Why do I have a hard time tending to myself?
For example, I often wait until I am uncomfortably cold or so cold it hurts before I put on a sweater, grab a blanket, etc. I've noticed how other people say "it's supposed to be cold today, I'll grab a sweater." I don't eat until I'm very hungry, sometimes I get lightheaded before feeding myself. When I was younger (until I turned 11) I never brushed my own hair. My mom never brushed my hair either when I was young. So I walked around with knotted up hair until I turned 11 and finally started to brush my hair. I don't replace my sneakers until they are horribly worn or dirty. I've noticed other women buying new shoes just because the mood strikes. Is something wrong with me? I'm 27 by the way.
I talk to myself a lot for hours. Why?
Talking to yourself is a good habit, it lets you take crucial decisions easily and sometimes you can just motivate yourself in tough times by just praising yourself and many other discussions you can have with yourself. Also there have been scientific studies proving that those people who talk to themselves are genius!! So if you don't have any negative feelings attached to your self-talks then it's fine.But, there is another view to it. The amount of time you are doing this and whether it's a conscious action or not decides whether it's good or bad. And if you are doing this for a few hours each day then it might be a sign that you are lonely inside and you might need a medical assistant if you have been affected by it for a considerable amount of time.Generally it's seen that person who are unable to trust other people tend to keep everything to themselves and avoid sharing their emotions, thoughts, desires, secrets with anyone else. They prefer telling it to themself only, and eventually they get disconnected from everyone and soon loneliness submerge them. So if you feel like this then go out and connect with people, trust them and share your world with them, you will soon see the amount of your self-talks will reduce.
It's hard finding a gay boyfriend..?
I know I'm not very attractive, and thus, it's quite hard finding any partner regardless of sexuality. Paired with the fact I'm gay, and the knowledge of gay men tending to have abnormally high standards, the chances of me getting a boyfriend seems unlikely. And because I feel ugly/unattractive, I have self-esteem/confidence issues and tend to not put myself out there. And when I find someone I find devastatingly hot, I just glance because I don't want him feeling a bit creeped out that someone like me is checking him out. I'm very afraid of rejection too (I don't want an affirmation that I'd probably be alone for the rest of my pitiful life), so I never flirt. I'm 31 and I havent even had my first kiss yet. How pathetic is that? I know this sounds like the biggest whine post ever (because it is, hehe), but it would be great to find some advice to this problem. Would I be forever alone? I really don't want to be, considering I'm a deep romantic at heart, but the chances are looking to be bleaker and bleaker as the day goes on. (Im beginning to bald and all, and after watching The Adonis Factor, gay men really do have high standards that I can never reach)
Why do i get hard when i look at guys?
Well, as some have already suggested, it is possible that you may be gay or bi-sexual. But also you could just be curious about other guys and their equipment. And truth be told, most men are!
What does it mean if a movie is self-indulgent?
Self-indulgent: adj. Characterized by doing or tending to do exactly what one wants, esp. when this involves pleasure or idleness. It is also having or indicating a tendency to be overly generous to or lenient with someone. -So basically a movie that is self-indulging refers to the directors and the producers. It means that they did it for their pleasure and that the movie was self- complimenting.
What does the saying " tend your own garden" mean? Please list your source.?
The full saying goes something like, "You should tend to your own garden before complaining about someone else's weeds." It means about the same thing as the biblical admonition to, "See to the log in your own eye before pointing out the mote in another's." They both mean that you should improve yourself and your own faults, misbehaviors, imperfections, weaknesses, failures, misdemeanors, etc. before pointing out those of others.
Why do I tend to overthink when I'm alone? My feelings kill me and I lose all my confidence only to get them back when interacting with people.
A free mind tends to overthink and overthinking takes its toll. Thoughts are contagious , we might think we have control over them, but its other way around. Thoughts will leave you miserable, helpless, hopeless. Its best to take control of them for until they roam free they will keep mentally paralysed.The external world and the internal world are different and thoughts generate feelings and run behaviour so they are controlling your behaviour. Empty your mind and meditate and don’t allow thoughts to enter your mind while you meditate. The more mindful you are in life the better you have control over them.Whatever you fear of doing , do it bravely, its the only way to gain confidence out of your courageous attempt to face the awkward and undesirable situation, behaviour. What you loose is because of deviation of your thoughts and if you wanna gain upper hand on your failed situation, then keep going with the mentality when you are overthinking and don’t back down rather just face it, you don’t have to do anything.Insight development and introspection can help you a lot and you yourself will realise and understand which strings to pull at what time. Its experience you gain, you like everybody is insecure from within and all feel vulnerable so we hide our true self.. Just bring that true self open to reality. Experience is your greatest teacher and facing all odds will make you learn and grow. Everyone learn and grows and manages and changes the internal and external environment. So whatever is inside ,just bring it outside and whatever resides within ,make contact with it and bring it in contact with the real life. When there is nothing to hide, then no compromises.If you want something ,in return you have to give away something to accommodate to the desired change. Everything comes at a price, there are multiple options and only one choice you can make and all destiny and fate is sealed by that very choice. So choose wisely.
Ever since I turned 18, I'm having a really hard time hearing my thoughts, tending to come out only as socially acceptable. Do you have any advice?
I have the same problem lol.It is called no filter. Try to think but not talk listen but don’t answer. By listen I mean really listen not just wait for them to shit up and jump in to talk.Be more quiet and secretive meaning keep a smile so no one know what you are really thinking and for sure keep your mouth shut even if you have to stuff it with something
Do more intelligent people tend to be more depressed?
The smarter you are the more you learn to read between the lines and see further dimension in likely normal situations than average people can possibly comprehend. Intelligent people tend to analyze everything in depth in true details to reach a convincing result and can read people during early interactions which is great and also bad because you never get to give someone the benefit of the doubt which limits your social interactions leading to more depression and social isolation.The most successful artists, musicians, inventors & writers Vincent Van Gogh, Ernest Hemingway, Emily Dickinson, Einstein and many others throughout history dealt one way or another with bipolar/mental disorder simply because they see the world in a different perceptive than average people do and although it fueled their creativity it didn’t make them happy people in their daily life, exceptional intellectual ability is often linked to bipolar disorder rather than depression which leads to a different question.. Are stupid people happy? Hell yes! (Hence the saying “Ignorance is a bliss”) Stupid people take every situation as it is and don’t wear their minds out trying to overthink a particular situation they don’t look for answers and take any information as told without further processing.When you try to find meaning in existing, look for answers, why are we here, what happens when we die, does God exist? how did the universe exist? big or small questions your mind becomes restless and always working even when you sleep you can’t shut down your constant look for alternative ideas you think best when you are alone and start to develop comfort in solitude and being alone with your thoughts, your friends and family will label you as boring simply because your mind works at a different higher wavelength than theirs you reach a point where you say “No one is ever gonna get me” and become more isolated slowly losing interaction with everyone around you paving the way for emotional detachment followed by emptiness and at last depression.