Why do i hate myself so much?
i have felt like that at times....no the being fake part...the first half....idk i really think that everyone is pretty in their own way....maybe your friend gets a lot of attention now but....i mean if your not like a cow or anything, like i was saying sometimes i get jealous of my friends getting attention too...but then again i PERSONALLY dont think shes anything special its just what other people think, and ive learned not to care what other people think, so in conclusion lol....your friend may be pretty...but you are probably pretty too just in a different maybe non convential way...maybe your friend is a plain jane...but people like that you know? ...sometimes its harder to notice something uniquely beautifual but whoever does will be worth ur time and whoever dosent, isnt.....be yourself and honestly dont worry so much you are 14 and you may not think it but you have a lot of growing to do, and your face and body will mature and you will be prettier than you are now...dont worry...and dont go slutty...guys want what they CANT have remember...not whats on display for all the world to see.
Why do I feel so much hate for myself?
Rest assured, you are.A lot of people are.Maybe this is not the language you were expecting. Normally, when someone asks this question, the hidden implication is to say that you are not. I am not going to say that. I didn’t even read the other 15 answers, as I am only going to answer this as long as my movie is buffering. This is a Saturday night and I am losing precious sleep hours for a movie I have been meaning to watch for a long long time. In the meantime, I will not butter or honey-dip my words. You may stop reading now. But,The world is filled with whores, drug peddlers, politicians, AK-47s, serial killers and 17 year olds who feel like shit.There, I named a lot of aweful people. You have company.Now that it has been established that you are an aweful person, let me tell you how it works. You are going to go through a lot in life. The family that supports you, the parents who have nurtured you, are going to leave you for a better place. Wait, I promised the truth and nothing but the truth. I don’t know if that place is going to be better or not. I have no clue how the simulation works. But, they are going to stop existing. And you are going to feel shit. You are going to get a reason to hate yourself.Your relationships are not going to work. Your friendships are going to die. Your friends are going to die. You are going to die. In between, you will get a lot of reasons to hate yourself. And the hatred with a reason is a strong kind of hatred. You are going to fail in exams.The life’s plan that you have, right now, 99% of that is not going to happen. And then you will have more reasons to hate yourself.The thing is, life will give you plenty of reasons to hate yourself. It would be sane to not hate yourself then. It is insane to hate yourself now, when there is no reason to begin with.I read somewhere that the chances of life happening on earth was 1 in 2^101. That is a number you can’t even comprehend. But in each of those 101 events in which something could or could not have happened, the thing happened in succession so that you could happen.Act like it.PS: I am sorry if it sounded hard. If you were around, I would be buying you an ice-cream right now.My movie is buffered. See ya.
Why do I hate myself so much?
K I get we all have insecurities but mine are more than that. I hate my body and the way I look although so much. I starve myself, it makes me extremely depressed, it makes me feel constantly judged and hated by anybody I'm around. The way I look is on my mind 24/7 and I feel like everybody is just looking at my flaws and judging them. I feel like no boys ever like me. I feel like if somebody I looking at me in public ( men ) that it's because I look funny or different and not because I look cute or good. I isolate myself from people because of it and I can't help it. I feel like I'm the ugliest person anybody has ever come across and I hate it, I know it's true... I don't look normal at all just fat and ugly. What's wrong with me?
Why do I hate myself so much that I cut myself?
I would propose that self hatred is not the reaction that you cut yourself. (I work on Mental Health so I am not just pulling this out of my butt.) Cutting is really an emotional coping skills that outlives its usefulness. People who cut are generally trying to focus their emotional pain in a way that they can cope with it. The human brain does not know the difference between emotional and physical pain; so if you have an emotional pain, triggering a physical pain can help discharge the pain and trigger your pain endorphins to relieve the pain. Quite literally, it is taking the emotional pain, and focusing it on to a physical cut in the skin, to relieve the pain. It works. Except that it does not address the underlying pain or the cause of that pain. It also causes scarring, and socially the person who is cutting gets a lot of negative feedback, which leads to feelings of guilt, shame and self loathing and leads to more cutting, and on and on. That is what cutting is, the why is a little trickier, because each person's reason why will be different. I encourage you to see a therapist or a counselor. Tell them about your cutting, and that you don't know why you cut yourself, and that you feel like you hate yourself and that is why you cut. There is a great deal of hope and help to end cutting--and for you to feel better. And lets be honest cutting isn't fun--but feeling so shitty that you feel the need to cut is misery. You don't have to feel that way. Be clear that cutting and suicide attempts are different. If you are cutting yourself trying to work up to killing yourself, that is important and you need medical care right now. Go to the ER; call the National Suicide Prevention LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255. Your life is worth saving--even if it doesn't feel like it right this minute. And even if you find that hard to believe, consider this--suicide is always an option that ends all the other options. If you had a stomachache you wouldn't go straight to having your stomach removed. First you would start with a little 7up or a tums. Feeling horrible emotionally is a symptom of a brainache, and we start with the emotional equivalent to 7up or a tums! Make a phone call--that's a 7up!
Why do I hate myself so much?
I used to be like that as a kid, I used to think I was ugly as hell, but those 'look into the mirror and tell yourself your pretty' crap works, eventually you start to believe it, and when YOU have more confidence people take notice, you'll feel much prettier I promise.
Why do i hate myself so much suddenly?
Everyone has given you good advice already so I don't know how much more I can offer other than to say I've followed your questions and I think you try very hard at whatever you attempt. Maybe too hard. You said in another question today that you think you may be OCD. Do you really know what that entails? It's things like compulsive washing your hands over and over and over...turning a light off and then turning the switch back on just to turn it off again just to be sure the light is off. Sorry, didn't mean to answer the other question here. But that came to mind reading your question. It sounds like you're a perfectionist when it comes to yourself. You expect yourself to be better than everybody else and better than you were yesterday or the day before. Not one of us is that good. You're so young; don't bog yourself down with unrealistic expectations. Because you're trying so hard you're probably making those small mistakes. Your coach isn't shaking his head because you're dumb or bad at the sport, but because he can see you're not yourself and that you're overcompensating for previous mistakes. It's not healthy to go home and scream and cry for 3 hours. Part of that is hormones and being a normal 14 year old "drama queen" . That's not meant in a derogatory way--that's just how teenage girls are, full of drama worthy of a soap opera. You say you have a great family. Are you having these tirades so they'll ask about them and you can revert to being a little girl and getting comfort without having to ask for it? Sometimes at 14 it's hard to tell someone you need a hug or a "Mom and me" moment. From earlier comments in your Q & A's (I added you a long time ago to my list so I've kept up with you and how you're doing) I think you're normal in most respects. I do have to wonder if you're taking too much on. I question if you're depressed, but if you are, then that's part of being a teenager. If you think it's getting serious, talk to your family and tell them you need help. Don't let it get to the point where you do something dumb like cutting. If you want to talk, let me know and I'll e-mail you if you send me yours and I'll try to help you. For now, take a deep breath and tell yourself that today WASN'T the worst day of your life.
I hate myself so much?
i'm so ugly, inside and out. life is depressing, i can no longer live in it. i feel like this is the end, i want it to be the end, i kind of need it to be the end. i can't imagine living another week never mind a lifetime, i'm 16 and i've had enough of the stress and the worries of the world already, so god help when i get older. people say your school years are the best years of your life, if that's true then all i have left to look forward to in the future is my death. the fun parts of my life are over, all i have left is the worry and stress of the real world, getting a job, making a family, money worry, the death of everyone around me. it's all too much, life used to be so good but now reality is kicking in and it isn't too good. i want to end my life, but i feel too much empathy for my family therefore i wont do so, i wish i were more selfish, i wish i could actually go through with ending my life, but i just can't. there is no way out for me, i just need to the world to end, and soon. i know a few people on the internet who feel this way, so maybe it's just a phase. but right now, it's a phase that's killing me slowly. should i get help or is it just as i said, a phase?
Why do I hate myself so much when I eat?
Why do I hate myself so much when I eat?You’ve listed anorexia nervosa and eating disorders in the topics for this question, but there is no information with this or other questions you’ve asked to suggest you have actually been diagnosed with the condition, and the presence or absence of such a diagnosis is relevant to why you would hate yourself.The condition of anorexia nervosa causes thought distortions that reinforce disordered eating and other behaviours.Self-hatred associated with any behaviour (in your case, eating), could arise from feelings of guilt. It can reflect a need for self-punishment. In what area(s) of your life do you feel like deserve punishment? What “crimes” have you committed?One of your questions indicates you got over a rape the day after it happened. As someone who has also had that kind of experience, I suggest what is more likely is that you have turned off your emotions about it in order to cope with it. I felt guilt and self-loathing for decades after I was assaulted and wonder if your experience with sexual assault could be one of the reasons you feel you hate yourself.Your questions reveal a person who is curious and intelligent, uncertain of who she is and wants to be. While it’s possible time and maturity would bring clarity to the confusion you seem to feel, given the intensity and seriousness of some of the issues you need to resolve, seeing a counselor would speed up the process and provide some much needed support.
Why do I hate myself, my body and my life?
Well, the answer is really straight forward. It’s because you’re lack of self-love as oppose to self-hate.Why do you hate yourself?Loving and hating yourself is pretty much the same as you do it with others. Imagine that you really hate your colleague named John. Every little and tiny mistakes John did will trigger your hate to him.You will give him a sour face and being cold to him. Not in a million years that you would go out and having lunch with him.Why do you hate your body?Even his innocent look and smile will trigger your hate. You’re always trying to find the reason to hate his look. You said things like he’s fat, his has a messy hair, he has a gross smile etc.Why do you hate your life?You always bad-mouthing about how pathetic John’s life is because he’s a lonely, ugly guy with everyone in the office. Everyone thinks he’s a weirdo and he’s been alienated most of the time.Now, imagine that you’ve found a person that you really admire and knew he/she were your soul mate. You love everything about him/her and everything feels right.Every mistake he/she made will be forgiven easily. You never look any reason to hate him/her and you respect his/her life.This is the same as self-love.
Why do I hate myself so much that I feel the need to hurt myself?
I believe you already know what I'm about to say, but here it is anyways.You're, most likely, mentally ill. Your self-esteem is below the ground, and every time you think about how you are or the things that you do, you hate yourself even more. You think that everyone hates you, that you do not deserve love, and that if you died, nobody would care or miss you. You ask yourself what did you do wrong, and why you're feeling this way. You ask yourself when will it stop, and you tell yourself you're not even worth of feeling like this since there are people who have it worse.These are all signs of being mentally ill.You should seek help, get diagnosed by a professional, and go to therapy. I know, it's hard as hell. You're not sure you're even worth the help, and you don't even know if you really want to get better.Let me tell you a thing: all of those awful thoughts are lies. Yes, you deserve to get better. You can get better, and you're worthy of love. You don't suck, everyone doesn't hate you. It's going to be okay.I know you've heard this a thousand times already, but it's true. It gets better.Do you feel like this?You're not alone. There are people who understand that feeling, people who won't judge you. I repeat, you're not alone.It will be okay. You're worth it, and I swear things get better. I suffer from borderline personality disorder and anxiety, so believe me when I tell you that I understand.You're feeling like crap because your brain is sick, not because you actually are crap. You're strong, and beautiful, and will get better. Don't be afraid to ask for help, to take meds or go to therapy.Please don't hurt yourself, and please seek help. It will be okay, I promise.If you're feeling suicidal, extremely depressed, and have strong urges to hurt yourself badly, please call your local help line. It's anonnymous, and they can help.I wholeheartedly wish you the best, and I really hope you get help. You deserve to be loved and happy, don't let your mind tell you otherwise.