There was someone in high school whom I met, and my perception of them completely changed during the course of a year. Why? I fell in love with him.In fact, when I first met him, I thought he was average, and in fact, quite unattractive. His hair was short and pin straight, he was also overweight. He was just a friend, even though he was one of my unattractive friends. Things changed via his character. We grew close and at a certain point I knew him well: his idiosyncrasies, his general demeanor, his softer side and I fell in love with it. Of course, this took a whole year, but we ended up dating afterwards for another year and a half. By the time we were dating, I didn't think he was ugly at all. My perception of him was that of a mother's of a child. No matter how ugly your baby really is, its beatiful in your eyes because it is your baby. In sense, it was like so. He was extremely handsome to me. His hair was cute and his weight always made good protection. In a way it was also and indicator of his stability. Nontheless, he looked very, very attractive to me. He was beautiful.I'm not quite sure why this happens, but it shows how character plays a big role in how you see someone, even if its just the exterior.DO NOT confuse this with an instant where you think someone looks cute, and once you get to know them, they turn you off because their charatcer made them not-so-attractive. Although it is similar, it is not as extreme when you fall in love with someone. When you love someone, your feelings overpower those of physical attractiveness. It is durasric, but amazing.
Part of what defines them as gay is finding women unattractive. If someone is uncertain about whether their gay or not a simple question is do you like women? If yes they are not gay. I personally do like girls so I am not gay but I did wrestle with that until I looked at that simple question. My thought is gay men like guys not anything feminine. So just because someone crossdresser does not mean he's gay. The second part of your question is what don't they like in women? I think it is their feminine side. BTW I love that about women:) Hope this helps
Girls do you find guys who like to drink unattractive?
It doesn't matter. I was in a serious relationship with a guy who was so against drinking, he said he wouldn't kiss me if i drunk alcohol, and he would check dessert labels in case there was alcohol context. It drove me insane when he would go with me to a party and glare at people who drank alcohol and then complain in my ear.. just annoyed me >_<" This guy i wasn't serious with wanted to drink more than he wanted to see me and would often say he was drinking on the weekend and couldn't spend it with me O_o;; he worries me. I think he drinks like 2-3 times a week. I didn't like how he would prefer alcohol to me. Be yourself and someone will like you for who you are. Don't change for anyone (unless its something like trust issues etc) cuz I regret letting my ex get to me and make me not drink .
Women are far more attracted to personality. If someone can make me laugh and they’re a genuinely good person, I can end up finding just about anyone attractive! Haha.However there’s one thing for me personally about a guy who is quite overweight and that’s the worry that he’s not taking care of himself. No woman wants to date and get serious about someone only to have them drop dead from a heartattack (this happened recently in my friendship circle, only the guy was married with two baby girls (under 3yrs old) a wife and was only in his mid 30s).I love being active and I eat pretty well just because it’s how I like to eat. If someone was diametrically opposed to my lifestyle then really, that’s going to put a strain on things too. Having really different diets and things you like doing in your spare time, even though seemingly small things, can be a source of friction that’s hard to overcome.But differences aside, when you care about someone you want to see them caring about themselves and see them demonstrate a healthy level of self respect.Caring about their health/weight absolutely falls under that category.
How do you get over feeling unattractive?
I feel very unattractive. I am 6’3”, broad shouldered, and bald. Most people are mystified by this since, apparently, they assume that everyone thinks the same and if some people think being big and bald is attractive, you’d have to be insane to have a dissenting opinion. My feelings about my appearance are rooted in gender issues. It’s a little bit difficult to explain. I’m not gay and my dislike of my gender is not rooted in what turns me on. However, I compare myself to females, not males, and so I feel ugly in the same way a very tall, big, bald girl would feel. Remarks about how I look like an ex-football player or about how I make some girl feel small and protected make me feel absolutely horrible, but there is no way around them. Not only that, but people assume I’d love being seen as some big guy. I don’t date and every day I think about how unattractive I am and how I can’t fix it. When I have talked to anyone (granted, without mentioning the gender issue), people either presume I’m too stupid to know some girls like big bald guys or encourage me to work out and “take advantage” of my build. This makes me feel even worse because I don’t want to “encourage” anyone to see me as overly masculine. I don’t crossdress and have no desire to do any surgery or anything, because I would obviously look ridiculous trying to pass as female. I know there is little I can with myself…I just don’t know how to deal with this. I feel so angry that I have been given the exact opposite of what I want, and I’m even angrier that I can’t get anyone to even understand me.
Like they couldn’t care less that they are girls. Unless there’s a need for interaction, those girls may as well be invisible; or worse, they go out of their way to avoid them because those girls are vomit-worthy. In other words, similar to the way girls act around guys they think are unattractive. However, ladies, there is still hope; the following two scenarios might cause guys to act differently:Beer GogglesAnd ButterFaceWARNING: Do not have sex with a drunk man. Having sex with a drunk man is rape. Your chances of being prosecuted are 0%, but morally you are still a rapist. I’m not an attorney. The preceding should not be construed as legal advice.
Socially inept people of both sexes tend to misread social cues. They mistake politeness for friendliness and friendliness for romantic attraction. So you answer his query about the time of day and he thinks you want to marry him. This same inability to read the cues and respond appropriately is what makes you label these people as “unattractive”.There is not much you can do about their personal problems. You just need to set firm boundaries. If you suspect a man is attracted to you, and you are not interested, do not go for coffee with him or prolong a conversation. Be polite, but be too busy to spare the time.Be sure, of course, that you are not being flirtatious with these men. Some women do this without realising what they are doing. It is unfair to send mixed signals. Around vulnerable men, you need to be businesslike and professional.
Do girls find me unattractive?
What matters most about being happy and finding the right girl is believing in yourself. Everybody has good qualities, and being built a certain way, having certain hobbies, or being outgoing or introverted aren't truly "good" or "bad." Everybody has strengths, including you. What are you good at? What do you enjoy? What do you like about yourself? Go from there. That doesn't mean you can't work out, learn to meet more people, or expand your interests, but do those things for YOU, not to get accepted by other people. People will see you for the person you are, at least the people you would want to associate with. This may sound cliche, but if a girl, or anyone for that matter, wants you to change the core of who you are to please themselves, then that person isn't a true friend anyway. That doesn't mean they won't help you grow or suggest improvements. And virginity in a guy is not unattractive to most girls. There are lots of sweet girls out there that will accept someone for who they are, provided they have a little self esteem and have a genuine desire to expand themselves and treat others with respect. Mainly, don't down yourself. Start noticing what you have going for you, and build from there. Everybody is lovable and has good qualities.
These answers are mostly BS and I will tell you why. Most of these answers say beauty, good looks are subjective. The person setting you up thought the girl was attractive in their eyes. This happened to me, a girl at work wanted to set me up, I said no thank you multiple times. Then on day at work she pointed the guy out to me that she wanted to set me up with. The girl was close to 300 pounds. I am 225 pounds and workout 3–4 times a week. I am not saying I am the greatest. She didn’t directly set me up with the girl but pointing this 300 pound girl out to me as the one she thought would make a good match for me was enough. I thought about it at home after work and it began to irritate me so I basically confronted her on it the next day. I said what would you rate this girl 1 to 10? She said 4. So she knew the girl was unattractive. Plus, this girl had a kid, she was a single mother. So I said, she’s a 4, OK take 1 to 1.5 points off that since she is a single mother so in reality she is a 3 or 2.5. I worked next to this girl for a year after we never spoke again, we were good friends before this. Last words I said to her was OK now I know what you think of me. Strange though since she always seems to flirt with me before this. The main take away here, girls who try setting you up are completely aware of the attractiveness or unattractiveness of the girl they are setting you up with.
Why do I feel so unattractive?
Well, don't change the fact that you're understanding and nice. I usually find confidence attractive in a guy, and if he's driven and passionate about something, and just looks like he knows where he's going and what he wants, that is also a plus. Intelligence is also appealing. Not being a doormat and constantly being at a girl's beck and call is also something that will help you out. Don't always come around when they want you to. Take time for yourself. I hope what I've said can be helpful to you.