Why should Muslims beat wife\wives with a siwak when Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) hit with bare hands?
Islam is a practical religion. And in real life sometimes it might be needed to beat your wife. This is thought by Allah. I support this. Why and when one can beat his wife, is mentioned by Allah in detail. You have read that.
Muslimah's: Has your husband ever hit you?
No, never. My husband would not dare to touch me. This question should be directed to Arab men – Not to Muslims in general. Men who beat their wives are women themselves. A true man will not take advantage of his strength and hurt his wife. I don’t understand why some men like to take advantage of weaker things. Men should use that strength to protect their wives not use it against them. Peace. Adnan K: I never said Army - I said Air force. Big Difference. Yes I am a surgeon and active duty Military. Is there a problem. Do you think that I can't be in the Military and finish College at the same time? Use your logic child. You are just made of pure hate. I suggest you grow up. Adnan K:You are the exact reason why I refuse to marry an A-rab. I am an adult, you need to respect me as much as you'd like your respect. Once again I'm not in the Army... maybe you can't read. I live in AMERICA - I have the freedom to work with men. Don't go around placing judgment on me because I am a Muslim female. Maybe you are perhaps... jealous? I think so.
Why does the Quran say it's okay for men to hit their wives?
i came across that same thing you are talking about. if your wife does something you don't like, you can chastise her, not sleep together at night, hit her and if she still doesn't listen you can divorce her. according to a friend of mine who is a strict muslim this is what he had to say about Muslim men hitting their wives: Hammad says: yeah and i think this 3 step approach is reasonable ibeating is not like breaking her leg or some thing take a walk in the rain says: yes but what if anger controls the husband's actions and that is the end result Hammad says: its like when ur mother slaps u when u were kid, on some of ur mistakes take a walk in the rain says: that's different parents are allowed to discipline their children but husbands are to treat their wives the same way they treat themselves Hammad says: husban has the same responsibility take a walk in the rain says: and i dont think any husband is going to hit himself Hammad says: on the day of judgment, the husband is answerable for her wife's act take a walk in the rain says: each person is responsible for their own actions no one can answer for their actions one of the circumstances which this can happen under is if he suspects her of adultery. so the husband can hit his wife because he is responsible for what she does. and he has to answer for her actions. i'm not a muslim, but i've started researching Islam and asking different muslims around the world about this same topic. some said they will not hit their wives, while others said yes. what is note worthy too, is that the husband will never hit his wife in front of his children. also some where, i've heard that whatever the husband hits his wife with must not be bigger than the width of his thumb. so i hope this helps.
Are Muslim women really expected to obey their husbands at all times, and what does the Quran say about this?
Not at all.The Quran talks about men have a right over their wives in 4:34Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth.But that doesn't mean the wives are some kind of slave to their husbands. Before that verse, Quran states in 4:19O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.Repeatedly, the Allah asks men to be kind and gentle to their wives. Even offering marriage advice where Allah tells them that even if dislike something in them, there will be good in it from Allah.The Prophet also said in his last sermonO People, it is true that you have certain rights over your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under God's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers. It is your right and they do not make friends with anyone of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchasteIn the end, Allah knows best. I hope this helps.