that you just don’t really know him, can you try to talk to him when he is not preoccupied, perhaps at meal time? If it is disagreements perhaps you should think about his view point, accept those that seem reasonable and discuss those you disagree with.Another reason can sometimes be that by the time he gets home from work he is always exhausted and doesn’t have the energy to parent so he hibernates and you don’t really get to know him. This happens too often and is a shame. I think my response would be to give him some time to relax, then occasionally (not every night) ask him a good question, perhaps about homework, something you saw at school or on TV that bothered you or interested you. And let him determine when the discussion needs to end.Unfortunately some men had miserable fathers and learned the wrong lessends from them. If that is your assessment please don’t hate him. In my oppinion you will be more successful by avoiding his bad times and engaging with him when the prospect is more promising. And please learn how to avoid the problems he has when you have your own family. Perhaps you mom can guide you some in determining this. Best wishes!
I hate my dad for no reason at all?
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you responsible- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also. There are 3 types of abusive people/parents. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great on being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. They tear you down to build themselves up. Abuse causes all known so called Mental Problems. BP OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that there is no medical science in what they do. They do not draw blood to test for imbalances. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them. Contact- Child Protective Services online- not a cure but keeps you safe. Your parents need to forgive the past. Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies". Talk to me. I have some questions for you Source(s): Experience with people feeling better on a repeated basis.
Why do I hate my dad so much? Is this irrational?
My father is a tough man, tall and scary looking. I'm extremely afraid of him. he is very bipolar. When I was a child, he would scream at me a lot for the stupidest things; dropping food, being to loud(I once got grounded and was forced to stay in my room for 7 HOURS WHILE I had a friend over for speaking to loud in the car). He can be very nice and funny but the majority of the time he is rude. lately he has been turning off the Internet for no reason, and as of yesterday I am only allowed 1 hour on the Internet. He has my phone and iPad hooked up to where he can see what I do on the Internet, and he controls EVERYTHING I do. When I was a kid, and still to this day, I'm mentally scarred from the looks and screams he would give me. I feel like it had effected me now because the moment a teacher/person is even a tiny but upset with me, my eyes start tearing up and I feel horrible(my drama teacher yelled at me for giving a kid a mint and I almost had a full fledge panic attack). He tells me "I give you so much freedom in this house." I hate him will all my heart but I'm also terrified. I woke up to go to the bathroom one night and I guess I closed the door too loud so he got up and told me he was going to smack me in my face. He says so many things like that. What do I do? I try to talk to him but he will just take everything away. Are the the things he does with the Internet irrational? I'm hardly ever on the Internet. I can't have a life because of him. Im a 15 yr old girl.