Why is it so hard for me to socialize?
It's like my voice tenses up so hard when I talk to someone I don't know. eg. at the grocery store, mall, etc I usually can't control my hands and I start scratching my head and turning my neck looking around while talking to someone. after the conversation is over i'm usually sweating a lot. I'm going to college soon and I don't think I'll survive. I have some friends but they don't around me at all so basically all the socializing I do is on facebook. I usually don't have much issues talking to people I already know or people in my family (I do if I havent met them) I know I really gotta improve because I'm going to college soon. I know that life is about being social with other humans but I don't know why it is so hard for me. I'm not sad about my life because I get to do a lot of other things that I do enjoy by myself but I know interaction with other people is important. My dad even told me not to have too much pressure on college, he told me just to relax because he just wants me to be social. (hearing that made me feel really weird) I think it is really bad because whenever I do go out I feel like everyone is watching me or something. Please give me some advice. I figured this would be cheaper than talking to a professional about anxiety or something.
Why is Socializing so Hard?
I don't necessarily understand why I have a slight issue in terms of talking with other people. I can understand that, when I was a child, I was teased quite often which puts me in a socially awkward state of mind whenever I'm around new people. So I worked with that. Now I'm completely lost. Why do people keep gawking at useless trivia and who's who? It makes no sense, I'm sick and tired of hearing the same old jabberwocky about what pro athlete is doing drugs or which celebrity is getting married this week. Why waste time with the meaningless trivia of people who just, flat-out aren't important to say the least? It really discourages me from even acting socially at -all- when people can't discuss logical issues such as the BP Gulf Oil Spill or even simple astrology or ecology. I do believe that understanding how to maintain a proper ecosystem or how to work with mechanical parts is way more valuable in life than just getting the news on which music artist this week was found with a pound of cocaine. Why do people waste their time with useless brain-stuffing that has no weight in the future? Maybe if I could understand it, I'd have an easier time talking to people. But for now it just boggles my mind as I cannot understand why people do these things.
Having a hard time socializing?
Does anyone else have a difficult time socializing? I feel like that when I talk, what I say does not matter as much as the person talking to me. Everytime I socialize I always end up asking them questions and not saying much on my part. I feel like I don't know what to say and I get nervous. This gets me depressed and it is even harder to socialize when I am depressed. This started happening just a few months ago. It just keeps getting deeper the longer I wait but at the same time I feel like I learned a lot. I tried "being myself" but sometimes I don't know who I am. Today Im outgoing, funny, etc then the next day I am not. I seen a psych but they just nod their head while you complain. I have not been feeling like myself in a long time because I can't connect with anyone. Even if I do talk to my friends I sometimes feel like Im putting up a front (even though I dont purposely do it). Anyone else have a hard time communicating? I dont want any drugs and I researched this before...
Why do I have such a hard time with socializing? I’m not necessarily shy or feel nervous to talk. But I forget who I am and how to respond to people.
First off it doesn’t sound like you have a social problem. It sounds like you have a preparation problem. Learn a couple new jokes every week. Remember the news headlines for two days prior to an event. Make a list of your roles in life. I’m a father, friend, mentor, teacher…Then decide what your goal is in each role. That is who you are.In a social environment only tell about the most significant goal your working on. Then listen to the feedback. Now instead of telling, start asking questions. People love to talk about themself. Praise them. You will be remembered as a person who is interesting and listens. They will come to you.Don’t worry. This is not automatic for everyone. You are human. ~ Gaylord
Why do I have a hard time socializing with people even though I want to?
Hi there!I even used to face same problem. People like to call us introvert .Some of characteristics of introverts:We avoid social meetings.We have less friends but we are very loyal to them.We run a mile when need to have conversation with opposite genderWe don't answer phone calls and rather textWe don't maintain eye-contact while speaking to others.Only way to get out of these characteristics are to taking small steps at a time.Smile. At your colleagues or classmates.Have small conversations while your in a group.Try to maintain eye contact. Look between their eyes , it looks like you having eye contact with them.Don't overthink. This makes us lead to questions like what if… and once you get there you will back off.Believe in yourself. Don't let others make u think otherwise.I am not saying these will change you completely within a day. You need to be persistent and eventually you will see the difference.
Having a hard time socializing? What is wrong with me?
You have the exact same **** going on as me! I got no idea what it is!! I dont think its social anxiety..but it does appear to be PART of it. I'd like someone to give a good answer to this question too!! Every single detail you said is exactly what i've been going through! Hope we get a good answer