Why don’t people with BPD want to get better?
I WOULD DO ANYTHING ON THE PLANET TO GET BETTER, AND NOT BE ME!! Living a life with BPD is challenging at best. Nothing is what it seems and second guessing everything you do SUCKS! I have tried to get better. I’ve done therapy, I take medication, I’ve learned to respond and not react but, having the emotional skin, of a 3rd degree burn victim is hard. Trusting other humans is difficult and when you do think you trust someone, they end up taking a knife, and stabbing you in the heart, then taking it out, and stick it in your back, and in some extreme cases, removing it and shoving it directly up your ass. People with BPD, are broken in nature. That makes us vulnerable to the predators of the jungle. I AM SICK TO DEATH OF BEING A TARGET FOR THE NARCISSISTIC AND SOCIALLY DISTURBED CLUSTER B PERSONALITY DISORDERED HUMANS. It sucks to be clumped in together with these monsters, because I came damaged.So, while it may appear that we don’t want to get better, for me, it’s simply not true. I’ve tried. There is no cure. I do the best I can with what I have to work with. I don’t have the money to go to therapy everyday and be talked off the ledge. I just strap on a seatbelt and try and enjoy the ride. Sometimes it’s smoothe and easy, and sometimes, it’s an old beat up wooden roller coaster, that rattles your brain, and should have been retired years ago but, we get on it anyway because it use to be fun.Maybe the people that don’t want to get better, don’t know they are disturbed. Nobody would choose this life. NOBODY
What does it mean if I don't want to get better?
That depends on what you don’t want to get better from. Is it an illness? Depression? If it is an illness then I would imagine by your question that perhaps you have battled for long enough and simply want to give up or perhaps the treatment options are nil. Or therevcould be other reasons as well. If it is something like depression, then the same answer may apply. Personally I suffer from depression (and am not in good health) and over the past couple of years I felt that it was just what it was and going to remain with me forever. I sort of gave up. Well not sort of, I actually did. I ate myself silly last winter and gained 30lbs by stuffing my face with at the time was yummy food. Right now, i am starting to fight for my happiness again by listening to and reading inspirational stuff. I know stuffing my face was definitely not the right approach. Also I know most of what these self help gurus are saying but there are just some days I just dont even feel like trying which is somewhat frightening. The fear actually makes me want to keep fighting. Not sure if this helps. I hope some of it did.
Why do I not want to get better from being depressed?
It’s normal. Many - trust me when I say many - have the same issue.And that’s for several reasons.It could be because you’re afraid of change without realizing it. You know that it won’t be easy to just ‘get over’ depression, it’s a long journey and it scares the shit out of you, therefore, you don’t want to change it.It could be because being depressed is ‘normal’. It’s what’s comfortable now, it’s not the best thing to be comfortable with but you can’t control it. You find depression to be soothing. It makes you feel safe. As weird as it sounds, it is possible.And there’s always this fear or unknownness. How does it feel not to be depressed? What if you didn’t like it? What if it was worse? What if this and what if that.So, don’t worry about not wanting to get better, that’s a part of depression - as well as many other mental illnesses.
What can I do to make these boots look better?
I personally like them the way they are, they are really nice boots, but my suggestion would be getting them customized, there are stores who get custom fabrics, you pick any of your choice, and they will be sewed into the boots, or if your just looking to change the laces, you can buy all sorts of laces on ebay, amazon etc, best of luck :)
If teachers want more money, why don't they just find a better job?
When I got my MA in history I spent a post degree professional year substitute teaching that lasted two months before I decided to go back to nursing for better pay and working conditions. Any moron like Larry above can claim it is "easy to hang with five year olds," but hanging with kids and persuading twenty of them that they need to learn multiplication are two entirely different things. I found myself trying to interest ninth graders in the importance of Vicksburg, but all they are interested in at that age is each other. By the time I gave it up I had come to the conclusion that ER nursing was easier, so Larry can bite my masters thesis. Yes, many of our teachers make no impact on us, but the good ones enrich our lives and show us the way we want to live our lives. How much is that worth? As for the comment that teachers only work nine months a year, they take refresher and upgrader courses and make lesson plans during their summers, which leaves maybe a month of well earned rest. Maybe. Teachers spend most of their careers looking for an eager student among the swine they cast their pearls in front of. They are worth twice what we pay them, and more.
I want to become a better whistler ,but I'm not good at it even when I practice. How do I get better?
Hi, you can find whistling advice from the experts at--http://www.ehow.com/how_4839_whistle.html Whistling - 1) Purse your lips, keep them a bit tight to ensure your O shape stays constant. 2) Firm your tongue, and curl it slightly upward so that it is on the brink of touching your lips but doesn't reach that far. 3) Suspend your tongue almost mid-mouth. 4) Suck in or blow out slowly to produce a noise. 5) For different notes, move your tongue either up or down in your mouth and you get a new note! good luck!
The bible says it is better not to marry?
It is better not to marry. But if you must have sex, then get married. It's better to be married than burn forever in hell. It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. -- 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 For I would that all men were even as I myself.... I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. -- 1 Corinthians 7:7-9 Matthew 19:10 His disciples said to him, "If that is the relationship of a man with his wife, it's not worth getting married!" If you're not already married, don't get married. If you have a wife, don't have sex with her. There's not enough time since Jesus is coming soon. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. -- 1 Corinthians 7:27 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remains, that both they that have wives be as though they had none. -- 1 Corinthians 7:29 If this is true then why do so many people get married? It seems like the bible warns you that if you marry you will have serious temptations of the flesh thus why a lot of people cheat. So maybe Jesus and Paul in the bible was warning mankind about how stressful a relationship can be and distract you from the lord's work for you because you will be too busy catering to "needs" of your spouse. how do you feel about this? Being single is looking better.
What does it mean if I don't want to feel better from my depression/anxiety?
Depression is tough. It is so, so tough. It is a battle I fight every single day and sometimes I’m afraid I won’t win.As some other people have said, sometimes I purposefully let myself get worse to see if people actually do care or if they’re just afraid of the label “suicide.” I’ve realized quickly that they do, in fact, care. And they care a LOT.When it comes to getting better and whether or not I want to, it depends for me. Trying to get better is difficult, and it’s a fight. Just letting the depression get worse is easy, you don’t have to do anything, but it leaves so many awful side effects.I want you to know that people love and care about you, so so much. They want you to get better. And though you might not want to get better, at least try for them, the ones who love you.