How can I motivate my child to go to school?
I have found that when a child truly hates school, there is an underlying reason. Your job is to find out what is the issue. Ask him to write down 10 things that he hates about attending school. Then ask him to number the things from bad to worst. If he balks at this, assure your son that you are on his side and that you can't fix problems if you don't know what they are. Tell him that you will help him to work out the problems. Some areas for you to explore: bullying, targeting (my own term for when a teacher or other adult decides that your child is the object of their spleen), learning disability, visual disability, inept teaching, school bus issues (driver and/or students), boredom (material not challenging enough, may need gifted program), frustration (many sources incl. disruptive classroom so that students cannot learn due to others, etc.), physical or mental abuse. All of the above need your intervention. Bullying, for example is illegal in many places. Targeting, if it is happening, needs to be addressed immediately, before your child ends up with an undeserved reputation (as the school jerk or "troublemaker", etc.). Helping your child now will enable him to move forward in a positive manner, establishing a bond of trust instead of the helplessness that he now feels. It is very easy for a parent or administrator to use the "work it out" excuse. The latter is a form of denial and laziness. You can intervene without being a "helicopter" parent. If you do not get satisfaction from school officials, you can go to the school board or chancellor of education. Fight for your child-the school won't. In closing, I'd like to commend your approach in addressing this problem. Pro-active consideration is best. Good luck!
How can I motivate my boyfriend to go back to school, or at least plan something for his life?
I have the same problem and my heart goes out to you! Unlike you though, I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and 2 months. He will be 20 in July and he couldn't graduate high school because he failed 2 classes. Well, after almost 2 years, he finally buckled down and got his GED. He was also not planning on going to college, so he settled for a factory job for a year. I had the same problem with how I saw my boyfriend, just as you do. He has TONS of great qualities, but since he has no plans, it makes you see him in a different light. Now that my boyfriend has his GED and has learned that factory jobs are basically going to get him NOWHERE, he has finally applied to a community college and may be attending this fall. My advice to you is that you just have to wait it out. I did the whole "what are you doing with your life?" speech about 10 times. It won't sink in until HE realizes that he NEEDS to do something with his life. I also think it's because guys mature more slowly than girls. At 20, girls are ready to settle down, but guys are still trying to get it together. It finally sounds like my boyfriend is trying to get his life together. Let me warn you though, it can be really challenging to wait it out. Sometimes you just feel like leaving and giving up. But if you really love him, its worth it! Good luck!
What can I do to motivate my 23 year old son to get a job?
I'd say it's time for tough love. Give him six weeks to find work or move out...and mean it. You are teaching him how to treat you (and in this case, take advantage of you). If you don't provide him the safety net of a roof over his head, he will have to get a job and be productive. It may hurt, but you are hurting him MORE in the long run by supporting his laziness. He will never amount to anything if you keep handing him everything he needs. We only get better and stronger through adversity! In this case, his adversity is the need to get a job...be the great parent you can be by making him accountable for himself! If not having a license is an issue, have him get a job that he can work hours where you can help him get to work (if there is no public transportation in your area). Then give him three months to get his license, then a few months to save for a car, etc. It's all about baby steps here...but if you hold him accountable and are very serious about this, it WILL WORK! Hang in there...and good luck to you!
How do i motivate my boyfriend to go to college.?
i have been with my boyfriend for quite a while i am at the point where i need to know where we are going. i am in my second year of college and am going to school to be a dental hygienist. i believe college and education is essential to a good life and being successful financially. i would really love for my boy friend to feel the same way, unfortunately he does not. He works full time and doesn't make much money , how ever he refuses to go to college, he said he hates school and he doesn't want to do it. To me this is a huge problem, i know he is smart and has a lot of potential but he is selling him self short. So how do i motivate him to go to college and be a success, and even more important how do i help him find the desire to go to school. finally if he decides its not for him do i stay with him or leave him?
My brother is skipping school and failing. How do I motivate him so he can graduate?
tell him you are his sister and you want the best for him. you have to tell him words, that will inspire him and make him change his mind.. tell him that his future depends on his eduation... and if he want to make lots of money, he have to further his education and go to college.. because a college graduate makes 10 time more than a high school graduate...and if he dont graduate from high school, then his life wouldn't be worth nothing.. Just try to tell him things that will really scare him.. Tell him, his parents and you wont always be around to support him fananically when he gets older..so it's up to him to be independent and take his education..and find him self a great good. Tell him if he cut classes, and follow his friends, that he would never succeed in life..his friends them wont put him no where in life either.. And remind him..that high school only comes once in a life time.. if he screw up, he can never get that chance again...But after getting his high school diploma, he can do whatever he wants... good luck.. i hope your brother starts going to school.. because i know how important is to every one future.