What do you think of quiet people?
Quiet people are often brilliant people. ☺ They are usually also deep thinkers. Sometimes they can be perceived as stand-offish but that is not their intent. They are simply more introverted and most of their dialogue happens internally rather than externally. They often think before responding, because when they don't think about their responses and instead speak on impulse, they tend not to say things the way they would have preferred to say them.If you are dealing with a quiet person, please don't take their quietness or privacy personally. You will find that when they do talk about things, it’s more on a deeper level and less small talk. Its best not to take that personally either. It's not that they don't enjoy conversation with you, it's just that small talk does not come easily to them. In fact it can be draining - not you, the small talk. This is often the case too when talking on the phone. You may need to be the ‘driver’ on phone conversations, especially longer ones.Find intriguing, thoughtful discussions to have with the ‘quiet’ person, and you will find a wonderful conversation partner!Peace. ☮Patrick
Do u think quiet people are snobs?
I was always a quiet person all through school and college. I wasn't a snob, honestly. I was extremely shy. I was always very self conscious of myself and only talked in my classes if it was about the subject or once I got to know some of the other classmates. I think I was always worried about being rejected if I would talk to someone that I had no common grounds to talk to. It took me a long time to get over being quiet and now I am anything but. But no I would say no Most quiet people are not snobs they probably are just shy.
Why do people think quiet people are arrogant?
You don't know what is going on in the head of someone who doesn’t talk much, and some people just assume the negative.Although I talk a lot with those I know well—often way too much—I am shy with those I don’t know. When I was a teenager, my friends would say, “before I knew you, I thought you were really stuck up.” I was very lacking in self-confidence, so that really surprised me. However, I soon realised that they noticed that I didn’t easily talk to people I didn't know unless another person started the conversation.The only logical explanation, to them, was that I considered myself better than others. I have also been told that people see me as being intelligent. I suppose if intelligent people are not saying much, it could be assumed that it’s because they are looking down on everyone else. I guess the same applies to a quiet person who is beautiful, or wealthy, or has other qualities that could possibly make them feel superior.Now that I am older, I am better at small talk. I am still surprised when people describe me as confident and self-possessed, because I don't feel that way at all. Perhaps those who don't know me still think I am ‘stuck up.’People often fear or dislike what they don’t understand.
Why do many people think that quiet people are dangerous?
There’s an element of the unknown there.We quiet people are mysterious — and not always in a good way.Think of it like this — we’ll use school as an example — you know your classmates or schoolmates, generally, on some level. Maybe you don’t know them well, maybe you’ve never even had direct contact with them — but you’ve heard them talk, pitch in during class, etc. and watched them interact with other people.You receive subconscious cues from them that tip you off to their behavior based on these interactions. This is so, if you ever do have to interact with them, you have half an idea of how they might respond to certain things based on how you’ve seen them interact with and talk to others.Quiet people, we don’t really like to interact with people we don’t know. Ergo, you rarely see us interacting with or really talking to anyone else (more on that below) so your brain can’t pick up on the cues it would be getting based on watching our interactions with others. This creates a deep, instinctive wariness, because you literally don’t know anything about us, subconsciously or otherwise.This fear may in some cases be reinforced by the odd person you do see us with. Now, when I say “odd” I don’t just mean “occasional” — I mean weird. Us quiet people are notoriously labelled (not often falsely) as oddballs or outcasts, and to be fair that’s usually true. But it is not only this, but the fact we are good listeners who are sometimes less prejudiced than others towards the strange and misunderstood that sets up a pretty bad reputation.If you seen me, the lone, quiet kid, hanging out an having an apparent chat with the most well-known “creeper kid” in school, you would probably start making bad assumptions about me as a person. This effect is amplified by the fact your brain has nothing else up to that point to really base my behavior on. You don’t know I am understanding as a person. You don’t know I am being kind to this kid, who’s really just misunderstood. You don’t know any of that, so you’re left with not much option but to assume the worst of it.It’s human nature to fear the unknown. I myself do fear it. We all do. Quiet people are an unknown — so people often instinctively fear us.
Why do some people think that quiet people are stuck up?
I had this problem all through high school. People think that the quiet ones are stuck up because they have no idea what quiet people are thinking, and their natural paranoia leads them to believe that quiet people may possibly be thinking bad thoughts about them, may be noticing their flaws and thinking that the others are too beneath them to say anything. You may have a calm assured look on your face, even if you don't feel like it inside. You might be looking that way to mask the fact that actually you are quite unsure. This body language is the same as the body language that stuck up people sometimes use.
Why do people think quiet people are weak and won't fight back?
well they think if they're not talking back, they won't fight back or can't stand up for themselves. I disagree with this because it is a way of being a Quaker, someone who is against any type of war. Just because they are quiet, doesn't mean a lot isn't happening around them. They could be going through unpleasant times or something. No one knows. People might think quiet people are weak because loud people usually speak their minds but a quiet person, they think, is shy and afraid to speak their minds. and you know what they say, "it's always the quiet ones..."
So you all think quiet people are boring?
I read in a post someone said "I'm not the quiet boring type'' and someone even said " I don't like quiet people.'' How could that be? Quiet doesn't equal boring. Some people are quiet until you open up to them...c'mon now...
Why do so many people think that someone who is generally quiet has some sort of problem?
What I find is that some of people believe that "the quiet ones are always the ones to look out for" and they say that with the implication that quiet or introverted people are dangerous or plotting something. I don't think it's something that a whole lot of people wholeheartedly believe, but it's just one of those sayings that sounds good when you say it, or they've heard all the time and they just say it jokingly.We do live in a society (I live in America) where the pushy, extroverts, that never shut up get all the attention and therefore seemingly get more opportunities. When applying for jobs, or running for public office, or even participating in schools, sporting events, and Baptist churches, you're expected to have this bubbly talkative personality to succeed, fit in, and enjoy yourself. The quiet, introverted, reserved types often get overlooked, seen as always sad/angry/annoyed when that's not the case at all, or just not feeling the spirit (as in the case of attending a Baptist church).I think people don't take into account that people enjoy things differently and express themselves differently. Sometimes the quiet people are quiet because they are trying to listen to everything and take it all in before they do or say anything so as not to get things wrong. Sometimes quiet people just don't feel the need to holler all the time to make their point. Sometimes quiet enjoyment is their thing and they don't feel the need to lose their voice at a sporting event, or fake speaking in tongues and dancing around getting sweaty at church and would rather just listen to what the pastor has to say and understand his message.People seem to have the notion that if you don't react the same way they do, that something is wrong with you. That's the reason I've come up with. I just say different strokes for different folks.
Why do many people not like quiet people at work?
I think your questions shows a misunderstanding of what's required at work. Work requires mainly these things:1) you do what you're required to do2) you do what you say you will do3) you speak up when you notice some thing is wrongquiet or not, if you fulfil the above, there is lots to like about you.There are people who talk a lot of trash at work too. They don't get anything done and they don't follow through on the tasks that they say they would. Many would dislike them too even if they aren't quiet.Let me relate a story to you. I've a school mate who's now a general in the army. From what I remember about him, he's the type who doesn't really speak up unless he has to. But despite the fact that this guy is considered a "quiet" guy, I believe he got promoted because:1) he gets things done2) he leads with by example, not by his mouth3) when he replies anyone, it is some thing that's absolutely necessary, so he doesn't blurt out stupid stuff like most people4) when he speaks, he focuses on the solution5) when people work with him, they know they can trust him, so they willingly go into the battle field with himSo, I hope you understand that there're quiet people who just avoid responsibility and they think that by "hiding", they can do less. There are people who talk their way through & nothing gets done, no one trusts them and no one wants to work with them.Both of these are people we love to hate at work.