Marrying an older man?
At 18 I married a 43 year old man. He gave me the world on a silver platter. We had 3 sons. No one could tell me it would not work out because I would not listen. 11 years later, the marriage ended not because we hated each other but because the age difference finally caught up with us, more on my part than his. He did not want a divorce. I was just too young at 18 to have married a man 25 years older than me and he should have known that. I had a lot of growing up to do and very little life experiences compared to him. If I was older, maybe the marriage would have lasted. He is now deceased from cancer and I really do miss him. This is something you will have to figure out by taking all factors into consideration. Think about where you will be in 10 years, will you want children but he not due to his age? Will you be okay with him being home a lot more once he retires? What happens if he becomes sick? Will you be able to deal with it by caring for him? My step-daughter was 2 years older than I, that DID cause a lot of conflict. Good luck and be happy o matter what you decide. Mary in Camden, MI.
Can I marry a man who is 17 years older than me?
Well...he's only 9 years younger than my dad but he loves me, and he can give me happiness, he has a good character however, my parents can't accept this what can i do??
Does a Married Man Like me?
This might sound weird/messed up but I'm going to say everything honestly. I don't have interest in this guy except as a friend of course because I am not a home wrecker and a cheating man is not something I exactly fancy. So this guy I work with is about 2o years older than me... He's really nice and everything but I don't know if he's trying to hint something to me maybe? This is what he does; - Smiles at me a LOT - Every time he sees me, gives me a hug. - Touches my shoulder/arm a lot. - Always making sure I'm healthy/alright(I'm pretty sure that's just caring) - Whenever I joke around saying "you came to visit me?" [when he's at the job when he's not working) he says "No, you were just a bonus." - Always complimenting my eyes, and saying I'm cute when I blush/embarrassed... - When we talk, most of the times he's EXTREMELY close to me. See, I don't mind the hugs and everything cus I love hugs... but I just don't need to be in the middle of something bad like this. :/ And like I said, I only like him as a friend and I am not a home wrecker. What are your thoughts and opinions on this? Do you think he's trying to hint maybe he has an interest me? Is he just playing around? Or what? He never does this to any other girl at work and he seems to pop out of no where and visit me which I don't mind but it makes me wonder how that happens... No, I haven't asked him if he likes me because that would be REALLY awkward... and... I wouldn't feel comfortable. So yes, answer away if you don't mind! (:
Can I marry a man 11 years older than me?
My parents had a 16 year age gap. My father was the older party, so it was easier for outsiders to handle than if a man were to date an older woman, though they still got more-than-occasional comments from strangers. People sometimes thought mom was his daughter. People sometimes thought he was a predator. People sometimes thought she was a gold-digger. People thought a hell of a lot, and they were more than happy to dump that on my parents. If either of you are the kinds of people to be hurt by the words of strangers (or even--possibly--family members), then don't do this.Thankfully, my parents taught me one of the greatest lessons in life that they could have: what other people think doesn't really matter. They didn't even acknowledge it, not even to laugh it off. The chatter was so much a non-issue that I didn't realize until I was a teenager that their age gap was unusual.In addition to the constant chatter of others, they did have a few legitimate difficulties based on that age gap. Her life experiences were more limited than his, and she resented this quite a bit as they aged. It caused friction, and friction lead to fights. She had different tastes than his and a different expectation of their roles as husband/wife than he did. When my father died at 67, my mom was only 51--which was incredibly hard for her and for us, as kids. I was 21, and that still seems far too young to lose your parent.That said... Dad's age gave him a more settled and peaceful view of life. He knew who he was, and he had tremendous wisdom to share. He was patient, far more so than a younger parent (and I had a younger parent to compare him to!). If he had not lost his job (long story, for another post), he would have been at an ideal place in his career to provide tremendous financial stability.So... the age gap itself presents difficulties... but what relationship doesn't? If the age gap is your ONLY relationship difficulty, then you're in a much better position than most people.But if you want to see a real example, the President of France seems pretty darned happy with his choice. :)
Would you marry a man 15 years older than you?
I'm 22 and I wouldn't date a man 15 years older than me because I want a man that I can grow with and learn with and experience things with. I feel that a man that much older than me has already experienced things that I haven't...a lot of which I would like to experience as a couple.
Will you marry a woman who is older than you?
I think I’m qualified to answer this question as i’m married to a woman who’s substantially older than I. We worked in the same team at office for six months, then we became friends, then she got another job, we remained in touch. Long story cut short, We’ve been married for almost a year now. Infact, We have our first wedding anniversary coming up on 10th of this month. I don’t see any reason not to marry someone whom you love because she’s older to you?If that’s the case then why do women marry guys who’s older to them? In some cases, age difference is huge. It all depends on how you feel about this person and whether or not you see this person as someone you would like to spend rest of your life with.In India, it is still considered a bad decision. I mean i had to fight with everyone in my family, friends and relatives. But I guess, If you make a promise to her that you will not leave her alone, then you keep it.Age is just a number.
How do women who have married much older men (>10 years) feel and think about their lives and husbands? Do they regret the marriage or wish they had married a younger man? Why did they select the older man?
I have been married to my husband who is 22 years my senior for 11 years. We have been together for 13 years. We have 2 kids and couldn't be happier. We have had our ups and downs of course, (same as any other married couple.), but we are doing just fine. I love him, and he loves me. I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. He and I have a great friendship, and we share the same sense of humour. He is my lover, AND my best friend in life. We have the same interests and enjoy the same activities. He is also very handsome. When we met, neither of us knew each others ages. We just were attracted to each other. We really didn't think about how old one another were, We just connected. By the time we realized, it was already set. We were meant to be, and still are. We chose to be with each other because we fell in love. I also didn't 'select him', the universe selected us for each other. You can't choose whom you fall in love with, so asking how I 'selected him', seems a bit odd.I will NEVER regret being with my husband. He is my lover, my best friend and my angel. We created life together twice! I can't see how an age difference can change how people view marriage. How is this different than any other married couple? We are better! We have lasted far longer than most of our friends who have no age difference what-so-ever. Most of our friends have divorced in a couple of years. I have every reason to believe that my husband and I will be together until 'death do us part'. I don't think age is a factor in that. We are meant to be!!! Isn't that how everyone wants their relationship? The only people who seem to have an issue are people not in a relationship of their own and have too much time on their hands, or people who are very unhappy in their own relationships. The fact that anyone would care so much about my life, or the age difference in my marriage, tells me that their life is far too screwed up. I will take my life over their dysfunction, thanks lol.