The first step is recognizing behaviors you consider to be immature. Discern replacement behaviors. Instead of asking stupid questions, ask smart questions. Instead of being a ‘troll’, take people seriously. Many people will take advantage of your seriousness to troll you in return; unfortunate, but true. Modern society, especially in US Teens, is oriented heavily around trolling one another, acting as if it is the highest form of humor. In truth, it’s pretty stupid.Next step? Find people who have the behaviors you want to have. Mirror them. It is a natural instinct to copy the social behaviors of the people we surround ourselves with. If you want to change your behaviors, find the kind of people that you want to be like.
What do you want to be matured about ? It depends on how much knowledge you have about the topic you want to mature in. The more you study a subject, the more mature you become.Maturity comes once you have an abundance of knowledge about the topic, life experience and know how to make the right choices in life.So gather as many experiences as possible, make mistakes, learn from them, learn from other peoples mistakes and one day you will realize that you are a lot matured than most people.As the saying goes“ Good decisions come from experience and experience comes from bad decisions ”
The town in which my parents first rented a house, after a move of 200 miles, just happened to use the 'calendar year of birth' rule to determine who started kindergarten, when this factoid applied to me.We would move through several other school districts over my years of education. In many of those locations, the age cut-off to start school would be months earlier, say August 31st, and even the end of July.I was born mid-November. As a result, I spent most of my entire formal education experience months, to over a year younger, chronologically, than at least half of my classmates.In the primary grades, when a separate grade for the measure "deportment" could be graded, I sucked. This was the "C" that interrupted the straight "A's" for the hard-skills, just above.Be careful of labels. ADD could simply be the slightest skew off a mythical 'average range' for the kids in the same grade.If my deportment had been given too much importance, the powers in charge might have concluded that being left back could have corrected things. But in truth, I only acted out when academically bored. If left back, I would likely have dropped out. I was not left back and I graduated in the top percentiles.The education system places an overwhelming emphasis on conformity, and prefers labeling: "abnormal", the outlying spectrum of developmental progress.You will need to find your own solution. Offering this anecdote merely to share, I found my solution, in the school setting, in a purposeful withdrawal, and detachment of 'personal status within a group' from the business of completing 'education'.This is really tough stuff. Your hormones are driving you to identify and maximize social status within your peer group - it is part of the package that includes separating from your parents. Yet social mores dictate behaviors to which your organic urges and only partially-developed pre-frontal cortex find hard to conform.I got through it by compartmentalizing the 'education-embedded self', as distinct from the real me, whatever that was. In a sense, this is what you may need to do. In the education setting, you may need to be, not so much in the present, but, to be the person sitting back a few steps, and delayed by a few ticks of the clock, watching yourself in the world. The few clicks of delay allow you to observe as stuff unfolds, without immediate reaction, and may give you time for better choices for yourself.
I'm going to start from the assumption that you are either a student in college or University, or that you are a HS graduate, unemployed or working a menial minimum wage job part time. If this assumption is wrong, please disregard my answer.TL;DR: You're being called immature because you are; the answer is to become more mature, not just act that way.Long version:There are basically three things that will make you more mature in the eyes of your peers (they also work for your elders).Demonstrated Work Ethic - If you are in school, make sure you are taking the maximum allowed number of credits (I.e. Take 7 classes for 21 units rather than 4 classes for 12) and that within those classes you have a strong, rigorous program that interests you, advances your goals, and still provides enjoyment in learning. Study and complete your work regularly and on time. No cram sessions - keep ahead of yourself. If you are not in school, focus on working diligently any time you are at work. Arrive on time; work hard; seek opportunities to learn new skills on the job.Accept the Facts - that other people exist, that they are different from you,that you are who you are, that the world is unfair and that occurrences tend generally to go against you as an individual. And stop complaining about these things. Only talk about them if you are describing the actions you are taking (present or past tense only) to change things.Read. - A major newspaper or news magazine, and the classics.These strategies will make you more mature, and then it won't matter to you if you appear to be so.
“What causes immaturity in adults”?My short answer will be “Lack of personal leadership skills”. A Skill is something that can be learned. I would define personal leadership as “self-mastery” or for most adults, emotional intelligence (EQ) which is more important than one's intelligence (IQ) in attaining success in their lives and careers. Emotional intelligence is also a discrete and important part of personality -- but it is far from everything in a person's personality. An individual's personality is made up of many abilities and many desirable qualities whereas emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, and those of the people around you. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence know what they're feeling, what their emotions mean, and how these emotions can affect other people. EQ chiefs your personal conduct towards life and the way you treat pivotal people in your life. It is the ability to deal with one's own negative emotions, the ability to stay calm under severe pressure, the ability to stay proactive, not reactive in the face of a difficult situation, the ability to be assertive and express difficult emotions when necessary and perhaps also the ability to express intimate emotions in close, personal relationships. Functioning without emotional intelligence would be highly problematic because Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that we need to develop. It affects how we manage behaviour, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.It is often said that the lack of empathy ( part of EQ) is the most crucial lack in adulthood. As to “why” the immaturity in adults, I think it is because of the failure in our education programs. We tend to prepare our children only for careers or competencies in a certain field but lack to prepare them to “live” in the real world where everything mentioned above is crucial. However, it is never too late at acquire and improve EQ in adults. That’s my five cents!
I can't say much about this since I'm only 21 but I think that as long as you are able to function properly in society by working and/or doing well in school, you should be fine. If you are having a hard time maintaining relationships, that is another subject and doesn't really have to do with being an adult. Are you immature in the sense that you do childish things? Or do you think you're immature because you aren't as good at socializing with people?If you aren't doing anything annoying, then you don't have a problem. 23 years old doesn't mean you have to become philosophical and know how to handle every situation. From your description, your biggest problems are the people you are hanging out with you. Why are they mocking you? This is not how they should treat you.I don't know about you but, I am in no hurry to become what people think I should be. I am mature in the sense that I am a hardworker, study well, and I am compassionate and open minded. Despite this, I don't take things as serious as an "adult" would and I don't always provide insightful conversation about the meaning of life- what ever that means.I suggest you find some new friends who appreciate your personality. There is no correct way to act like an adult- just make sure you take care of your responsibilities. I think I won't feel like an adult until I'm 30 years old and I have no problem with that. What is an adult anyways?