Why do my parents treat me like a child?
i'll be turning 17 in less then two months, and i personally think that I'm rather mature for my age. but my parents continue to treat me like a kid. the way they talk to me, they always assume I'm going to act a certain way, and getting them to let me do something takes an arm and a leg. my mum is always in a bitchy and bitter mood, and my father treats me like a child. he's impossible to talk to, very narrow minded and whenever we have an argument, whatever i feel doesn't matter. its either his way or no way. he is always right in his mind. when i ask to do something, weather its hang with my friends, go to a movie, concert ect... my mum always responds with we'll see...which in her tongue means I'm not going to give it another thought until you bring it up again, and then i'll just say no. she never gives me a reason as to why i can't do anything. this makes me feel frustrated. i feel trapped and i hate being around them. i want to scream and cry and hit something and hide and run away all at the same time. i don't know what to do.
Why do my parents keep treating me like a child?
Hate to break this to you, but you ARE a child. Everyone is.Your mother gave birth to you and has looked after you ever since. She is your mother and you are her child. Like it or not.She brought you into the world and has helped you become the caring and intelligent man you are today.If you think that ‘breaking her jaw’ is an appropriate action, then maybe you should find somewhere else to go. She doesn’t deserve that.You’re an adult, right? So, maybe you should act like one and remove yourself from a situation where you harm people who love you.Many years from now, you’ll look back on this and realise it wasn’t your parents you were angry at, but until then, find somewhere else to be.This is a situation where you need to think seriously about your life and where you want it to go. Lashing out isn’t an adult way to make progress.Your mother probably misses you when you’re away. She’s trying to make up for the time she’s losing with you. Just tell her that she’s going too far. She can’t fix things if she doesn’t know they’re broken.Don’t get angry, don’t be vindictive. She wants you to be happy and she thinks she’s making a fuss of the person she loves. She thinks she’s making your life better.Just calmly and quietly ask for less fuss. This isn’t rocket science, you want something, she wants something. Find some common ground and agree on the steps that happen next.Don’t threaten, don’t yell. You’re the one who’s changing the situation.My mum still makes a fuss of me, I’m forty seven. Age isn’t going to change the dynamic unless you ask for it to change.I think it’s nice that your biggest worry is a mum who loves you.If only we were all so lucky :)
I'm 21, yet my parents treat me like a child still, constantly asking me my schedule when they never used to?
My parents NEVER asked me my schedule whenever I went out to my friends house, school, or wherever. Ever since I got a job though they constantly ask "What is your schedule today?" or "What time will you be home?" or "How long will you be working today?" Etc... It may seem as if they are concerned about me, but why all the sudden? There were days where I was at the college from sun up til sun down, yet they never asked about that even though the college is a lot further away (45 minutes), compared to my job which is only 10 minutes away from the house. It just annoys me. I feels as if I can't just come and go as I please anymore. I have to explain myself every day, saying: Me: "I'll be home at midnight" Them: "Midnight. Why so late?" Me: "Because there is more to my life than school and work. I enjoy hanging out with people too and having some fun every so often." Like ... Gah it just annoys the daylights out of me how I can't just leave whenever and come home whenever like I used to be able to do prior to my job. If it wasn't for this economy I'd move out, but I don't have the financial means to do this with minimum wage unfortunately. I have to wait until I graduate college, get a better job, and then move.
I'm 21, And My Parents Still Treat Me Like A Child?
My mom has always babied me since i was a child, but as i got older, I thought she would get used to be being older. I still live at home, and work two part time jobs, and cannot afford to move out. I'll be done with college around the time I'm 22/23, so until then, I might have to stay home. However, my mom is constantly talking to me like a child. She keeps asking me if I've ever had sex, which i haven't. I'm a virgin, and don't have a girlfriend or anything. She is always saying stuff like, "when you get older you'll understand,", and keeps cooking stuff for me, and washing the clothes in my room. She keeps constantly trying to get me to go to church with her. Whenever i go somewhere, which i hardly ever do, she wants to know exactly where I'm going and everything. I don't really have any close friends, so i don't have anyone to move in with either. Also, honestly, I'm not the most organized person in the world, and struggle with keeping things together, so I'm not sure how well I would do, even if i had the money to get my own place. But still...
I'm 17 and my parents treat me like a child. What should I do?
Ok, going to give you two perspectives. Mom and Dads and then me Mom was complete over bearing, controlling, powerful, determined and stubborn as a bull. Dad was a Drill Sergeant in the US Army. Nice combination huh? You want to talk about insane parents. They were not insane, in my mind they were, but years later I figured we (all three kids) drove them insane in some sense. I was 18 and I wanted to go out on my first date. Dad said absolutely not, Mom seconded the motion. I wanted to go clubbing, I was responsible, never got in trouble, I was a good teen, yet Mom and Dad always guarded me. I asked them one night, how am I going to show you both that I am responsible as you have taught me how to be if you don't give me the opportunity? I can't make you proud of your upbringing us if you don't allow me to show you I can? After much talk, with respect, I never raised my voice, Mom and Dad both agreed to let me out ONE night. I controlled myself, even if I wanted to not control myself, and I proved to them, they made the right decision in letting me go just a lil bit. I'm a Mom now. I have 6 kids. I am just as protective and probably over bearing, go figure because I love my kids just as much as Mom and Dad loved me. We want to hopefully help our kids out and sometimes we don't do it the best way but it would be far worse if they didn't show any interest in you or cared if you went out or not. Be respectful in requesting time alone. Don't shout or be rude, if you want them to have trust in you, show responsibility in acting like the adult you claim you are. Once you have proven you have adult qualities, it will get easier for them to let you go. Good luck and be NICE :))
My parents are too controlling. I am 20 but they treat me like a child. I have serious rows with them. I still love them but how can I make them realize that I have grown up?
Its a hard question to answer without examples.SHORT ANSWERThe day you have truly become an adult will arrive when you realise that your parents treating you like a child no longer bothers you.LONG ANSWER.If you act like an adult, and you treat your parents like adults, eventually the relationship may become an adult one. First point, if you are living with parents rent free, then they are well within their rights to demand (within reason) that you behave in ways that fit in with their lifestyle for the duration of your tenancy. If you want to be treated as an adult they don't owe you anything now that you're 20, you are their guest. I suggest that its not reasonable to pick and choose when you are treated as a child purely based on your own preferences (i.e. accepting laundry service, dinners and a roof over head, but not giving any say on how you dress or spend your time).If you are financially independent, and live your own life, then its a different situation.If you have serious rows with your parents then either you are they are acting like children. Its more likely to be you acting like a child given the historic relationship. Your acting like a child is likely to reinforce their tendency to treat you like one. This can be a bit of a vicious circle.I suggest that next time they try to "control you", assuming that you don't want to do whatever it is that they are asking of you, simply politely but firmly explain that you will not do the thing that they want. Don't make a deal out of it, and don't justify your position unless explicitly asked to do so by them in an adult manner. If you are asked to explain simply state you are doing as you see fit. If they say they don't like your choices acknowledge that you understand that, without changing your position. If they start shouting at you ask them why they are shouting. Don't shout back.
I'm 17 and my mom treats me like a child,what do I do?
So my mom is very controlling. I'm a responsible person who can maintain 3.8, while taking college classes, whole being in NHS, while being in young democrats, a women empowerment club that help women world wide, a varsity track athlete, while being in the best choir at my school. But my mother is too much for me, she didn't let me get my license because she didn't want me on her insurance but constantly complains about driving to places so sometimes I miss out on important events because she just doesn't want to drive me. And now that summer is coming she doesn't want me to get a job because she'll have to drive me, but she will never give me money so I don't know how that makes sense. I've never dated before and I just had my first kiss not too long ago with a guy I really like. I want to date him but since summer is coming I won't have anyway of getting to see him bc even though we go to the same school I live in the town over.and on the last date I had with him she called me little girl in front of him and I felt so embarrassed. And I get to go out to see my friends maybe once a month if I'm lucky. And I don't know what to do, I've never done anything like drink, sleep around or do drugs, but I'm constantly treated like I've done something bad. And I can't speak up because she'll just shut me down and mock me. It's just getting to me and just a bit too much to handle.
I am almost 30 and my parents still treat me like a child! What to do?
Omg, I am in the exact same situation! I live a little over two hours away with my fiance, and I'm an adult (in mid-twenties as opposed to 30, but close enough ya know!). It frustrates me to no end because I call my parents every day, sometimes twice- and they still complain about me. I go home all the time & put tons of wear & tear on my car, not to mention the gas money that I have to spend going back and forth. My parents NEVER visit me either- I've lived in houses that they never even saw because they refused to visit! My mom cries all the time about it. I have learned to just tell them how it is. Tell them you love them and miss them, but it's your life and you have to do what's right for you. Remind them that they were able to move out and move away from their parents as well, as that really helps for me. It sucks, I know, but you have to let them know how unfair they're treating you. Until you get a little mean with them, they're not going to stop- trust me. I know it's hard because they're your parents, but they WILL get over it and see that you are right and you're an adult who is capable of making her own decisions. Good luck!
Why does my mom keep treating me like a child? I am 43 years old.
There are 2 reasons why your mom is treating you like a child, despite your age.She birth you- when she looks at you, she will forever see…a child.Compared to her, you are a child.Example of 1. My mom works at the same job as me. Every morning she makes me coffee and delivers it to my desk (so I don’t get a coffee head ache because I was too busy to get my own). If she thinks I skipped breakfast, she will bring me breakfast too. If I’m at work sick then (oh my) then I get an entire care package (orange juice, soup, everything)! She gets mad on my behalf when management overlooks me. She brags ridiculously when I get promoted or praised. I am 5 years old in her mind at our workplace, and everyone is jealous of me.Example 2. I’m 30. I take karate. One of the head instructors is 70-something. My studio host people from young teens-to seniors.We were taking a whole studio picture, and the head instructor (mr. 70 something) yells, “all the kids, get on the floor to the front”. Immediately all the teenagers (basically high school and college kids ) jump on the ground. I didn’t think to move. He prods me, and goes, “I said all the kids on the floor!”I laughed and jumped on the floor. To him, anyone under 35 was a child. I did not take it personal.My mother, and older individuals will always treat me like a child, because they are my mom, and are much older than meThe nice thing about being an adult is that I get to CHOOSE how much I am around anyone who treats me like a child. I can visit my mother OR I can call her on the phone. If i’m busy at work, I can ask her not to disturb me. I can quit my studio, or choose only to practice under younger instructors. The nice thing about being an adult, who is sometimes treated like a child, is that you are an adult, and are only “being treated like a child.” If you don’t like it, remove yourself.